What happens after you file for Battery ROC?

[Zolicious 1]

My story is:

We met on an online dating site, and we have visited each other and fall in love or I assumed she did.

Then she moved a great deal about to bring me here to the US.

I came here on a traveling visa.. but she fall pregnant.. So we have decided to Stay and file for status change and they granted me 3 months later after I filed for it.

So I'm a legal conditional permanent resident.

After I got my green card, they told me I have to go to work.. so I was looking into jobs but there were none available that time, so I took the driving test got my licence, took GED so I can prove the employers hey I passed it, I'm a hard worker..

And I went to study in college.

But it was not enough.. she and her family demanded more and more, and they seemed not understanding how hard is to find a job when you are foreigner.

They verbally abused me everyday made my life miserable, we had constant arguments, their view on things is just really twisted.

Their idea of a husband is that I earn $6k-10k in a month and their daughter just sit at home raising kids..

Obviously I could not live up for that expectations.

So we have been together 1.5 yrs and they said I cant live in the house anymore, I'm worthless, never going to achieve anything.. even though I was commuting 100 miles daily basis to college with her car and I hold a part time work.. In the hope for I can be a provider 1 day. So they served me with a policeman, and I had to leave.. they bought me though a ticket back to England but I refused it as I said I'm not going to leave my daughter behind.

She took away her car so I couldn't go to work..

She abandoned me, and told me I have to survive on my own if I want to save my marriage because she is going to file for divorce but she wants to see how I do alone.. I have rented an apartment without any food or money help of them, and such as they are my sponsor I could not file for food stamps as they have to pay it back and that time she threatened me with the divorce if I don't become a provider.. I love my daughter so I had to play by her rules.. I only saw my daughter 2 times a month for 8hrs. I have rented an apartment and was constantly looking for job, I eventually ended up making my own business, and over the next 1.5 yrs I got myself a car, even though we filed for joint tax return, she took 80% of the money stating its for child support..or previous year entire tax return went to her 1 yr worth of food storage.. After we married she received way more substantial amount of tax return. Talking about 4k more..

So I was struggling alone, and every time she come she demanded me to pay for the food we eat out and for the fun she was a financial burden on me I was barely able to pay my rent.. and many times the church helped me with my expenses..

Every visit she made here cost me approx $70-$100. She expected me to pay her tire change and the Registration cost and AAA membership which I ended up doing just to prove her I love her and I can provide.. but I never thought she probably never had intention to do so..

she divorced me once through divorcefast.com but she told me she changed her mind because she loves me and she still try to work things out.. but then I realized she just wanted her money back.. so she filed for divorce this year and now its final.

She still living on her parents.

I have built up my business and being successful, I'm renting a 2 bedroom apartment and living there alone, because I still forgave her and wanted to prove I can be a provider and so she stop emotionally hurting me.. and still was not enough..

She told me on the day of our divorce finalization: "why couldn't you do that a year ago?" So no matter what I have done it was never enough..

she continuously referring to her brothers who both earns 6k-10k and paying 1400-4k child support and alimony and she insinuates how crappy husband and dad I'm because I cant.

She seemed to me has no understanding how much is life cost, and I was living off for a year $600 a month that she took 200$ out of it.. how much is a sacrifice was for me..

Its not just her , my sponsors her parents battered me the most..

So my question is: What happens if I file for that, I have paper that I had to take therapy because the stress they caused. I have proof the eviction letter our joint bank account she did not put any money for me there, I even I had to pay her.

What are they going to do with her after I tell that and prove it is happened that way?

[Zolicious 1]

I have sacrificed everything in England just so we can be together and I never thought she and her family turns out to be the way did.. They seemed all nice and she was all lovey dovey.. but after a year she showed her true self, a lazy, Entitlement mindset. I had to pay for all our outings she said if I don't buy Sunsplash season passes she wont come down with my daughter of she only stays for 4hrs.. or she punished me with excluding me from the family outings like going to camping etc.. so I cant spend time with my daughter.. I'm afraid she will retaliate me if I tell the truth. means she will be mean with me making sure I can see my daughter the minimum amount.. And making sure she files for alimony and max child support.. and she is going to be on my case.

The only supporting letter she and her mom wrote to me to give into the removal of condition it emphasised how unfair is the sponsorship, and they want to be excluded from it.

I told her but you guys helped me NOTHING! why are you bothered about I did not file for government help.. and she did not answered.. so I I was wondering why she did not filed for child support when I realized because of the sponsorship if she would do it it would put me in no means to pay my rent and food, and I would have to go to food stamps and other social care and they have to pay it back..

I have already filed my 751 and they said I'm going to be scheduled for an interview I hope I can tell them this and I can still qualify to the citizenship exemption I want to be feel safe that to know I can see my daughter and not fear they can remove me from her life. I have waited 1.5 yrs while we were separated not dated to anyone and I tried to save our marriage giving into her demands I did the extra mile way beyond I should have.

Edited September 28, 2013 by Zolicious

[Darnell 8,478]

i suggest you look at the divorce waiver for ROC, instead of 'battery ROC' .

[Darnell 8,478]

i suggest you look at the divorce waiver for ROC, instead of 'battery ROC' .

[olaru_steve 1]

If u have sufficient evidence to prove besides what you mentioned i.e. Police report and other tangible evidences then u can, but i would recommend u to file for divorce and file ROC with divorce waiver.

[Darnell 8,478]

op wrote but then I realized she just wanted her money back.. so she filed for divorce this year and now its final.

so, OP cannot file for divorce, as 1] the wife did and 2] it's final already.

now the OP is understandably concerned about his ROC case.

It's very straightforward, file ROC alone, without the wife's involvement, ticking the divorce box on the ROC form.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Like Darnell said research divorce waiver, you just have to prove that you entered the marriage in good faith and there was a breakdown.

You're probably going to tell me to stuff it but you need to stop using your child as a crutch. Your child will be okay with the Mum and family (let them play glorified babysitters).

Get yourself into a position of power where you can afford to take care of your child properly.

You seem to have too many fires burning adn I frankly can't see that a small child needs to be in the midst of that.

Good luck.

[M613 6]

I'm always sad to see how terrible circumstances can be and is for so many people. Check out the Effects Of Major Family Changes forum on this site:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/forum/127-effects-of-major-family-changes-on-immigration-benefits/

Scour that forum-many people have been through what you are going through (and worse)-- there is a huge amount of info and support to be found in the posts.

I would consult an attorney when you're ready to do so--information is a powerful balm in hard and scary times.

Edited September 30, 2013 by M613

[Ban Hammer 13,408]

one post removed and returned below minus the snarky reply.

I think your best bet is just worry about your daughter, you don't have to see her anymore, go on with your life. You shouldn't have to deal with her parents either. You let it get to you too much.

[Ryan H 3,813]

Three additional bickering posts removed. Stay on topic or face a thread ban.