woman who refuse to take husband's last name?

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

I know a German judge that would say it's OK to beat her for not taking it.

Yeppa!

[simo-fati 0]

Is there a single culture where it's mandatory for a woman to take her husbands name?

I never thought about that,, this is a good question ..I think it is a MAN thing he always want to own what he likes specially when he is the one in control ...did you hear about the guy that wanted to take his wife's last name because he feels closer to her family than his , to be able to do that he had to go to court and pay 300$ to go in front of a judge and explain why

this is crazy, I personly think that either one should be able to change their last name if they choose to do that ..the guy shouldn t have to go thru all that ...I still believe it is an awnership thing

I can tell you this 100% of my girlfriends that are married have taking their husbands last name.. 0% of their husband had changed their though

[mybackpages 0]

Is there a single culture where it's mandatory for a woman to take her husbands name?

I dont think so, but a few generations back an American woman mostly always took her husband's name. I had a elderly neighbor growing up who even took the whole name and was always known as Mrs John Smith on almost every official record. (Bank records, utilities, personal correspondence etc. I always thought it was funny that she was Mrs John Smith rather than Mrs. Mary Smith.

[Hilarious Clinton 452]

I think it works itself out. The type of woman that insists on keeping her name wouldn't marry a man insisting that she change it. And vice versa.

[rclouse 0]

/soooo bad

/hotlinked too

[Sofiyya 1,687]

There were a couple of US states that mandated name change for married women. Hawaii was one. I'm not sure if they changed that law to make it optional.

[Anna C. 4]

I think it works itself out. The type of woman that insists on keeping her name wouldn't marry a man insisting that she change it. And vice versa.

Hm I think it happens. I wanted to keep my name but hubbie insisted on having the same name. So we made a deal: I took his last name, I get to name all the kids by myself, he has no veto, hahaha!

[KarenCee 3]

It should be a personal choice. I took my husband's name but not because he demanded it, but because I wanted to share his name. I wasn't worried about losing my identity as other women have mentioned. His name doesn't completely define who I am. I am not dependent on him...we are interdependent on each other yet we retain our individualities too. It can be done!

[Caladan 19]

This is one of the big debates between us at the moment.

I want to use my current name professionally. That's not changing no matter what. So I figure, if that's the case, why bother changing it legally? He figures I should change it legally and then use my maiden name professionally. I'd rather just have one name. I've thought of hyphenating but I really don't like the aesthetics of it.

We're not going to break up over it; it's not that big a deal, whatever we compromise. My sister, of course, insinuated rather rudely that it meant I was planning on divorce, but I figure she's 25 and single, what the hell does she know?

[Cassie 8]

It should be a personal choice. I took my husband's name but not because he demanded it, but because I wanted to share his name. I wasn't worried about losing my identity as other women have mentioned. His name doesn't completely define who I am. I am not dependent on him...we are interdependent on each other yet we retain our individualities too. It can be done!

Amen!

[Kathryn41 3,205]

I chose to keep my maiden name. My husband and I discussed the issue before we married and he had no problems with it. He too felt that I am an individual, not someone 'owned' by him and needing to be identified by his name. For me, I have a whole professional career that includes published and printed material, in my maiden name. I gave up my country, my friends, my job and my whole life as I knew it to move here to be with him; I didnt' want to feel like I had given up my identity too.

Good friends of mine married a number of years ago. They each took the other's last name as a new middle name and kept their own last names as a way of expressing both their connection to each other and their individuality. I liked that approach as well. They will be celebrating their 25th anniversary soon.

Edited March 23, 2007 by Kathryn41

[simo-fati 0]

This is one of the big debates between us at the moment.

I want to use my current name professionally. That's not changing no matter what. So I figure, if that's the case, why bother changing it legally? He figures I should change it legally and then use my maiden name professionally. I'd rather just have one name. I've thought of hyphenating but I really don't like the aesthetics of it.

We're not going to break up over it; it's not that big a deal, whatever we compromise. My sister, of course, insinuated rather rudely that it meant I was planning on divorce, but I figure she's 25 and single, what the hell does she know?

I think you should do what is best for you...fellow your guts ....

[Otto 83]

I know a German judge that would say it's OK to beat her for not taking it.

That's not a nice thing to say...

Just for clarification - In Germany the man can take the woman's last name, the woman can keep her own, take the man's or use both...

[heishe 2]

My man is planning to take my last name when we get married, because he likes my name better.

[Alex+R 0]

My man is planning to take my last name when we get married, because he likes my name better.

Yeah but, you guys are hawt.