I-751 Separated

[mamaliza 2]

Hi all,

 

Long story short - I moved to the states in 2014 on K1 visa and got married, lived happily ever after (for two years) until my beloved husband decided that he doesn't want to be with me anymore and that he wants something else in his life. I'm not going to go too deep into details, let me just tell you that I didn't see that coming.

 

A week before Christmas 2016 he asked me to move out and give him space to think about his life. Seriously, on Christmas. I did as he asked. I attempted to talk to him a few times in the first couple of months, tried to make him go see a couples therapist, but he refused. He also refused to talk to me about what was going to happen next. He never brought up divorce, but as the time passed it became obvious that he had no intentions to work on this marriage. 

Four months after the separation (March 2017) i realized that I needed to start gathering documents for the i-751 filing and I made my husband meet me and to talk through the options. Unfortunately he wasn't very communicative and helpful again, but he did say that he didn't want to hurt me even more so he would sign/file whatever I needed. Not a word about the divorce again.

 

I went to sick help from an immigration attorney right before filing and was advised to either file together as a couple and attach an additional letter with explanations to why we didn't live together anymore or get divorced and file alone. I chose the the first option - had my husband sign the petition (he didn't even want to read it) attached a few letters from our friends as witnesses and filed my petition on June 30th 2017. 

 

It's been 9 months since the separation and the relationship with my husband is not getting better. He has started acting very disrespectful towards me, wouldn't even say hello when sees me in public, we don't talk at all. To be honest, I'm not even sure anymore if he will want to go to the interview with me in a year (current timeline for the CA center), and even if he agrees to go to the interview - we are strangers to each other at this point. I don't want to file for divorce because I don't want to hurt my case, but I also find it impossible to keep living like that for another year.

 

The situation is very messed up.

 

To answer a few questions in advance:

• I believe i have enough evidence to prove that the 3 years (2 years in marriage) we spent together were real - apartment lease, insurances, gym memberships, taxes, phone bills, dozens of family trips and photos etc. No kids.
• I didn't do anything obvious to cause this separation - I was a faithful, loving and supporting partner to him, always. 
• Does he have another woman? Maybe, I don't know.
• His friends and family never reached out to me. I don't know what he told them, but they all clearly took his side and no-one's really talking to me except for those few people who agreed to write a witness letter for me. 
• I don't want to consider moving back to my Motherland and leaving my immigration case behind. I moved here for  him in the first place and I started building my life here with a person I loved. During the time we were together I managed to build a career here in the US, my work is all my life here now. When he turned his back on me I had to start all over again - got a much better job offer, found my own place to live, bought my own furniture and had to find new friends. I've been through hell and I think I deserve to keep living my life here, at least for now. I cannot be responsible for another person's poor decisions and break my life into pieces again.

Needless to say, how disappointed and hurt I am to find out what people are capable of. I feel like a used toy. This is so messed up, I have no words.

Edited September 14, 2017 by mamaliza

[Cornelius Collins 2]

30 minutes ago, mamaliza said:

Hi all,

 

Long story short - I moved to the states in 2014 on K1 visa and got married, lived happily ever after (for two years) until my beloved husband decided that he doesn't want to be with me anymore and that he wants something else in his life. I'm not going to go too deep into details, let me just tell you that I didn't see that coming.

 

A week before Christmas 2016 he asked me to move out and give him space to think about his life. Seriously, on Christmas. I did as he asked. I attempted to talk to him a few times in the first couple of months, tried to make him go see a couples therapist, but he refused. He also refused to talk to me about what was going to happen next. He never brought up divorce, but as the time passed it became obvious that he had no intentions to work on this marriage. 

Four months after the separation (March 2017) i realized that I needed to start gathering documents for the i-751 filing and I made my husband meet me and to talk through the options. Unfortunately he wasn't very communicative and helpful again, but he did say that he didn't want to hurt me even more so he would sign/file whatever I needed. Not a word about the divorce again.

 

I went to sick help from an immigration attorney right before filing and was advised to either file together as a couple and attach an additional letter with explanations to why we didn't live together anymore or get divorced and file alone. I chose the the first option - had my husband sign the petition (he didn't even want to read it) attached a few letters from our friends as witnesses and filed my petition on June 30th 2017. 

 

It's been 9 months since the separation and the relationship with my husband is not getting better. He has started acting very disrespectful towards me, wouldn't even say hello when sees me in public, we don't talk at all. To be honest, I'm not even sure anymore if he will want to go to the interview with me in a year (current timeline for the CA center), and even if he agrees to go to the interview - we are strangers to each other at this point. I don't want to file for divorce because I don't want to hurt my case, but I also find it impossible to keep living like that for another year.

 

The situation is very messed up.

 

To answer a few questions in advance:

• I believe i have enough evidence to prove that the 3 years (2 years in marriage) we spent together were real - apartment lease, insurances, gym memberships, taxes, phone bills, dozens of family trips and photos etc. No kids.
• I didn't do anything obvious to cause this separation - I was a faithful, loving and supporting partner to him, always. 
• Does he have another woman? Maybe, I don't know.
• His friends and family never reached out to me. I don't know what he told them, but they all clearly took his side and no-one's really talking to me except for those few people who agreed to write a witness letter for me. 
• I don't want to consider moving back to my Motherland and leaving my immigration case behind. I moved here for  him in the first place and I started building my life here with a person I loved. During the time we were together I managed to build a career here in the US, my work is all my life here now. When he turned his back on me I had to start all over again - got a much better job offer, found my own place to live, bought my own furniture and had to find new friends. I've been through hell and I think I deserve to keep living my life here, at least for now. I cannot be responsible for another person's poor decisions and break my life into pieces again.

Needless to say, how disappointed and hurt I am to find out what people are capable of. I feel like a used toy. This is so messed up, I have no words.

Its really complicated with divorce involved. Just get a good attorney. Best of luck

[little immigrant 801]

Hi there. I was in your situation a few years back. 

 

He left and I was by myself. He at least signed my petition so I was able to file jointly. Thankfully I didn't get an interview. I didn't know if he was going to be there for the interview either.  

 

We tried to work on our marriage for another year after that but we ultimately filed for divorce. 

 

Just sharing my experience to let you know you're not alone and maybe it gives you hope that you can do it too. 

[Mollie09 1,543]

File for divorce and move on. Your immigration case depends only on the proof that you entered the marriage in good faith, nothing else.