withdraw petition

[Pangga&Shine 7]

There is a Phillipines Document called CENOMAR (Certificate or Non Marriage). I requested Sunshine to show me Her CENOMAR on Skype at the start of meetings. The K-1 Visa Flowchart shows what documents are needed when. It is not until they are in the US Embassy that CENOMAR is asked for. If you wanted investigations and confirmations prior to that, then that responsibility is YOURS!!! So no need to Blame the USCIS for any background checks prior to getting to the US Embassy. Simply WITHDRAWL your application and add a check mark to Lessons in Life learned. There are TOO MANY: Single Women WITHOUT Kids there. Try www(dot)Jaderune(dot)com, it is OLDSCHOOL site with no Filters but like anything in life you get out what you put in. Goodluck.

Mr Pangga

[Robb&Ann 101]

yep. u can request for a CENOMAR.. if u really want to confirm if she has been married.. as long as u know her information.. no need for her permission to get this.

you need to know her

complete name ofcourse..

sex,

date of birth,

place of birth (province, city/municipality),

father's name

mother's maiden name

u can pay it through credit card and have it sent to USA or someone u know in the PH..takes weeks if sent to USA but u can have it expedite. that is if u still want to spend money and time investigating and confirming if she is really married or not.. but since u r planning to withdraw already, then i think no need to spend time and money for this..

now for those who are planning to look for their Filipina and u just want to be sure, u can get a CENOMAR of ur Filipina first before going into any process.. that is if u just want to be sure that later on u won't find out that she is actually married already.. but still depends too coz what if the girl gets married during ur relationship (i guess it's rare but it can happen)..

Order CENOMAR at ECENSUS

Payment and Delivery info

[Hank_ 9,173]

Quite a story. OP, I thought you should have cut her loose when she came to you with "I am pregnant with my old BF" .. that was a HUGE RED FLAG!

.. now here you are again.

As some have posted there are TONS of very good women in the Phils, you grabbed a lemon that has been laying on the ground for a month...

Move on.

Embassy Contact Information

http://manila.usembassy.gov/wwwhnv10.html

local number: 632-301-2000 extension 5184 or 5185 ( 011-632-301-2000 ext 5184 or ext 5185 )

(632) 982-5555 or (632) 902-8930.

** (703) 520-2235 (this is a USA number)

For inquiries on a specific case, please call the Immigrant Visa (IV) Unit's inquiry line at (632) 301-2000, extension 5184 or 5185 during normal business hours, except between 12:00 noon and 1:00 p.m.

Edited September 4, 2013 by Hank_

[Shiobhan 235]

Withdraw your petition & move on...what's a man doing with her phone at 6 am

She cheated B4.....trust issues.

Why involve yourself with this #######?...seemingly they have a deep connection

You are being threatened, what if the plan is to come get a GC then in a few yrs she brings him.

Why are you supplying her with food money....Salvation Army here needs it

Is there no one in the US you are attracted to? Its ok to be attracted to anyone but just seeking

out one set of persons

[David & Diana R 1,005]

Everything is so messed up now . I really feel that the guy stole her phone . he claimed she was there , but she was always out or he was . Then he said she is here now but is quiet . So i said just have her give me any personal things only she would know . Like our room number we stayed in or anything for that matter and it was never said . He claims she is his wife and has been for a year at least . That gets past the USCiS NVC or Embassy ? I guess if they did not do a back round check on her maybe . That would mean she was out for my money , but ignores my many pleas for us to set the interview . Thus paying nearly $500 for the 2 fees . Then the nearly $500 for the medical . Other then that I gave her nothing barely $50 maybe every 2 months . Also just last week this guy sent me messages on my facebook telling me I can have her I do not want her .With no talk about her being his wife ! I contacted someone on her facebook and she called her and claims she spoke to her . She said to me she said this " I am with my BF " what happened to the Husband ? Now I have had her facebook account passwords and I checked it out once and she had my name blocked to a few people and that person I contacted was one of them . I do not know if that person has ties to the BF/Husband or not . Also while this guy has been contacting me non stop tonight . He sends me a message " OK babe I will be right home " and then says oops wrong txt sorry . They are visyan wouldn't it be in Visyan language ? Nothing seems to fit at all . If this is all just BS him trying to break us up or keeping his baby from coming here . I would hear from her at some point . I don't think this is me trying to grasp a hold of her still . It really makes no sense at all . Oh and the baby's name . She told me Isabel the guy says Cybell . Said Cybell Pernito Domus . Now my fiancee middle name is pernito , but don't they use the mothers maiden name for the middle name . Pernito being her moms maiden name . Tambis is my ex fiancee middle name , so would it be Cybell Tambis Domus ? OK if they are not married I thought the father name would not appear on the birth certificate nor his last name for the child .

