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My fiancé just sent me a photo montage and in the corner of it was a generic list called, '15 ways to keep a good relationship'

I read them all, then tripped over maxim #11, "Don't talk about your stupid ex-wife". :o ....Question #11 seems more filipina than generic... :yes:

Well, in two weeks she will be moving into my house that my ex-wife and I designed and built. She and my (intelligent) ex-wife will inevitably meet at family gatherings at my daughters house, as my 'ex' is my granddaughter's step-mother.

My fiancé knows I am respectfully friendly with my 'ex', as I told her family gatherings need to be stress free for everyone sake. She agreed at the logic, but the enthusiasm wasn't there... :whistle:

I've always been good at sorting things out, but I smell potential trouble here.

Any one have some 'pearls of wisdom' on this subject ?

Thanks, Rob187

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Hello!!

I suggest you have an honest talk with her and hear her concerns, It is normal that she will feel insecure about your intelligent wife who you obviously still admire and respect. Be honest about your feelings and hers, and also be honest about what you are willing or not willing to change regarding your relationship with your ex wife. If you don't reach an agreement on this, every time your ex's names is mentioned it will lead to trouble. If she feels jealous, threatened or hurt it will not be nice for you. I hope you guys are able to work things out and do what is best for your marriage.

My fiancé just sent me a photo montage and in the corner of it was a generic list called, '15 ways to keep a good relationship'

I read them all, then tripped over maxim #11, "Don't talk about your stupid ex-wife". :o ....Question #11 seems more filipina than generic... :yes:

Well, in two weeks she will be moving into my house that my ex-wife and I designed and built. She and my (intelligent) ex-wife will inevitably meet at family gatherings at my daughters house, as my 'ex' is my granddaughter's step-mother.

My fiancé knows I am respectfully friendly with my 'ex', as I told her family gatherings need to be stress free for everyone sake. She agreed at the logic, but the enthusiasm wasn't there... :whistle:

I've always been good at sorting things out, but I smell potential trouble here.

Any one have some 'pearls of wisdom' on this subject ?

Thanks, Rob187

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Hello!!

I suggest you have an honest talk with her and hear her concerns, It is normal that she will feel insecure about your intelligent wife who you obviously still admire and respect. Be honest about your feelings and hers, and also be honest about what you are willing or not willing to change regarding your relationship with your ex wife.

I've spoken to my intelligent fiancé, as well as my ex-Wxxx and my daughter, on the need for civility at family gatherings. So they do know where I stand on this matter. Now I do realize that not all parties may not be on the same 'book and page' on this. :wacko:

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You should only talk about your ex in the context of your daughter. Once your fiancée arrives do not ever talk about the fact that your ex helped design and build your house. All you would accomplish there is to create a "ghost" of your ex in that house. Definitely give your fiancée license to re-decorate so that she feels that the house is her home. If you cannot avoid any mention of your ex with respect to your house it might be time to find a new house.


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Definitely give your fiancée license to re-decorate so that she feels that the house is her home. If you cannot avoid any mention of your ex with respect to your house it might be time to find a new house.

I've already thought of that, I told her I'd wait for her to get here and we would work together to make my home, hers...

Believe me, I do not and would not talk of the ex-wife in any other context that family get togethers...I know better :yes:

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My fiancé just sent me a photo montage and in the corner of it was a generic list called, '15 ways to keep a good relationship'

I read them all, then tripped over maxim #11, "Don't talk about your stupid ex-wife". :o ....Question #11 seems more filipina than generic... :yes:

Well, in two weeks she will be moving into my house that my ex-wife and I designed and built. She and my (intelligent) ex-wife will inevitably meet at family gatherings at my daughters house, as my 'ex' is my granddaughter's step-mother.

My fiancé knows I am respectfully friendly with my 'ex', as I told her family gatherings need to be stress free for everyone sake. She agreed at the logic, but the enthusiasm wasn't there... :whistle:

I've always been good at sorting things out, but I smell potential trouble here.

Any one have some 'pearls of wisdom' on this subject ?

Thanks, Rob187

The green monster may go into over-load for a time but it will start to subside once the "nesting" gets done (which involves going through every inch of the house ;)


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The green monster may go into over-load for a time but it will start to subside once the "nesting" gets done (which involves going through every inch of the house ;)

At a total of 1,850,000 cubic inches her 'nesting' ritual may take a while...I might film the nesting ritual and post it to YouTube for others to reference.... :ph34r:

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At a total of 1,850,000 cubic inches her 'nesting' ritual may take a while...I might film the nesting ritual and post it to YouTube for others to reference.... :ph34r:

When you go to look for something and it isn't there anymore, that means "learn the new location" .... :lol:


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When you go to look for something and it isn't there anymore, that means "learn the new location" .... :lol:

I think I'll hold off giving her the combo to the gun safe, till she's satisfied with the tidiness of her 'nest'... :content:

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Share the combo... we have a variety of firearms in a variety of places in the house. ;) Thankfully those are all still in the same place.


Hank

"Chance Favors The Prepared Mind"

 

      HandArrow.gif.adeb854ba620933849ae921ca0b44a0c.gif  Link to the Visa Process for Manila Embassy once you have your NOA2 : Click Here

 

Contact Hank: HERE

K-1 visa approved 21 March 2012

...Citizenship... complete!

 

 

 

 

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Share the combo... we have a variety of firearms in a variety of places in the house. ;) Thankfully those are all still in the same place.

I've yet to 'vet' her on firearm safety, think I'll monitor the 'green monster' first, then we can 'slap leather' together :lol:

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