Devastated

[eric&gen 0]

Hey, cmon my dad died 5 years ago! He spent twenty years in the marines! .........Wheres the LOVE?

WOW what a botch.

[TracyLuis 0]

So very sorry to hear about the loss of your father.

[eric&gen 0]

Melo sorry to hear about your father.

[isleta521 5]

Sorry for your terrible loss

[gabby4ever 1]

a biiiiiiiig biiiiiig hug melo !!! unfortunately i know exactly what you are going through right now !! you'll be in my thoughts and prayers !!! <<<<<<<<<HUG>>>>>>>>>

[MrMrsKnight 1]

I'm sorry Melo.... I hope you can gather enough strength to get through this the best way possible. I know it hurts

[titotomas 0]

Melo,

I too am so sorry for your loss. I can relate; while I was in the Philippines in 2003 visiting my now spouse, my own mother died unexpectedly back here in the U.S. Through my siblings we decided it would be best to proceed, so she was actually buried before I even gothome. I console MYSELF and rest easier with the knowledge that Mom knew I loved her, she knew how much she meant to me, and we ALWAYS said "goodbye" whenever we parted. I hope that you too, can think of this and find comfort in it.

God bless.

Tom

[Dwarf_Ogress 0]

I am so sorry! My heart and prayers go out to you and yours. I know how it feels, my mom passed in October 2006. Hang in there!

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

I apologise for what I said, I was just tryin to lighten it up! I too lost my dad 5 years ago. You got all those great memories that no one can take from you. Now you get to bring those memories out and use them for which they were made.

[SoL. 0]

Sorry for your loss

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

I could not have got there in time for the funeral; my mum, brother and I talked about it. Even if I had got the advance parole immediately, it would have taken another 20 odd hours flying time to get to India. I wish I had one last chance to see him, to talk to him... but...

Thank you for your support.

That is really sad melo. My mother died of a sudden heart attack when I was 20 and I still sometimes get upset that I was not able to say goodbye and also that we were not getting along well the few months prior to her death. One thing that did help me, was my Aunt telling me how much happiness I had brought her and how much she loved me. I'm sure that your father knew how much you loved him. I hope you get the support that you need with your grief. If you need to chat at all, you can send me a message.

[Melo 1]

I thank all of you for your words of comfort.

My father was a wonderful man just like his father whom I adored too. In a country where daughters are not wanted... both my grand-father and my father were different. They not only wanted daughters they loved them to bits. In fact all my fathers family who have daughters are the same. There are not too many of us - there is my Uncle Om's daughter Reeta, then me, followed by my aunt's daughter Kavita and last of all my Uncle Jagdish's daughter Samina. All of us have been given so much love. We knew we were wanted and loved.

I am told that the day I was born my Dad went to the pub and got rip-roaring drunk buying rounds of drinks for all who were there - he was so happy.

My Dad gave me my love of music, my thirst for knowledge, my love of politics, my need to question and not blindly accept. Yet he was conservative while still being liberal.

After Daddy passed away, I went with Paul to the Arya Samaj (the faith of my Dad and my Grand-dad before him). I do not know if there is a god... I do not believe there is... but on the off-chance there may be; I went to the Arya Samaj and prayed for Daddy. I hurt more than you can even imagine. I have been fluctuating between being able to function and being almost zombie like. I do not feel like doing anything. I can only sleep with the aid of sleeping pills. I have only been listening to the music I used to hear my father sing. I do not know how this void will be filled... I am lucky to have Paul in my life. I know that it made Daddy very happy that I have such a wonderful man by my side. I am told time will ease the pain but it will never really go away, coz my life has changed forever with the loss of my father.

I wrote something that was read by my uncle on my behalf at Daddy's Chautha. I will share this with you:

I never believed this day would come; for I thought/wanted my Daddy to live forever. I used to think that if he died either I would go with him or I would go before him for I could never envisage my life without him. Fate has dealt with me cruelly – I could not see him one last time. There is a void now that no one can fill for my Daddy has gone and left me. A part of me died with him.

My father was the most wonderful father any child could ever want. Kind, loving, honourable, trustworthy... he was all that is good and virtuous in a human being. He filled my world with love and laughter. I am so proud to be his daughter.

He always had time for me, despite working long hours during his time with the Reader's Digest. I remember that I had an attack of asthma. I must have been about 9 at the time. I could not sleep as my breathing was so bad. Daddy sat up with me; He had just bought a sitar for me; though he did not know how to play it, he strummed on it Tanpura-style and sang “Soja rajkumari” by KL Saigal. I eventually fell asleep to the sound of my Daddy's beautiful voice.

Daddy was an intellectual; he had a questioning mind – and a thirst for knowledge that both Rajiv and I imbibed from him.

Daddy could never say no to me – and I knew it. Mummy would get annoyed with Daddy for this inability to say no to me. I was always Daddy's little girl and I adored him.

His love for music is something that I inherited... his greatest love was always Kundan Lal Saigal and really when Daddy sang he sounded exactly like him. He would always contradict me when I said this – but to my ears he was just like Saigal.

My life will never be the same again; for I will never see him again; I will never hear his voice. All I have is a life-time of memories of the wonderful man who was my father.

[sarah and hicham 3]

I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you and your family.

[me_4_musa 1]

[munchkins 1]

Melo I have followed your progress through all this and all I can say is to add my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family for your sad loss. I hope that time will be a healer and that you will remember with love in your heart for all the good times

Val