What does make sense to me is that this is way way way too much for me now . BS or not I can not do this anymore . A year of just stress of waiting for Vermont then the transfer . Then she want to delay the visa interview . I just had enough and I am going to withdraw it this week .

Sorry man but just let her go. It's for your own good. There is something going on here for sure. And it stinks. Why would she postpone the interview???...because she is not planning on coming to you. The money you sent, did you see the medical exam results from St. Lukes? That is the ONLY medical facility in the entire Philippines that does these medical exams. If you do not have a hard copy of the results and a receipt in hand it is highly unlikely that she ever got the exam. Quit trying to figure this out. It doesn't matter whether she changed her mind along the way or if she was scamming you from the beginning. What matters is she got pregnant and is cheating on you. It's over. If she really loves you she will figure out a way to contact you. The guy contacting you is probably her brother or a friend just helping her out. Dude, the fat lady has sung.

Aloha Ke Akua

[Cherry&Ed 4]

Do not involve yourself in a complicated chaotic situation. It looks like a scam. It's like playing in the quicksand. Save yourself from headaches, heartaches and whatever aches. You've got all the time in the world to call off everything.

There are a lot of other Filipina women who are better than her; from a good family, with a wonderful upbringing, and well-educated. Do not settle for less when you know you deserve the best.

-Cherry

[David & Diana R 1,005]

While I certainly agree that this is a sad and bad situation and I feel sorry for the OP, let's not confuse girls you might chat with a time or two and ask for money vs. a fiancée you are about to marry. Many guys I know who were in the k1 process sent their fiancée some sort of allowance. Of course if the girl said she needed 20k/month for food that would be a red flag. But a guy who wants to help the woman he is about to marry isn't itself a red flag.

O course in this case a scam seems likely.

I think you misunderstood me. I did not say that an allowance is a negative thing. In fact, I sent my fiance to a private school (for 5 months) where she attened English as a second language classes and she boarded there for safety reasons. I had visited the place where she lived and I would not walk the streets alone during the day let alone at night. I paid the school and dorm fees directly. What I meant about the red flag was when a girl asks for money on the first or second chat...that's a bad sign. Now of course there are many people in the Philippines that are literally hungry so in a way you can't blame some of them. I have been there many times and I have seen the terrible poverty too many times. My wife was raised in a squatter area and I could not even imagine living the way her family was forced to live. But they had no choice. I am 95% sure that this poor guy got duped by the 2% or 3% minority of the Filipina population that takes advantage of others.

Aloha Ke Akua

[Smoochies2011 19]

as a lady I would tell you to not forgive her she already cheated on you what else do you have to wait for !! is sad how girls play and make us all non american citizen look dangerous when it comes to date and get a gc!! liek everybody says there is more fish in the water and you dont have to go all the way to Philippines to find them.

good luck and dont let her fool you!!

[jmgiddyup 2]

To the OP,

Let it go dude it's over! Your heart will heal and you will meet someone else.

[julitathomas0810 30]

I do not feel she used me for the money . She made her choice to sleep with him and got pregnant . I made my choice to forgive her and work out our relationship . I believe she truly is in love with me , but things got so messy and became impossible for it to happen . She told me she hates this man and even hate is a feeling of love . She hates him for what she has done in her life . Perhaps her parents influence and desire to keep there grandchild in the country played some role in her choice . She knew all of these things , but kept them from me allowing me to think this was going to be a reality . Did he steal her phone ? I really do not know and at this point it does not matter anymore . Its done and I am going to withdraw the petition .

With all of this I have met some very nice people . I met an older woman who owns a FIL AM market near my house . I spoke to her and she told me she knows someone at the department of state . She said she would help me start the process and do the things properly to withdraw this . She said she would most likely be blacklisted from the United States . I am not going to be vindictive I am just going to tell the truth . I just want to end this and give that visa to someone else who actually deserves it .

