How much money your husband gives you per month?

[melharms 4]

My husband is the immigrant, and I work . I make an excellent wage, but he also came here with a significant amount of money. We've known each other for several years and lived together overseas prior to my return to the states and his immigration.

I'm just going to stick with my "gut feelings" on this subject... for goodness sake this 2014! I would be very concerned if a husband {or wife} for that matter held the entire financial bag in a relationship. To me this sounds like the beginnings marriage where one person has power to hold over the other. UNHEALTHY!!! I would sit your husband down and be really clear that this is unacceptable and come to some arrangement that is agreeable to both of you and where you do not feel powerless, begging for money or things you need. If he balks....well better to know now. guess you can figure out from there where your relationship is heading.

Now I know some people might say there are "cultural" differences that may take precedent in a relationship...however I'm going to remind those people this is the United States of America and no one regardless of ethnic, cultural background should ever feel overpowered by their spouse!

ok that was my 2 cents worth!

[hgdfjdfghgfr 0]

As the husband; My wife and I both have our own debit cards on a joint account. If she needed to, she can spend money...however, I don't really let her spend money just any way she wants. I am the only one working, so of course I am more stubborn about spending money. I think that is really what makes the difference. I want to save money so that we can go on vacations and save for emergency. It is not like she can't spend money, but she has to have self control otherwise I would probably try and make her feel guilty

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

This topic is wrong on so many levels.

Women just cannot be trusted with money, as long as there are still purses and shoes to buy.

[Travelpro 3]

I have this habit of always choosing the cheaper option even if it's not necessarily the best option. My husband HATES it so I guess that's partly the reason why he wants to check what I'm buying first before agreeing to pay for it to make sure I'm not just buying it because it's cheap. We've had so many arguments while grocery shopping because of this. Imagine us walking down a grocery aisle with me in tears because he won't let me get the cheap stuff.

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[Boiler 43,545]

Does anyone have a link to the other thread:

How much money your wife gives you per month?

Edited March 9, 2014 by Boiler

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Does anyone have a link to the other thread:

How much money your wife gives you per month?

$260 every two weeks toward household expenses. The rest is hers.

Thanks to Obama sucking the life out of the economy, she makes more than I do.

[Darnell 8,478]

Hi VJ family , i recently moved to the unites states ,im sitting at the house no Job yet, im trying to find a job in the futur soon, my husband doesn't share financial information with me, i get no money from him for now , i have a question , Im curious to know how much money your husband gives you per month as pocket money including anything you want to do like (hear care, clothes ......) saving .....?

a new marital life for me and I have no idea what the others wifes they do? are you responsable and in charge about the house budget? Food ...ect

Thanks

I suggest:

Talk to your husband about the household budget, ask him to let you manage that, and

he give you all the monies for you* to manage the household budget,

plus a 1 time shot of 2000 to buy the things you need,

then a monthly allowance of 500/month to spend or save.

Later, when you are earning monies, you can offset things.

Sure, it means YOU PAY the monthly household budget items from the monies he gives you, but you (yes, you) gotta start somewhere.

*I not mean all of his monies, I only mean the household budget monies, rent/lease/mortgage, utilities, food.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

I suggest:

Talk to your husband about the household budget, ask him to let you manage that, and

he give you all the monies for you* to manage the household budget,

plus a 1 time shot of 2000 to buy the things you need,

then a monthly allowance of 500/month to spend or save.

Later, when you are earning monies, you can offset things.

Sure, it means YOU PAY the monthly household budget items from the monies he gives you, but you (yes, you) gotta start somewhere.

*I not mean all of his monies, I only mean the household budget monies, rent/lease/mortgage, utilities, food.

Madame, you are sure generous with other people's money. You must be a Democrat!

[Boiler 43,545]

$260 every two weeks toward household expenses. The rest is hers.

Thanks to Obama sucking the life out of the economy, she makes more than I do.

Hopefully your household expenses are very low.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Hopefully your household expenses are very low.

I cover most of the expenses, she covers the health insurance through her work and payroll deductions. The house is paid for, no car payment, so yeah, we are lucky that way.

[flora01 37]

I suggest:

Talk to your husband about the household budget, ask him to let you manage that, and

he give you all the monies for you* to manage the household budget,

plus a 1 time shot of 2000 to buy the things you need,

then a monthly allowance of 500/month to spend or save.

Later, when you are earning monies, you can offset things.

Sure, it means YOU PAY the monthly household budget items from the monies he gives you, but you (yes, you) gotta start somewhere.

*I not mean all of his monies, I only mean the household budget monies, rent/lease/mortgage, utilities, food.

maybe he is just earning 2500 per month or less who knows

i think one needs to understand that if spouse spent money and put efforts to bring you here means he is expecting some understanding from you.

It all depends on family budget what he earns and spends,what his liabilities are.

just thinking about what and how much you should get is not justified.

He brought you in his life to understand him and support him in starting so that he should not start feeling that he committed mistake to bring you here.

[lost_at_sea 995]

Does anyone have a link to the other thread:

How much money your wife gives you per month?

Back home, my mother actually sort of does that. She controls all the spending in my parents relationship (she does the books, knows what the in- and out-goings are etc.) and gives my dad an allowance (even though he makes almost all the money in their household). I believe he likes it that way, so he doesn't have to think about it. A true modern relationship.

In our household, we have a joint bank account that we pay for any living expenses (mortgage, bills, dinners out, stuff for the house etc. We both put part of our income in), and a joint savings account for emergencies/big spends, then we both still maintain individual accounts and savings (another classic "my mother" thing - she always said to have a "rainy day/running away fund", but really it's for buying stuff like clothes and gifts or other personal things). Hubs also has investment/stock thingers, but I know what's in those too.

We both know how much money we have (including roughly what's in each other's personal accounts). It seems crazy to not have the transparency.

We can both spend whatever we like, when we like, without asking (within reason - I'd be pissed if he blew thousands of dollars on something stupid without asking if I thought it was a good idea), even though our wage disparity is quite large (he earns roughly twice what I do in base salary).

Edited March 10, 2014 by lost_at_sea

[Darnell 8,478]

maybe he is just earning 2500 per month or less who knows

i think one needs to understand that if spouse spent money and put efforts to bring you here means he is expecting some understanding from you.

It all depends on family budget what he earns and spends,what his liabilities are.

just thinking about what and how much you should get is not justified.

He brought you in his life to understand him and support him in starting so that he should not start feeling that he committed mistake to bring you here.

Granted,

but

since they not have any conversation about this,

and he's left her sitting around the house,

wondering and asking questions here -

it really begs the question of

'What's really going on?'

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Granted,

but

since they not have any conversation about this,

and he's left her sitting around the house,

wondering and asking questions here -

it really begs the question of

'What's really going on?'

[Darnell 8,478]

no? it doesn't beg that question?

ok - i'll study more, apparently her convos with her husband are buried in the topic.