Unnatural

[Peggy 1]

Hugs Rebecca

[govols 1]

Hey Becca,

Sorry to hear you're feeling blue. We all go through different emotions at one time or another. With us, it's Tony wanting to find a job soon. Money, or lack of, stresses the heck out of me!

I thought Abby (Pax) summed it up well in her post. Wes seems like a real good guy and I'm sure he is more than happy to be here with you! He can be a shoulder to lean on too.

Sending you hugs.

Karen

[RaspberrySwirl 20]

Hugs, rebecca!

I think alot of people know exactly how you feel.

Babysteps, right? We've come so far, we can do it.

[Fandango 1,440]

Hugs!!!!!!

[MrsBruce5 0]

Hi Rebecca,

I can relate to your feelings, because I have been there many, many times.

But what you must fall back on is the strength that has brought you this far and never forget that part of you. This whole thing is indeed trying.

I have friends that wonder how Graham and I have made it this far, and well...the only thing I can sum this all up is that we have drawn our strength from the fact that whatever higher power that may be has brought us to be together from oceans apart...we are meant to be together. NOTHING and NO ONE can get in the way of that.

I can give you a whole song & dance of all of the hardship I have passed through to get here...We all have our stories, and if I told you our's, you'd be here for days and probably bored to tears...so, I will save that for another time.

At times last year, I thought I would curl up into the fetal position and just twitch...what got me through was the visits that I made to Scotland and his visits to New York. I remember telling him on one of those visits that NOTHING could ever keep me from him, and I held to that. It was the very thing that kept me sane.

We are still apart, and probably will be until he gets here-whenever that may be...

It is that very statement that I made to him that gets me through when things get hairy.

My point here is, do not allow all of the other nonsense to taint how far you have gotten thus far. Anyone of us here knows that it takes an incredible amount of strength to do what we are ALL doing here. Apart from this forum, how many people do you know that have had their hearts tested as we have?

Don't lose sight of HOW you got to be with Wes.

Keep your head up, girl. We are all with you.

Today may not have been so good, but tomorrow is another day.

I wish you peace tonight, and may the sun shine on you tomorrow.

-Rose

[iceyspots 0]

Hi

believe me a lot of people here are in a slightly similiar boat... dealing with immigration and the stresses of wedding are bad enough to deal with! just take it one step at a time

[rebeccajo 14]

I swear no matter how hard I try right now I cannot rise above it.

[pax 1]

I know the feeling, Rebecca.

Stay strong and be well; I'm thinking *really* good thoughts for you and Wes.

[ceriserose 1]

I swear no matter how hard I try right now I cannot rise above it.

Then maybe it's your body/mind telling you you need more time to keep processing it.

You sound a LOT like me and I've been down this road before. All the major stuff is behind you, you can just relax and move on with life...but you can't. I'm starting to go through it now again myself...not as badly as in the past, but I have to constantly remind myself that it's normal to be like this.

Good stress has just as much of an impact on us as bad stress - physically, emotionally, mentally. Your body can't tell the difference between good and bad - the physical responses are the same; all it knows is that you had a big wind up for a long time and now it needs to recover. Your mind finds it hard to comprehend the downside because most of these things are good things in your life, so there's no reason to be down or negative. But that's where you are.

Nurture yourself. You need to let your body and mind catch up to all the events and don't pressure yourself on where you feel you *should* be. The process of immigration -is- unnatural and you need to be able to recover from that. Unless you have been clinically diagnosed and need to be on medication, your body/mind will get you there in their own time. (No, not suggesting you need to be diagnosed! )

*hugs* One day at a time sweetie. Remember to breathe, and get lots of hugs from that fella of yours.

[irishgirl73 1]

Hugs Rebecca

I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but just know that you are in my thoughts.

Everything will work out very soon

[ddurkin 0]

Hi Rebecca- you WILL get through it. It might not feel like it right now but believe it or not, it will pass. Look how for you and Wes have made it!!!! You've done amazing things, so you know you have it in yourself to overcome lots of different challenges.

Just take it one day at a time and slowly things will get easier. Rough patches are no fun to go through, but you will come out on the other side.

Don't forget to indulge yourself a little bit right now. practicing a little self-indulgence can sometimes go a long way to getting back on your feet. Try to smile and laugh too- if you can't then get Wees to tickle you...there's nothing better than natural laughter.

keep us up to date on how you're doing...everyone here is rooting for you, and believes in you...

[Peggy 1]

I swear no matter how hard I try right now I cannot rise above it.

Hugs Rebecca.

I know this feeling to right now, and it sucks.

[TracyTN 237]

Hope you know I am always here for you, girlfriend. Sorry our Yahoo chat got cut short this morning. I hope we'll have time for another one later this week.

Take care of yourself.

[internetkafe 0]

*hugs* Becca. Don't know what else to say..we haven't argued at all since Craig got back and feel really lovey, but yesterday and today(nothing bad with US) reality reared it's ugly head again in the form of Craig not knowing if he can do this for all time or not, and Daryl being upset for 1/2 hr on the phone, and crying at school,etc...so our future is pretty up in the air too(as far as where we'll be etc) and very stressful. Sorry, didn't mean to turn that into us again, just saying...can def. relate on the stress front. Hope the tide starts turning for you really soon, and some good news comes along. Thinking of you...M.

Hey Michelle,

Can not Craig bring his stepson here so that he will feel better?

[Patricia_and_andy 0]

Big huge Hugs!!!! I'm right there with ya!!! Sheffield has been calling my name... it would have been easier I think to go there... we will make it thru... I know it!!

Patricia