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[LandT222 0]

Hi, I have a unique situation. My boyfriend and I both have Asperger Syndrome, it is an autism spectrum disorder. We met on the internet on a website for autistic dating. He is living in Scotland and I am living in Florida. I am back home, but I visited him last year and this year. We lived together for six months. During this time we both decided we wanted to be together but I felt it is better to live in the United States for both of us. I felt uncomfortable with the way some things are in the UK.

I have started to do the paperwork, and I have to help my boyfriend with his forms. I am wondering how our disability might affect our petition. It is not something that he can hide and it might affect his interview as well. How does this process work for people who are disabled? Should he mention it? I have written it as part of how we met, as it is a big part of our relationship, and we support each other every day through it. We really want to be together but I am still pretty unsure and I don't know if I can afford a lawyer.

[tom&tanya 48]

The question I have: How will you prove your fiance will not become a public charge? Do you have sufficient income to show the government?

P.S. -- Never lie to USCIS.

[Cody and Daisy 373]

First and formost, he is no longer your boyfriend anymore if you are going to complete a I-129F for a Fiance Visa!

So you must get into the habit of calling him your Fiance, Very important!

(I am curious to know what you found uncomfortable with the UK, being british myself! , that's just my curiosity, dont take offense!)

okay, as for your disorder, I dont think you should have a problem, London is very good to go through, You will obviously state you met though an autistic dating website, and there you go that is you stating that you both have AS, that is the only place you have to mention it. London will read that when it is sent to them and will then be aware of the syndrome.

In my personal opinion, do not worry about him at the interview yet, You are no way near that part of this journey. Concentrate of the paper work because you have to have to petition approved before you can apply for the K1 visa. This is your most important step first.

You do not need a lawyer, I and my husband completed this all by ourselves and so have countless other people, London is not a hard embassy to go through as long as your situation isn't complicated.. and by the sounds of it it isn't because your disorder should have no baring on the outcome of it.

Next point, Do you earn 125% above the poverty line? If not, then you need to find a sponsor who does earn that much and is willing to legally become involved.

Edited October 4, 2014 by Cody and Daisy

[LandT222 0]

Hello and thank you for your response I have spoken to some members of my family who are helping me to do the affidavit of support and have good income, as I do not have an income. I've been told at immigration that I would need to get co-sponsors.

(I was not comfortable in the UK because he needs a lot more help than he is getting in the UK and I have more medical help and support here. Things were not very easy for us but we did manage.)

[Cody and Daisy 373]

Hello and thank you for your response I have spoken to some members of my family who are helping me to do the affidavit of support and have good income, as I do not have an income. I've been told at immigration that I would need to get co-sponsors.

(I was not comfortable in the UK because he needs a lot more help than he is getting in the UK and I have more medical help and support here. Things were not very easy for us but we did manage.)

That's good that you have family to help you!

I do wish you both the best.

(That's so weird, England is better than the USA in free medical care, but I guess Scotland is different. I'm glad you can be there for each other and help each other, after the past week of seeing so much negativity on this website, it's nice to see a couple who are there for each other )

[LandT222 0]

Thanks, I appreciate that and your help a lot! I'm going to fix what I've written and write fiance instead. I've been looking through this site and it comes up on a lot of searches, but I thought it might help to talk about this stuff as it is very intimidating.

[a+j 77]

As long as you demonstrate that he won't become a public charge, you'll be fine. ASD is not in the list of the conditions of inadmissibility into the US. Great that you have co-sponsors lined up.

Good luck!

Edited October 5, 2014 by a+j

[msbau764 245]

The question I have: How will you prove your fiance will not become a public charge? Do you have sufficient income to show the government?

P.S. -- Never lie to USCIS.

Unless you are asked about past drug use that is not verifiable.

[Penguin_ie 5,985]

I don't think you'll have issues because of the ASD (in the USA, Aspergers doesn't exist anymore as a separate syndrome according to DSM).

It may be worth having a letter from his doctor that confirms the diagnosis, and explains any issues he may face at the interview; for example of he has problems making eye contacts, it is good for the CO to know that, or if he has issues with waiting in a crowded, noisy waiting room due to SPD, accomodations can be made.