Time Spent Apart

[AKukreti 24]

This is my second LDR. This one is easier. I am applying for my fiance from India to come here. My first LDR was with a bf while he was in Afghanistan. Then while we were married he was in Iraq. My ex-husband was infantry. So at least I don't have to worry about my fiance's life being in danger. But this LDR is more difficult cause my fiance is a wreck without me. I not a wreck cause I don't have time to think...I have a full time job and a 4 year old son. But he is so far away...India...tickets are so expensive. I met him in the US when he was here on a student visa. Then I visited him on a tourist visa. After that trip I applied for the K1. I know I will be attending the interview with him. But tickets are ridiculous expensive. ugh...Lets not forget my biggest problem is my family. No one understands...I can't take it.

[LesleyRyan 4]

This is my second LDR. This one is easier. I am applying for my fiance from India to come here. My first LDR was with a bf while he was in Afghanistan. Then while we were married he was in Iraq. My ex-husband was infantry. So at least I don't have to worry about my fiance's life being in danger. But this LDR is more difficult cause my fiance is a wreck without me. I not a wreck cause I don't have time to think...I have a full time job and a 4 year old son. But he is so far away...India...tickets are so expensive. I met him in the US when he was here on a student visa. Then I visited him on a tourist visa. After that trip I applied for the K1. I know I will be attending the interview with him. But tickets are ridiculous expensive. ugh...Lets not forget my biggest problem is my family. No one understands...I can't take it.

Oh that sounds rough At least this LDR isn't in constant danger.. that would be so hard to handle. I'm lucky in a way that he is only a 20 hour drive away.. though we both don't have vechiles at the moment.

My family is supportive.. ish. I know they think I'm completely nuts.. and worry about the whole thing.. but you can't live for anyone else but yourself ( and your son, in your case). No point in not doing something just to make someone else happy.. that's what I keep telling myself when I start getting weirded out by the whole thing.

[tbellkzoo 23]

I don't know anyone going through this.. everyone I know has a husband/boyfriend that lives in the same country as them.. HOW CRAZY IS THAT?!

I've been working out, reading, and watching cartoons to keep my spirits up This site does really help. Before I felt completely alone.. I think I've just been reading too many post on people getting approved and the selfish part of me is feeling down. Some day it will all be our turn!

It will be our turn soon!!!! I know....and you're not selfish...u just want your husband. We can all relate. Keep your spirits up girl!!!

[ForeverLove4u 8]

There are some amazing Wife Support groups on Facebook, and the women from there have become very much like sisters to me in this process. It is an unbelievable feeling to know the other half of you is soooooooooooo far away and that he wont even get to be here for possibly a year keeps you torn up.

Blessings, there are many many of us experiencing this, lots of tears, but always counting the days

[flora01 37]

I passed the time thinking these golden days not gonna come back..because after i130 was filed i left my job and enjoyed for around 8 months completely,before that i was hard core professional and knew that i will be working after i land here.We chatted,emailed and skyped regularly logs of which were asked later on in interview.

Also you can research for job market over here and take some classes which will be useful once you here.

[London2Boston 59]

We have all gone through this, and I can totally relate to how you feel. Trying to explain the situation to people who don't understand is an uphill battle, and sometimes makes the waiting even worse. So surround yourself with those who get it, and this website has proven to bring my spirits up every time. We have been there, and we can help you feel better and help the process hurt less!

It is SO difficult to feel alone in a situation that people can't fathom. "What do you mean? You're married, he/she should just automatically get a green card right?" It's the worst. But enjoy every moment you can with each other on the phone, skype, whatsapp, in person and keep reminding yourself why you're in it for the long haul. Hold tight and we'll be with you all the way

[LesleyRyan 4]

I passed the time thinking these golden days not gonna come back..because after i130 was filed i left my job and enjoyed for around 8 months completely,before that i was hard core professional and knew that i will be working after i land here.We chatted,emailed and skyped regularly logs of which were asked later on in interview.

Also you can research for job market over here and take some classes which will be useful once you here.

I just graduated with a bachelor of commerce, so I think I'm done with classes for a while

I have been looking at the job market, Canada and the US are very similar.. so I don't think I need to do any preparation for adjusting.

[Avery Cates 1,141]

I just graduated with a bachelor of commerce, so I think I'm done with classes for a while

I have been looking at the job market, Canada and the US are very similar.. so I don't think I need to do any preparation for adjusting.

You shouldn't need a whole lot of adjusting, no. There will be some differences to get accustomed to.

[LesleyRyan 4]

We have all gone through this, and I can totally relate to how you feel. Trying to explain the situation to people who don't understand is an uphill battle, and sometimes makes the waiting even worse. So surround yourself with those who get it, and this website has proven to bring my spirits up every time. We have been there, and we can help you feel better and help the process hurt less!

