What I don't like.

[ChristinaM 0]

Jane, around the time I joined VJ there were a bunch of us who were doing what you're doing - Kezzie and JayJay for two. We all felt the same things you're feeling - the attitude of "how can it be a real marriage if it wasn't planned to the nth degree for months in advance and you didn't go through the hell of separation first?". The trouble is that those who beat on people for getting their green card this way often don't really understand that it is perfectly legal; they still think there's something underhand about it. They also can't get their heads around the fact that that someone can come into the country with every intention of leaving, but circumstances do change.

You're not alone here, and there are serveral of us who have fought for the recognition of the AOS from [insert non-K status here] is (under most circumstances) a perfectly valid for of adjustment. It's getting better, but there are always one or two who feel that it isn't "fair" somehow. They forget that in many cases marriage hadn't even been discussed, let alone planned before the non-USC entered the country.

Stay strong - as AussieWench said, there are plenty of people who will help you without bias.

[Ban Hammer 15,188]

Thanks, Steven. I think I'm off to bed now. Wish me luck...

You'll be visited by 3 ghosts... ah, nevermind...you're probably snoring away by now.

the ghosts of nixon, the republicans past and the republicans future?

[Joey559 1]

I've recently been posting some questions - looking for help with my applications for I-130 and I-145 which I am filing concurrently this week.

I have had a lot of people direct me to the link here on the VJ site with the dire warnings about marriage fraud. Maybe I should not be complaining because I have been given a lot of help, but I am starting to feel like I am some kind of outcast.

I really, really like this site, but I find that the lack of a forum for those of us (and there are TONS), who are already in the US and are having our spouses file a petition for us along with the AOS frustrating. It'd be nice to go there and ask q's about issues and concerns that affect this kind of immigration (and yes it is PERFECTLY LEGAL), rather than to have to post it in the AOS forum and hope no one points me towards the marriage fraud page - again.

Anyway, that's my vent for the day.

I need to make a signature that says "I didn't come here to stay, but ended up staying - No I am not committing marriage fraud" and all would be well.

Lets just make this an anti-jealous thread. Sod em'. Some just need to get away from VJ and the visa journey countdown more and stop comparing their cases to everyone else's. It's been a bit snarky around here lately.

The only people you have to answer to are those gov't workers handling your case. I hope you can see past those here who have taken their own frustrations out on you. Good luck

Oliver Twist would be proud, Alex. "Please sir, I want some more Nyquil."

[Alex+R 0]

Thanks, Steven. I think I'm off to bed now. Wish me luck...

You'll be visited by 3 ghosts... ah, nevermind...you're probably snoring away by now.

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Oliver Twist would be proud, Alex. "Please sir, I want some more Nyquil."

Baaahahahahhahahahahhahaha

[Joey559 1]

Thanks, Steven. I think I'm off to bed now. Wish me luck...

You'll be visited by 3 ghosts... ah, nevermind...you're probably snoring away by now.

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Oliver Twist would be proud, Alex. "Please sir, I want some more Nyquil."

Baaahahahahhahahahahhahaha

Ah, I see the drugs have kicked in. You're easily amused

"PILLS ARE GOOD!!!!!!"

[no name 1]

If you're confident in your relationship, why let an anonymous internet board get to you?

Did you really have to make a whole post whining about it?

[ChristinaM 0]

She has a pretty good point to whine about. When you come to a board for help and support on a legitimate process and you get a bunch of people inferring that your marriage is a sham or that you're trying to deliberately buck the system, you have a right to feel somewhat bitter.

[Ban Hammer 15,188]

She has a pretty good point to whine about. When you come to a board for help and support on a legitimate process and you get a bunch of people inferring that your marriage is a sham or that you're trying to deliberately buck the system , you have a right to feel somewhat bitter.

and it usually comes from two sources. the trolls or the old hands

[almaty 19]

She has a pretty good point to whine about. When you come to a board for help and support on a legitimate process and you get a bunch of people inferring that your marriage is a sham or that you're trying to deliberately buck the system , you have a right to feel somewhat bitter.

and it usually comes from two sources. the trolls or the old hands

old hands???

[Marilyn. 340]

She has a pretty good point to whine about. When you come to a board for help and support on a legitimate process and you get a bunch of people inferring that your marriage is a sham or that you're trying to deliberately buck the system , you have a right to feel somewhat bitter.

and it usually comes from two sources. the trolls or the old hands

some old hands are trolls

[Sinergy 3]

She has a pretty good point to whine about. When you come to a board for help and support on a legitimate process and you get a bunch of people inferring that your marriage is a sham or that you're trying to deliberately buck the system, you have a right to feel somewhat bitter.

very well said

whining is part of this forum, everyone has the right to do it, no matter what the situation IMO