fiance completely clueless???

[silverbutterfly228 0]

So my fiance still hasn't receive the rfe in the mail and tomorrow it will be two weeks since they 'sent it' according to the email. So I tell my fiance to call them since it said if you haven't received it in two weeks call the national centre. I had to find the number for him to call and than i sent him an email reminding him that he needs our case number from the noa1 when he calls. He emails me backing saying 'what's a noa1 and where is a case number?' (he's the one from USA)

Anyone else's fiance completely hopeless on knowing this process and you have to do almost everthing?? I'm feeling alone and hopeless and want to know if anyone else is in the same boat with their other half?

[tom&tata 2]

In our case, I am (non USC) is more comfortable doing paperwork because that is what I do at work. Hubby (the USC) involved when it has to be done from the US side. I still remember telling him same thing over and over and it can frustrating at times ... and it sometimes got interesting

But we managed and I am sure you will too ! Good luck and you are not alone

[trey 0]

Get your fiance onto this site and tell him to read, read, read. If he's serious about you, he'll do it.

[Ladylethal 12]

Just be patient with him. I guess women tend to get more nervous over these things. Luis is so calm and collected it amazes me. He did put everything in my hands though, although I have him write down everything and understand what´s going on.

[isleta521 5]

So my fiance still hasn't receive the rfe in the mail and tomorrow it will be two weeks since they 'sent it' according to the email. So I tell my fiance to call them since it said if you haven't received it in two weeks call the national centre. I had to find the number for him to call and than i sent him an email reminding him that he needs our case number from the noa1 when he calls. He emails me backing saying 'what's a noa1 and where is a case number?' (he's the one from USA)

Anyone else's fiance completely hopeless on knowing this process and you have to do almost everthing?? I'm feeling alone and hopeless and want to know if anyone else is in the same boat with their other half?

Im the USC and my baby who does not speak english much has a hard time. This was (at one time a long long time ago) new to me and I hate paperwork!! It sucks but if you want it someone has to do it. Of course he is the one that has to call since he is USC. One more thing just FYI, at this point it is called a receipt number and not a case number until you get to NOA2.

We wish you and your fiance good luck and soon you / him will both be experts at it.

[rebeccajo 14]

LOL....I don't think your situation is all that uncommon. A lot of the posters here are the foreign fiance or spouse.

A little tour around VJ probably would do him some good though.

And calling the misinformation line will probably just frustrate him. I wonder if you can call or e-mail the service center that issued the RFE to tell them you haven't gotten it?

How long does it take for the paper RFE to get to one's hand? That might be the better question...

Edited March 29, 2006 by rebeccajo

[silverbutterfly228 0]

So my fiance still hasn't receive the rfe in the mail and tomorrow it will be two weeks since they 'sent it' according to the email. So I tell my fiance to call them since it said if you haven't received it in two weeks call the national centre. I had to find the number for him to call and than i sent him an email reminding him that he needs our case number from the noa1 when he calls. He emails me backing saying 'what's a noa1 and where is a case number?' (he's the one from USA)

Anyone else's fiance completely hopeless on knowing this process and you have to do almost everthing?? I'm feeling alone and hopeless and want to know if anyone else is in the same boat with their other half?

Im the USC and my baby who does not speak english much has a hard time. This was (at one time a long long time ago) new to me and I hate paperwork!! It sucks but if you want it someone has to do it. Of course he is the one that has to call since he is USC. One more thing just FYI, at this point it is called a receipt number and not a case number until you get to NOA2.

We wish you and your fiance good luck and soon you / him will both be experts at it.

I could understand if someone didn't speak english since that's not their fault. but to me it's lazyness on my fiance's part and i'm at the breaking point. Thanks for the FYI on the case/receipt number. i'll tell him i made a mistake and its called receipt number since i'm clear on that now, but he'll still give me the same response.

[ufkenmill 0]

Why are you marrying this guy if you obviously have no respect for him? I seem to remember you complaining about him in another post somewhere to if I"m not mistaken.

How about being grateful to the fact that you're getting a visa to the US because of him??

So my fiance still hasn't receive the rfe in the mail and tomorrow it will be two weeks since they 'sent it' according to the email. So I tell my fiance to call them since it said if you haven't received it in two weeks call the national centre. I had to find the number for him to call and than i sent him an email reminding him that he needs our case number from the noa1 when he calls. He emails me backing saying 'what's a noa1 and where is a case number?' (he's the one from USA)

Anyone else's fiance completely hopeless on knowing this process and you have to do almost everthing?? I'm feeling alone and hopeless and want to know if anyone else is in the same boat with their other half?