Thank you all for the kind words and advice on my journey . I will most likely be removing my name or at least changing it if I can . If I do meet another I will be more careful for the next time . This one rotten egg will not ruin it for me nor shake my confidence about the filipina's and their culture . I will find friends who know friends who can be more trust worthy . I have a kind heart and as you know this can get me into trouble , but I can not change who I am . I will just have more wisdom in the future about who I meet .

[David & Diana R 1,005]

I do not feel she used me for the money . She made her choice to sleep with him and got pregnant . I made my choice to forgive her and work out our relationship . I believe she truly is in love with me , but things got so messy and became impossible for it to happen . She told me she hates this man and even hate is a feeling of love . She hates him for what she has done in her life . Perhaps her parents influence and desire to keep there grandchild in the country played some role in her choice . She knew all of these things , but kept them from me allowing me to think this was going to be a reality . Did he steal her phone ? I really do not know and at this point it does not matter anymore . Its done and I am going to withdraw the petition .

With all of this I have met some very nice people . I met an older woman who owns a FIL AM market near my house . I spoke to her and she told me she knows someone at the department of state . She said she would help me start the process and do the things properly to withdraw this . She said she would most likely be blacklisted from the United States . I am not going to be vindictive I am just going to tell the truth . I just want to end this and give that visa to someone else who actually deserves it .

Thank you all for the kind words and advice on my journey . I will most likely be removing my name or at least changing it if I can . If I do meet another I will be more careful for the next time . This one rotten egg will not ruin it for me nor shake my confidence about the filipina's and their culture . I will find friends who know friends who can be more trust worthy . I have a kind heart and as you know this can get me into trouble , but I can not change who I am . I will just have more wisdom in the future about who I meet .

Well all I can say is good luck and GOD BLESS. You are doing the right thing, moving on.

Aloha Ke Akua

[Vic20r 14]

I would agree. If a prospective mate starts asking for money that is a sign. Usually bad. I had smany girls on line prior to meeting my one true love that asked for money on the first or second chat. Guess what I did with those contacts??? I deleted them and blocked them. And BEWARE of the my baby, grandma, granpa, uncle, mom, dad, aunty, cousin, sister, brother.....is in the hospital. This is a commonly used ploy. It seems this scenario has been passed from one generation to the next. In my case I visited my girl before I ever sent her any money. She never asked me for money, even after my first visit. Believe it or not there is a web site that Filipinos often use. It is a site where you can learn lies and stories that work. You can cut and paste one lie after another. You can make up a whole person that does not exist. I am not saying that the Filipino girls are the only nationality that have a site like this. I am sure they are available in many countries and languages. Sad really. I am serious, I have seen the site...I will not mention it here because as far as I am concerned it is evil. I mean people share their stories and excuses like it is a joke. It's really horrible.

Aloha Ke Akua

YES!!!..I agree with you David & Zoila..My husband fell on this before i knew him. He was communicating with a woman for almost 1 year..The woman kept on asking money from him using whatever reason she can think of..house was blown away by typhoon...grandma/grandpa died (to think she just killed the grandparents again ..birthday of so and so..this relative was bitten by a rabid dog...And then when my husband surprised the woman with his plane ticket to the Philippines, she got lost contact..phone can not be reached..When i learned this story after a few months meeting my now husband, out of curiosity, i searched her name in Friendster back then and we saw she has more than 5 accounts, and the one that struck us is her pic, with an infant, and a guy and has a caption "my Family"...

[TBoneTX 43,522]

Thank you all for the kind words and advice on my journey.

Good luck, si man.

If this thread is "over" for you (no more input desired, as it sounds), hit the "report" button and ask the Moderators for it to be closed.

Again, all the best.

[verysadguy 170]

Don't rush with your decisions yet.. Check her CENOMAR, this certificate of no marriage should be recent then you decide.

Also, talk to her and have her tell you the truth... don't listen to rumors as it always doesnt end up nice. Its best if the truth comes from her.

Please. These women can never be trusted to tell the truth. End it. Move on.

Signed,

Been there, done that.

[julitathomas0810 30]

I am making up the letters now and plan to mail them today . What would be best to write ? I would like to inform the USCIS that I wish to withdraw my I-129F for the beneficiary (NAME ) and her child( NAME). No reason given would that hurt me later if I met another and they questioned the withdrawn petition ?