my Izabela will be here friday evening !!

[ScottnIzabela 25]

yep you read it right.

she be here friday 630 pm. so the flight was scheduled LOL

i took the day off. need a hair cut and shave. get cleaned up.

clean the old bmw....get teh convertible top down. cooler with cold drinks in it. i ll leave the beer

in the fridge. and i will be all smiles. i am thinking of going to the point of entry and ambush her

when she is finished there instead of waiting by the baggage claim area....

yes this all is worth it

heck we might have sex before Christmas !!!!

[sn530 27]

Congratulations... just dont speed on the way to the airport.... or on the way back! I know how excited you will be, but try explaining that to the popo.

[JaideeOGH 1]

Congratulations guys..... For all of us who are waiting on NOA2s, you give us hope.

[cathy2904 97]

Yay, at last!! I say meet her at the first available opportunity.

And then manage your expectations. She is going to be shattered - a long day travelling, the time difference, all that emotion. At some point she will crash.

And then there might be some culture shock. I felt totally disempowered. I went from being financially independent to not even having a debit card and having to ask for money for the smallest thing. Trevor found it hard at first to understand why I was in such a hurry to be put on his accounts. And getting my Georgia driving license was another priority for me.

Have a fantastic time and don't worry, it will soon be Christmas!!

[ScottnIzabela 25]

hahahah thanks everyone

yeah she can be the financial gatekeeper.

i wont mind. we will be fine and work it all out. and i planned

on just out to drop off luggage and then a quick bite and back.in her time

it will be 3 am !! hopefully she slept some on the way over

getting a bite to eat now at applebees and then a few short

errands and then i head out to airport and wander around.too nervous

to sit any more.

catch ya'll later

scott

[Holly2234 66]

I hope your first day back together was everything you were both expecting

[kimmie 2]

Yahoo! Congrats! I hope Christmas comes early for you this year.

[X Factor 1,112]

ConGraTuLaTions

[ScottnIzabela 25]

well i am stunned and dont know what to say. she came, was a complete jackass and we are now done. she made it 6 days.

today she starts the day yelling at me, and when i get home from work it picks right up and when i am to the point i want to just walk out

then she wont let me leave, and then starts hitting me.

i have never hit any woman i have ever been with,and today she crossed that line. and we are finished. i grew up in a very abusive home and i absolutely will not tolerate

it in my own life or home.

and i am here wondering why would a woman move 7 thousand miles and then be so ill mannered and abusive?

saturday we had a huge fight because i got her a whole glass of beer instead of the half glass she asked for. is the 1/2 glass of beer upgrade really so offensive to citizens of the UK???

i honestly believe she been trying to provoke a situation where she would be justified in leaving. she did not act like this before.

every sound i made, every word spoken, every movement and every action did not meet her expectations. i could do nothing correctly. and she could do no wrong.

i tried to be nice is asking her to not be so forceful in how she talks to me. and we all know when we are being talked down to. and that is all i had.

i ll be back and read a few more times but then i probably will be gone from here. i am so sick and feel very bad right now. i expected one thing and got another.

how did i go from love to being abused in 6 days?

[Holly2234 66]

Wow im so sorry it worked out this way. I know moving is hard and there are a lot of changes to go through, but acting like that is out of order, no matter how bad she must have been feeling!

I hope you are able to move on from this and find somebody who really makes you happy. For the record, no, more drink isnt offensive to UK people At least not anybody i know!

Onwards and upwards.

[ScottnIzabela 25]

i ll be ok.....my first wife died when i was 35. i was at her side.

i had feared this exact outcome with izabela but once it happened i really cant even compare it. i was devasted when my first died, and just sad and disappointed with what i have here.

i dunno...maybe like a car you buy and the engine blows up on you.

time to move on.

she took all teh food and most of my clothes. what a way to begin one's day.

take care ppeople and dont give up on love. it is worth it.

[Holly2234 66]

Im sorry to hear about your first wife.

She took your clothes? Whatever for?! Do you know if she is planning to go to back to the UK now?

[kimmie 2]

Oh no - I am so incredibly sorry. I can understand how much you were looking forward to this, and must be devastated to have this happen. I can't offer any words other than I am so sorry and if you need to keep venting or want to talk, we are here.

[ScottnIzabela 25]

thanks

i am just lost right now. i guess i will always be lost it seems. time to get back into my classes and leave all this behind. she wants to talk but i mean what is there to realistically do?

the usual pattern of i am sorry and then it all creeps back again. and where will this violence end? i want to be happy, not worried if an argument is provoked. and then out of hand. been doing a lot of thinking

on this. there is a pattern and i see it more clear than before.

i just cant see why or how someone can ruin the relationship that means the most in a country where she knows 2 people. her eyes and ears, her personal guide and ambassador to the local culture and

she just set it alight and walked off and did not care.called me all kinds of horrible things and then strike me me?

i have never had anyone criticize everything i say,wear, do,eat, drive, like, want, listen to . and always acts as tho my prior 45 years of life i have learned nothing and know nothing, and she acts like she does no wrong,and has commited no foul. and her way of talking to me is just how she is. this could be a prime example--

she came to me when i was doing some e mails. and laughed and made ill comments over my 300 or so e mails i have not deleted. storing e mails on a google server/in the cloud even if 30000 of them is nothing.i mean we can probably store a half a million peoples entire e mails ever in plain text on one tera bite hard drive. and then she walks off like she won and smirks and wont even let me explain how meaningless 300 e mails is in terms of space on a server in the gmail section of what we call the cloud. it is like comparing my bank account to how much the US economy generates in dollars.

something needs to unravel here and it needs to see the light of day.

i guess i ll try and go to sleep now.

gnight all

scott

[Darnell 8,478]

scott , I am so aghast - it's a total turn-around from the 1st post.

But I feel your pain.

I guess the great bit is that unless there's a 180 from her, you two aren't gonna get married. That's a big plus, IMO.

But, at some point, you need to decide if'n you want to be in that relationship, or cut your losses. I think yer almost there, to making that decision. I say give her one more week before the final final decision. I know jet lag is over, but I sense there's something else going on - she's mostly lost and she's in 'lashing-out' mode - but I get the sense that she knows 'lashing-out' mode very well, it's so ingrained in her system she does it without thinking.

Good Luck, to you.