Im the USC and my baby who does not speak english much has a hard time. This was (at one time a long long time ago) new to me and I hate paperwork!! It sucks but if you want it someone has to do it. Of course he is the one that has to call since he is USC. One more thing just FYI, at this point it is called a receipt number and not a case number until you get to NOA2.

We wish you and your fiance good luck and soon you / him will both be experts at it.

I could understand if someone didn't speak english since that's not their fault. but to me it's lazyness on my fiance's part and i'm at the breaking point. Thanks for the FYI on the case/receipt number. i'll tell him i made a mistake and its called receipt number since i'm clear on that now, but he'll still give me the same response.

[meauxna 15]

How about being grateful to the fact that you're getting a visa to the US because of him??

Uh oh.

Them's fighting words.

[MrMrsKnight 0]

In our case, I am (non USC) is more comfortable doing paperwork because that is what I do at work. Hubby (the USC) involved when it has to be done from the US side. I still remember telling him same thing over and over and it can frustrating at times ... and it sometimes got interesting

But we managed and I am sure you will too ! Good luck and you are not alone

Same here!

I do almost everything (he only had to have his visa photos taken, his birth certificate and copy of his passport, signing the forms and coming up with the $ for the the application).

I filed out all the forms, came up with proof of meeting, translations, nights reading and posting my doubts, and stressing over the process

I chose to do everything because he's under treatment for his anxiety and immigration stuff would not help much He always asks me if there's anything he can do but there really isn't.... I think I do a better job anyway!

How about being grateful to the fact that you're getting a visa to the US because of him??

Has it crossed your mind she's not after the visa??

If you get into a relationship thinking your SO can lack of several things you need and you want (like help when you can't handle something by yourself), because he gave you a visa, then I wish you a higher self steem...

[sean&gabi 1]

Has it crossed your mind she's not after the visa??

If you get into a relationship thinking your SO can lack of several things you need and you want (like help when you can't handle something by yourself), because he gave you a visa, then I wish you a higher self steem...

I agree.

But... there certainly ARE things that he SHOULD know about, such as NOAs!!! I think, in general, this whole process is a great test of a relationship.

They say there are three ways to get to know another person and find out if there is compatability: live, work and travel together. I think that saying should include the K1 Visa process. If you can do any of these sucessfully without a thermal meltdown of any kind, you are truly lucky! It sounds like you touched upon one of his idiosyncrasies that bothers you.

My advice: kick him in the ### (for motivation) and tell him how you feel.

[MrMrsKnight 0]

Has it crossed your mind she's not after the visa??

If you get into a relationship thinking your SO can lack of several things you need and you want (like help when you can't handle something by yourself), because he gave you a visa, then I wish you a higher self steem...

I agree.

But... there certainly ARE things that he SHOULD know about, such as NOAs!!! I think, in general, this whole process is a great test of a relationship.

They say there are three ways to get to know another person and find out if there is compatability: live, work and travel together. I think that saying should include the K1 Visa process. If you can do any of these sucessfully without a thermal meltdown of any kind, you are truly lucky! It sounds like you touched upon one of his idiosyncrasies that bothers you.

My advice: kick him in the ### (for motivation) and tell him how you feel.

Agree with you too!

[mrswooten4ever 0]

Yup

Agree with you then send him an email with the details he needs so he has it in black and white and tell him to get on with it! There are two of you going through this process not just one and he needs to do his fair share.

Adele

[Welshcookie 17]

How about being grateful to the fact that you're getting a visa to the US because of him??

Oh I too will try to remember that.....

[drelewis 0]

This is one tough time for eveyone going through this process and the person moving to the US i feel will alwalys know more about it because they are the one changing there whole life.

I made a point of sitting down with my fiancee and both of us working through each step so she understands the process even if i knew i made sure that she showed an interest and she did!!

Don't get me wrong it was a test of both of our patience levels but in any relationship one person leads the other one follows. It all about finding who is the leader in certain situations but it still does not stop the fact of the person being able to understand.

If they Don't understand just how scary this is for the person moving it can be a struggle from the start.

Good luck