what i can do if i got denied

[Penguin_ie 5,984]

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[Hicham♥Sara 15]

I am sorry for my earlier post =/ My apologies for not offering any useful advice, I have no business giving any anyways since I am not experienced and just starting out, my emotions got the best of me because I feel like I have to defend Hicham, really for no reason other than the reputation at Casa. This thread was asking for help and I used it to vent my feelings, again I do apologize and God be with everyone on their journey.

Sarasusan

[JOEMYSTERIO 0]

I have a question, why is it a red flag if she sent him money? The fact that she only makes $9 an hour? I ask because I make $10 an hour and sometimes send my wife money.

[aaydrian 479]

I have a question, why is it a red flag if she sent him money? The fact that she only makes $9 an hour? I ask because I make $10 an hour and sometimes send my wife money.

Keys words '...sometime I send MY WIFE'. Take into consideration that the norm is for a husband/boyfriend to 'take care' of his wife/girlfriend financially esp with the society that the OP is from. All that paired with in the mind of the CO, none of the answers given in the interview by the OP adds up.

Its seems that in order for you to be successful in countries that are middle eastern & have a high fraud percentages, both parties have to, have to, HAVE TO behave like a typical relationship, that is, treating the much older wife the same as how a 46/50 year old already has kids born and bred Moroccan wife would be treated. Take no short cuts, go all out.

If it is something that is frowned upon (32 yr old man + 50 yr old woman), then the OP and persons in a similar position have a loooooong road ahead of them.

Edited March 9, 2012 by aaydrian

[JOEMYSTERIO 0]

Mmmm, I totally didn't even think of that. I started thinking about me and my wife and panicked a little haha.

[Linds&Youssef 56]

Responding specifically to the question of age difference in MENA countries: whether you'll have children together as a married couple in these countries is pretty much not a question--it's an expectation. It's highly unusual that a married couple in this culture would not have them and propagate the family line. So when a young man who has no children and who is from a high-fraud country (especially when taking money from his female counterpart when this goes against the cultural norm), professes his love for a woman who is not just 20 years his senior but who is no longer in the range of child-baring years, it raises a gigantic red flag. This is partially because of the idea that the man may want to perpetuate his family blood line, but even if that's not the case it's basically what's expected. Hope this helps.