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Filed: Timeline

Hi VJ’ers

I apologize in advance if I am posting this is in the wrong forum or should be posting this at the VJ at all.

But here is

My story:

I got married in mid 2009, filed a petition for my wife and she arrived here in US in mid of 2010 (it was an arranged marriage, she was from my aunt’s extended family). Our relationship was not a very smooth one from the very beginning. I felt ignored, not loved or cared for by my wife. She would go for more than 15 days without calling me, but I still filed a petition for her and she got her visa. By that time our relationship was in a really bad condition, I wanted her to resolve the issues by more communication and talking before she comes to the US to live with me. She has an uncle living in California (different state than where I live), and she bought a ticket and arrived in US to his uncle without even telling me. After talking with her parents I found out that she had arrived in the US at his uncle’s. I was very enraged to find this but all the family members got involved over this and matter finally got settled, so I went to pick her up from his uncle’s.

So, we started to live together, and her demeanor had not changed much. Long story short, after about six months, one day, I ran into her email account that she had left open, and found out that she had an affair with another guy from about 2-3 years prior to our wedding. Her parents were against their relationship, so she agreed to marry me because that would get her away from her family and the country. I found from the email that that guy was living in Canada (he had moved there recently, but before he was living in same city where she lived back in India). I could never have doubted her about having another affair and she used me to come to the US and escape from her opposing parents. The way she treated me and how she used to make up stories to make me look bad in front of the family members. She was a cruel, manipulative woman, she would set up things such way that would end up making me look bad and I would come out as the one causing all those things. From her emails with the other guy, I could make out that she was purposely doing things that way that would one day take our relationship to that level where divorce would be the answer. By that time she would have the conditions removed from her green card and she’d be good to go. Going back to that day, when I found out about her affair, her parents also got informed and they talked with her and accused her how she had brought shame to whole family and all that stuff. That night she cut her wrist, we called the 911, took her to the hospital, she told the police officers that it was all her fault and nobody in her husband family was responsible for that. She got a couple of stitches and it was not that bad. She would tell the social workers and the doctors that she did that to punish herself, because she was chatting with another guy and cheating on her husband. Now, only way she could live a normal life or would wish to live at all, if I would take her back. I spent the whole night in the trauma center with her. She was put in the behavioral section for 2 ways because they thought she was not well enough to go back home. My condition at the time was such that I just wanted my life to back to normal. Apart from that, her parents back in India were dreading my parents to give their daughter another chance and not divorce her. For me, I told her if she wants to be with that guy I take responsibility for that, I would make that happen if that’s what she wants. But now, she just wanted to be with me for some reasons. She said she doesn’t want to go to that guy anymore. Again, I bowed down to the elders are took her back. My wife said she had started to feel for me and doesn’t want to go back to that guy anymore and wants to start life from clean slate. I brought her back from the hospital. I made sure that she has some sort of conversation with that guy to put closer.

She thought during that time that only way we can repair our relationship was to have a child, and so she was expecting in January. After about couple of months, I found out that nothing had changed, she was still having conversations with that guy. Not just the conversation, everything one can imagine can happen on web cam between a male and a female. She had madee fake skype ID, and was sharing ultrasound pictures of our unborn child with him. She was telling him, how her life has changed and she imagine him the father of her child. In her messages she also says that she will try to find a girl here whom she can set him up with, so he can also move here. She had accused me for being uncaring and cruel to her. After reading all this, I didn’t say anything to her, because I didn’t want to create a situation that would be dangerous in any way to her or the unborn child. I took her to her uncle in California told her I had found about that, and don’t want to stay with her any longer.