It is SO difficult to feel alone in a situation that people can't fathom. "What do you mean? You're married, he/she should just automatically get a green card right?" It's the worst. But enjoy every moment you can with each other on the phone, skype, whatsapp, in person and keep reminding yourself why you're in it for the long haul. Hold tight and we'll be with you all the way

That is the worst.. i haven't met anyone that understands the immigration process.. "you're married, doesn't that just make you a US citizen now?"

Nope. Even my husband is in denial! We got married a year ago this month, it's been a hard year, and we dicked around and tired to file the I-130 in November, got sent back, again in December, but we were going through a rough time.. so I told him to forget it. I'm kicking myself for all the wasted months now.. but the main thing is that we're together and in love. We appreciate each other so much more now. The wait won't be that long in the grand scheme of things. Now I'm just anxious because we haven't even sent in the i-130 yet! The wait hasn't even started!

This community has already helped me so much... I'm so happy to have found SO MANY people who understand what I'm going through.. who understand how long it takes and the process. I feel so much more confident that I can do all this

You shouldn't need a whole lot of adjusting, no. There will be some differences to get accustomed to.

Such as?

[LesleyRyan 4]

It will be our turn soon!!!! I know....and you're not selfish...u just want your husband. We can all relate. Keep your spirits up girl!!!

I'm happy to read about people making it out of this process!! It will be our turn at some point gotta start somewhere

[allyinchicago 8]

just raising our daughter all by myself

[jajaju 33]

Find work and make saving money your obsession. You will love watching your balance grow and thinking of how great it will feel to let your husband know what you've saved.

I found after about 8 months that this forum wasn't really comforting anymore since there started to pop up the K1 ''just got approved in 10 days, can't believe it!'' type posts were making me bitter and it's not my place to think negatively about other's good fortune.

Seriously if you find work it will keep you sane, put you in a routine and meeting new people is a great distraction to pass the months.

Good luck.

[Faizanzeba143 2]

I can completely relate with you. I've been married for a year but couldn't file for my husband cause my naturalization didn't happen. Now just waiting till I get my naturalization so I can finally apply for my hubby. Looking at all the timelines I feel so upset knowing its taking so long, so you're not alone. Guess we're all on the same boat. Praying we get through this process soon, missing my hubby tons as well! .

All the best and you should get started on your I-130. Where does your hubby live? Maybe you can try to go visit him.

[London2Boston 59]

That is the worst.. i haven't met anyone that understands the immigration process.. "you're married, doesn't that just make you a US citizen now?"

Nope. Even my husband is in denial! We got married a year ago this month, it's been a hard year, and we dicked around and tired to file the I-130 in November, got sent back, again in December, but we were going through a rough time.. so I told him to forget it. I'm kicking myself for all the wasted months now.. but the main thing is that we're together and in love. We appreciate each other so much more now. The wait won't be that long in the grand scheme of things. Now I'm just anxious because we haven't even sent in the i-130 yet! The wait hasn't even started!

This community has already helped me so much... I'm so happy to have found SO MANY people who understand what I'm going through.. who understand how long it takes and the process. I feel so much more confident that I can do all this

Such as?

The only good thing about that is USCIS has supposedly gotten much faster at processing I-130's. We, along with so many others on this website, got caught in the backlog last year. We filed in May 2013 and didn't get approval until February 2014. Now, we are are the NVC, and he still doesn't even have an interview scheduled! It's like a cruel joke, but the best thing you can do is get it filed as fast as possible and keep checking back here on this site to make sure you have the resources to get through each stage quickly. I honestly wish I knew about it sooner when I was tearing my hair out after months of silence from USCIS. But believe me, it gets better. And if you're in love, it's worth it. Just support each other and stick through the rough times. You WILL get there

[LesleyRyan 4]

Find work and make saving money your obsession. You will love watching your balance grow and thinking of how great it will feel to let your husband know what you've saved.

I found after about 8 months that this forum wasn't really comforting anymore since there started to pop up the K1 ''just got approved in 10 days, can't believe it!'' type posts were making me bitter and it's not my place to think negatively about other's good fortune.

Seriously if you find work it will keep you sane, put you in a routine and meeting new people is a great distraction to pass the months.

Good luck.

I have a pretty good "government" job. I'm an obsessive saver.. doesn't really seem to interest my husband He's more of 'money slips right through the hands" kinda guy. I'm more worried about him finding a job so he we don't need to find another sponsor.

I'm not looking forward to the long wait, esp. over the winter months.. everything seems longer and worse in the winter.