Our journey is over, so this is goodbye

[munchkins 0]

Well I guess I missed something again which is not unusual, however sorry to see you go homesick, I have read many of your replies and i do not know what has upset you but whichever way you choose to go is up to you but I would also like to add my best wishes to all the others and good luck for your future

[salgood411 0]

Since our journey is now complete I don't feel there's any point in remaining here, especially in view of what happened the other day on Off Topic. I feel that life is too short to tolerate that sort of treatment from anyone, for any reason.

Well, homesick_american, I don't personally know what has happened to you, you seem very sad and disappointed, but I know that we will never succeed in satisfying all the people in this world, that we will never manage to be loved by all those around us. Just stick to your group of friends, to those who've proved loyal and ready to accept you with both your qualities and your defects. None of us is perfect...God bless!

We would just like to say that Callina's words ring very true and that what some may have said here on VJ should not stop you from being a vital link here for those you may touch in the future. By the way I just want to say that Callina's words really struck a chord with me as I too have felt the jarring pain of separation when one of my daughters sent me an e-mail that basically said she did not want anything to do with me. I thank God for the support I received from my other children and family for there is always someone to sustain us through the trials of life. Don't shut yourself out from the rest of us. Many misuderstandings stem from the manner in which words or actions are perceived and communicated. None of us are perfect so allow a little slack. I too don't know exactly what happened here but I hope you'll change your mind and hang around. Best wishes to you and yours.

[truffles 2]

Well...it is always sad when someone breaks up, and i understand the anger and disappointment but as i recall the thread responses - HA got upset because some dared to suggest that there are two sides to everystory - and i beleive HA interpreted the remarks as criticism.

I have a good friend who can be relied on to be frank and honest with me - when i get it wrong she does what every real friend does and tells me so ( NONE of us are perfect and we all need to be reminded of this sometimes). She was invaluable during my divorce and all that comes with that. She is always able to see both sides and always able to encourage positive attitudes from what seem impossible thngs for me - and she is usually right.

Sometimes we need to hear the things we dont really want to hear - and usually people know they risk losing friendship but the overwhelming motivation is to try and help -

even if it is then thrown back - it is also true that sadly when people post it is impossible to always be able to read the tone - this also adds to mis understanding.

When you post in a forum it is like asking a question - you have to be prepared for replies you dont want to hear as well as those you do...hazard of the action.

No "winners" in this kind of thing - but i have to say there is a valuable wealth of life experience on these boards - and i have to say - i dont recall any negative remarks on the thread in question - maybe some alternative ways to look at the situation - but i dont recall anyone being appalling rude i suspect there was attempt to try and offer some balanced views because after all....once you have got the anger out of the system - then you have to get back on the path to sort it out.

[PlatyPius 5]

Well...it is always sad when someone breaks up, and i understand the anger and disappointment but as i recall the thread responses - HA got upset because some dared to suggest that there are two sides to everystory - and i beleive HA interpreted the remarks as criticism.

I have a good friend who can be relied on to be frank and honest with me - when i get it wrong she does what every real friend does and tells me so ( NONE of us are perfect and we all need to be reminded of this sometimes). She was invaluable during my divorce and all that comes with that. She is always able to see both sides and always able to encourage positive attitudes from what seem impossible thngs for me - and she is usually right.

Sometimes we need to hear the things we dont really want to hear - and usually people know they risk losing friendship but the overwhelming motivation is to try and help -

even if it is then thrown back - it is also true that sadly when people post it is impossible to always be able to read the tone - this also adds to mis understanding.

When you post in a forum it is like asking a question - you have to be prepared for replies you dont want to hear as well as those you do...hazard of the action.

No "winners" in this kind of thing - but i have to say there is a valuable wealth of life experience on these boards - and i have to say - i dont recall any negative remarks on the thread in question - maybe some alternative ways to look at the situation - but i dont recall anyone being appalling rude i suspect there was attempt to try and offer some balanced views because after all....once you have got the anger out of the system - then you have to get back on the path to sort it out.

You really had to search to find this one just so you could have a bit of a dig at H_A, didn't you?

[Dawny&Tommy 0]

Have some respect *hugs* HA.

Dawn.

[Jenn! 918]

Well...it is always sad when someone breaks up, and i understand the anger and disappointment but as i recall the thread responses - HA got upset because some dared to suggest that there are two sides to everystory - and i beleive HA interpreted the remarks as criticism.

I have a good friend who can be relied on to be frank and honest with me - when i get it wrong she does what every real friend does and tells me so ( NONE of us are perfect and we all need to be reminded of this sometimes). She was invaluable during my divorce and all that comes with that. She is always able to see both sides and always able to encourage positive attitudes from what seem impossible thngs for me - and she is usually right.

Sometimes we need to hear the things we dont really want to hear - and usually people know they risk losing friendship but the overwhelming motivation is to try and help -

even if it is then thrown back - it is also true that sadly when people post it is impossible to always be able to read the tone - this also adds to mis understanding.

When you post in a forum it is like asking a question - you have to be prepared for replies you dont want to hear as well as those you do...hazard of the action.

No "winners" in this kind of thing - but i have to say there is a valuable wealth of life experience on these boards - and i have to say - i dont recall any negative remarks on the thread in question - maybe some alternative ways to look at the situation - but i dont recall anyone being appalling rude i suspect there was attempt to try and offer some balanced views because after all....once you have got the anger out of the system - then you have to get back on the path to sort it out.

You really had to search to find this one just so you could have a bit of a dig at H_A, didn't you?

I really don't think that it was intentional.

[MichelleandCraig 1]

I have no idea if it was or wasn't, but I would surely hope not. Someone in the position HA is right now really wouldn't need to be picked at! Hopefully it was just one of those *similar* threads that came up at the bottom of the screen or something, because it would be pretty nasty for someon to have gone digging for it...most of the people on this site really are fantastic, but, unfortunately, I can think of a select few who would do it! M.

[Ban Hammer 12,836]

Well...it is always sad when someone breaks up, and i understand the anger and disappointment but as i recall the thread responses - HA got upset because some dared to suggest that there are two sides to everystory - and i beleive HA interpreted the remarks as criticism.

I have a good friend who can be relied on to be frank and honest with me - when i get it wrong she does what every real friend does and tells me so ( NONE of us are perfect and we all need to be reminded of this sometimes). She was invaluable during my divorce and all that comes with that. She is always able to see both sides and always able to encourage positive attitudes from what seem impossible thngs for me - and she is usually right.

Sometimes we need to hear the things we dont really want to hear - and usually people know they risk losing friendship but the overwhelming motivation is to try and help -

even if it is then thrown back - it is also true that sadly when people post it is impossible to always be able to read the tone - this also adds to mis understanding.

When you post in a forum it is like asking a question - you have to be prepared for replies you dont want to hear as well as those you do...hazard of the action.

No "winners" in this kind of thing - but i have to say there is a valuable wealth of life experience on these boards - and i have to say - i dont recall any negative remarks on the thread in question - maybe some alternative ways to look at the situation - but i dont recall anyone being appalling rude i suspect there was attempt to try and offer some balanced views because after all....once you have got the anger out of the system - then you have to get back on the path to sort it out.

You really had to search to find this one just so you could have a bit of a dig at H_A, didn't you?

agreed. a very cheap shot indeed.

[Nagishkaw 510]

Dirty and low down ! I hope it was an *accident* .

[Mags 112]

This was all covered yesterday in another thread. I can see no benefit to the OP (or members of VJ) in leaving it unlocked at present. Thanks for your understanding.