I filed a divorce after the child was born, I want to have custody of the child but my lawyer told me that I have not much chance of getting that because the baby is so young. I have visited the child a few times. Right now she is on public assistance; I kept sending her checks that I consider was appropriate for child support as per my income. My lawyer had advised me to file divorce on non-compatibility basis rather than for fraudulent marriage (because that would have been hard to prove). I have a paid attorney and the wife was able to find a free legal aid, and she is determined to get her the spousal support. I want to and willing to give child support but not the spousal support. She also wants her share from my home (bought before the marriage), another business vehicle (bought when she was still in India), and a car (bought after she had moved to the US). But she have made no contribution to any of these things, everything was purchased with loan (on my name) and some down payment using my own money. Now, she is accusing me of pushing her on the shoulder, grabbing child’s arm, trying to take away the child during the visits, through her lawyer. All these things could have adverse effect on my case. I have done nothing wrong from the very beginning and have to go through this. Now, my lawyer is suggesting me to go through the immigration to have her deported based on fraudulent marriage. Her conditional green card would be expiring in few days. I don’t know with the child born here, she would be deported, and how much money and effort I would have to invest. I have gotten tired of all this and want to get out of this as soon as possible, and cannot live my life like this anymore.

I know this was a long story and read, but I want to talk with people and seek their advice, suggestions. I don’t know what route to go, whether, just go by a normal divorce where I might have to pay her the spousal support because of the I-864 form, or go through the immigration.

My friends, I really need your help or suggestions on what to do. Thank you all for reading this, and please pray for me that I get out of this and my life comes back to normal.

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Filed: Citizen (pnd) Country: Colombia
:wow::wow::wow::wow: oh my


02/24/2012---MAILED I-485,I-130,I-765, TO CHICAGO LOCKBOX
03/08/2012---I-765 WAS TOUCHED
03/17/2012--RECIEVED RECIEPT NOTICE FOR I-485,I-130,I-765
03/23/2012---RECIEVED BIOMET
04/05/2012--I-485 RFE MAILED
04/07/2012--I-485 RFE RECIEVED

06/26/2012-- AOS INTERVIEW!!!!!!!!!
07/07/2012-----10 YEAR GREEN CARD ARRIVES


03/21/2016--- MAILED/FILED N-400

03/24/2016 ---- PACKAGED DELIVERED



04/22/2016-- BIOMETRIC DONE


07/29/2016--- INTERVIEW/OATH



01/20/2012--I-102 MAILED
03/05/2012--RFE MAILED
03/10/2012--RFE RECIEVDD
04/05/2012---RFE REPLIED TO

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Wales

Is there any sort of guarantee/warranty from your Aunts side of the family?

“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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Filed: Lift. Cond. (apr) Country: China

Moved from IR-1/CR-1 Process & Procedures to Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits

Our journey:


September 2007: Met online via social networking site (MySpace); began exchanging messages.
March 26, 2009: We become a couple!
September 10, 2009: Arrived for first meeting in-person!
June 17, 2010: Arrived for second in-person meeting and start of travel together to other areas of China!
June 21, 2010: Engaged!!!
September 1, 2010: Switched course from K1 to CR-1
December 8, 2010: Wedding date set; it will be on February 18, 2011!
February 9, 2011: Depart for China
February 11, 2011: Registered for marriage in Wuhan, officially married!!!
February 18, 2011: Wedding ceremony in Shiyan!!!
April 22, 2011: Mailed I-130 to Chicago
April 28, 2011: Received NOA1 via text/email, file routed to CSC (priority date April 25th)
April 29, 2011: Updated
May 3, 2011: Received NOA1 hardcopy in mail
July 26, 2011: Received NOA2 via text/email!!!
July 30, 2011: Received NOA2 hardcopy in mail
August 8, 2011: NVC received file
September 1, 2011: NVC case number assigned
September 2, 2011: AOS invoice received, OPTIN email for EP sent
September 7, 2011: Paid AOS bill (payment portal showed PAID on September 9, 2011)
September 8, 2011: OPTIN email accepted, GZO number assigned
September 10, 2011: Emailed AOS package
September 12, 2011: IV bill invoiced
September 13, 2011: Paid IV bill (payment portal showed PAID on September 14, 2011)
September 14, 2011: Emailed IV package
October 3, 2011: Emailed checklist response (checklist generated due to typo on Form DS-230)
October 6, 2011: Case complete at NVC
November 10, 2011: Interview - APPROVED!!!
December 7, 2011: POE - Sea-Tac Airport

September 17, 2013: Mailed I-751 to CSC

September 23, 2013: Received NOA1 in mail (receipt date September 19th)

October 16, 2013: Biometrics Appointment

January 28, 2014: Production of new Green Card ordered

February 3, 2014: New Green Card received; done with USCIS until fall of 2023*


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