stay at home wife

[Phil&Mich 36]

as I was reading old posts here in VJ, I encountered those topics where their removal of conditions were being denied because of their wives sending money in the phillippines,

this gives me worries for the reason that I do send money monthly to my mother and I don't work since I came here in the US, this is both me and my husbands decision, ofcourse my husband give me allowance where I can do whatever I wanna do with it, (that's his words) though, I want to work but my husband want me to go to school first to build a career later, he wants me to familiarize our place and he wants me to be really comfortable in driving first, To those who will think negative, we have pre nup, (jut being cautious to be judged)

my question, would it really affect the removal of condition if I'm sending money to the Philippines? I do send $150 regularly for my mother, by cash thru western union.

[aaron2020 11,652]

No. Sending money home has nothing to do with ROC.

ROC requires proof of having a bona fide (real) marriage. ROC is about the relationship between you and your husband.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

as I was reading old posts here in VJ, I encountered those topics where their removal of conditions were being denied because of their wives sending money in the phillippines,

this gives me worries for the reason that I do send money monthly to my mother and I don't work since I came here in the US, this is both me and my husbands decision, ofcourse my husband give me allowance where I can do whatever I wanna do with it, (that's his words) though, I want to work but my husband want me to go to school first to build a career later, he wants me to familiarize our place and he wants me to be really comfortable in driving first, To those who will think negative, we have pre nup, (jut being cautious to be judged)

my question, would it really affect the removal of condition if I'm sending money to the Philippines? I do send $150 regularly for my mother, by cash thru western union.

You are mistaken po. The people that have been rejected for sending money home to the Philippines were literally sending their entire pay checks home to the Philippines. If you are sending your whole paycheck to the Philippines how are you contributing to your marriage? My wife usually sent about $2-300 a month before during her ROC. Now she sends about $400 a month now to her sister and we have never had a problem. My wife is a stay at home mom and she is about to go back to school right now as well.

So don't worry at all po.

[Umka36 781]

Short answer is no it will not affect your AOS. Sending money back home is a personal choice.

[Hank_ 9,174]

as I was reading old posts here in VJ, I encountered those topics where their removal of conditions were being denied because of their wives sending money in the phillippines,

this gives me worries for the reason that I do send money monthly to my mother and I don't work since I came here in the US, this is both me and my husbands decision, ofcourse my husband give me allowance where I can do whatever I wanna do with it, (that's his words) though, I want to work but my husband want me to go to school first to build a career later, he wants me to familiarize our place and he wants me to be really comfortable in driving first, To those who will think negative, we have pre nup, (jut being cautious to be judged)

my question, would it really affect the removal of condition if I'm sending money to the Philippines? I do send $150 regularly for my mother, by cash thru western union.

Sending money has zero affect with ROC, my wife sends money from time to time over the years - there isn't even a question on the I-751 regarding this.

As Aaron stated it is all about your relationship. Big thing is to have TWO years of documentation of co-mingling of assets, and expenses; joint bank accounts, both name on bills and utilities ... two years of documentation showing this.

Edited May 10, 2016 by Hank_

[Umka36 781]

Just realized I said AOS when OP mentioned ROC, but it doesn't matter for either.

[Hank_ 9,174]

Just realized I said AOS when OP mentioned ROC, but it doesn't matter for either.

You mentioned ROC in your first post, my previous post stands.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

A few hundred doesn't matter, whereas sending the entire paycheck has ended in denial for some, search for the threads and read them.

CO's specifically said they can't approve due to large amounts being send.

[Phil&Mich 36]

thanks everyone, I worry too much because am not contributing money and I know the words "comingling of finances". but my husband is very supportive in everything.

and we do mutual decisions

so I hope ill be ok in ROC

[Phil&Mich 36]

You are mistaken po. The people that have been rejected for sending money home to the Philippines were literally sending their entire pay checks home to the Philippines. If you are sending your whole paycheck to the Philippines how are you contributing to your marriage? My wife usually sent about $2-300 a month before during her ROC. Now she sends about $400 a month now to her sister and we have never had a problem. My wife is a stay at home mom and she is about to go back to school right now as well.

So don't worry at all po.

thank you, I thought I am the only stay at home pinay I was just worried if the USCIS knows everything even with your bank activities lol.. I was just wondering to how the IO's who interviewed the OP's ( who sent money back and got denied) knew about how they spent their money. and the fact that I don't work and my husband give me allowance and he pays everything which ofcourse makes me feel guilty, but we have planned that I'm going back to school even before we got married.

[Caryh 5,206]

thank you, I thought I am the only stay at home pinay I was just worried if the USCIS knows everything even with your bank activities lol.. I was just wondering to how the IO's who interviewed the OP's ( who sent money back and got denied) knew about how they spent their money. and the fact that I don't work and my husband give me allowance and he pays everything which ofcourse makes me feel guilty, but we have planned that I'm going back to school even before we got married.

There is not problem being a stay at home wife. Many people chose that path and its not a negative thing. The people who were denied were working. And I'm fairly sure it wasn't for the amount they were sending, but because one person who had income was not commingling their income. Instead treating her marriage as an OFW would treat her employer. I'm sure there were other red flags going on in those relationships also, red flags we'll never know about because the entire story is never told. You'll have nothing to worry about just because you're staying home and will be a student. That all goes into planning for the future of your marriage together.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

thank you, I thought I am the only stay at home pinay I was just worried if the USCIS knows everything even with your bank activities lol.. I was just wondering to how the IO's who interviewed the OP's ( who sent money back and got denied) knew about how they spent their money. and the fact that I don't work and my husband give me allowance and he pays everything which ofcourse makes me feel guilty, but we have planned that I'm going back to school even before we got married.

No problem. Don't feel bad or guilty that you are a stay at home pinay right now, never feel bad about that. My wife only stays at home right now because our youngest daughter is 2 1/2, but later this year we are going to put her in preschool. That is when my wife wants to go back to school as well so that she can become a RN.

Since I am the only one that brings money in from working and my VA disability pay. I don't give her a allowance to spend, she can spend whatever she want within reason. The vast majority of the stuff she gets isn't even for her but for the kids or me. If there is anything big (expensive) she would like to get we talk it over and make a plan for her to get it in the future.

[Phil&Mich 36]

thank you for sharing your thoughts and opinions, i'll rest my case now and be calm...

and of course practice more in my parking ...

God bless everyone!

[PreciousOne 4]

You're fine for sure! Just make sure to show proofs that you are living together from the time you came here and got married. Joint bank accounts, joint utility bills, joint credit cards are some example of proofs that they want from both of you.

I came here as K1 and now a US citizen....a stay home mom with 2 kids and never work since i came here. I do send money too for my parents and there was nothing negative or problem that we encountered. Goodluck!