I Hate to sound so pathetic

[tmma 467]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

Everyone knows how you feel, because we have all been through it ( and are still going through it in some cases). The hardest part for me is right after I have been to Holland or he has been here.

I am going to pass on something my friend told me when I was having a mini-meltdown waiting for the NOA2 " don't concentrate on the here and now-look at the BIG picture and concentrate on what is to be".

You cannot let this take you over like it is. You have to eat and sleep and take care of yourself, if for no other reason than to be able to take care of your fiance when she gets here-she will need your help in aclimatising and adjusting to American life and dealing with the enevitable bouts of homesickness-she is going need you to be strong ( not semi-starved, sleep deprived) and to show her you do not " buckle under pressure/stress".. What good are you going to be if you wreck your health now?

She needs you to be strong! Surely she is having a hard time missing you too. One of you has to be grounded, and if it's always her....well, you see where I am going...

However;I know exactly how you feel and sometimes it's Mark's strength and ability to cope that pulls me through and subsequently me for him.

I am sorry if this post does not sound sympathetic, but it is written with the best of intentions.

Cotton-balling you and telling you it's OK to not eat/sleep/function and that that behaviour is normal/healthy would not be honest or helpful.

Honestly I do empathize, I really do. Your job is to do your part to make this LDR work and do your part to keep it and yourself together!

Get busy with something!

Best wishes

tmma

Edited September 10, 2006 by tmma

[knowledge 0]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

You are in love, lust, it's intense, if you are used to be strong and deal less with emotional life, it happens of course and with the distance it's not easy; but it's experiencing a different way of loving at this distance. Just let yourself go to admit you are in love and....enjoy the feeling to it's fulest. In which world are we living to think love is "pathetic" , no way! so do not resist lol...you are the master of your inner world!

[neonmikey 0]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

What are you going to do when faced with a real problem?

thx for your reply fyi im a desert storm vet,i've faced many problems,many hardships and intense physical pain,and would expierience it all again without hesitation if it meant not feeling the way i do now.but i thank you again for your heart felt answer

[tmma 467]

on my post I meant to type **fiancee*...ooops...typo-sorry i am so used to writing "my fiance" meaning Mark, I forget to add the "e" to other people and their lady fiancees...dur

Too late to edit

[incanada1234 0]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

What are you going to do when faced with a real problem?

thx for your reply fyi im a desert storm vet,i've faced many problems,many hardships and intense physical pain,and would expierience it all again without hesitation if it meant not feeling the way i do now.but i thank you again for your heart felt answer

He can be a #### sometimes but he's harmless.

Hopefully your immigration process will go by quickly. I wouldn't hold my breath on that one, but still. I know that the first week after leaving my hubby was always the hardest, but after that it got easier. Then again, we saw each other every two months, so it wasn't TOO too bad.

[JenT 0]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

What are you going to do when faced with a real problem?

thx for your reply fyi im a desert storm vet,i've faced many problems,many hardships and intense physical pain,and would expierience it all again without hesitation if it meant not feeling the way i do now.but i thank you again for your heart felt answer

Sincerely, thank you for your service to our country.

Jen

[tmma 467]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

What are you going to do when faced with a real problem?

thx for your reply fyi im a desert storm vet,i've faced many problems,many hardships and intense physical pain,and would expierience it all again without hesitation if it meant not feeling the way i do now.but i thank you again for your heart felt answer

Sincerely, thank you for your service to our country.

Jen

I just noticed that-I second it also. Hope you didn't think I was being mean with my post ( you can obviously handle pressure/stress)...I was just giving you an honest heartfelt reply. I go through times like that too, and sometimes it takes more than conversation that's cotton-balled to get it all in perspective, if you know what I mean

-HANG ON IN THERE!

Hoping for a speedy visa process for you both!

[Ban Hammer 12,845]

thx for your reply fyi im a desert storm vet,i've faced many problems,many hardships and intense physical pain,and would expierience it all again without hesitation if it meant not feeling the way i do now.but i thank you again for your heart felt answer

hey another one! garry owen!

[neonmikey 0]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

What are you going to do when faced with a real problem?

thx for your reply fyi im a desert storm vet,i've faced many problems,many hardships and intense physical pain,and would expierience it all again without hesitation if it meant not feeling the way i do now.but i thank you again for your heart felt answer

Sincerely, thank you for your service to our country.

Jen

I just noticed that-I second it also. Hope you didn't think I was being mean with my post ( you can obviously handle pressure/stress)...I was just giving you an honest heartfelt reply. I go through times like that too, and sometimes it takes more than conversation that's cotton-balled to get it all in perspective, if you know what I mean

-HANG ON IN THERE!

Hoping for a speedy visa process for you both!

thx for the support...its not easy coming to terms with ones weakness,in my case its just lovesickness..i know this..i really debated on putting out out there..but im glad i did,it was a release,most of the responses are positive and much appreciated.

[knowledge 0]

I know this sounds pathetic and pitiful,but ever since i returned from seeing her last june i've been a complete mess, i cant sleep,i cant eat,i cant concentrate on my work,its gotten a little better in the last couple of weeks..but its day by day...one minute im crying because i miss her so much...and the next im happy thinking of what it will be like when shes finally here..ive always been a survivor..street smart..strong my whole life, but this is bringing me to my knees..i feel like im turning into a basket case..this is how i feel on the inside..but by the looks of me you would never know theres anything wrong. does anyone else feel this way?

What are you going to do when faced with a real problem?

thx for your reply fyi im a desert storm vet,i've faced many problems,many hardships and intense physical pain,and would expierience it all again without hesitation if it meant not feeling the way i do now.but i thank you again for your heart felt answer

My respectful salute to you warrior!

[trip 0]

Totally in the same boat. I'm currently on my 6th day without my baby. I'm on the same emotional roller coaster too my friend. I echo the sentiments of some others, I found that I felt much better thinking of our next meeting at the airport gate, rather than dwelling on the last one. Of course, I admit that this is sometimes impossible to do but it does help me, hopefully it will help you too.

Thank you for your service to our country.

[RiggerAF 0]

Dude you are not alone there. I am feeling the same way you are feeling. It sucks. I feel hopeless, it's been so long and we haven't gotten an approval yet. I am going to visit her next month, I hope to not get crazy when I come back here. I am a little freak out...I might not want to come back here when its time for me to leave Philippines.

[Ta Ta 1]

Asha and Joy, welcome.......I like your style

[bowhunter 0]

. . . does anyone else feel this way?

Yes. Not to tears. Yet. But I come close sometimes. I will admit to tears the last time I left her in Phils because I knew it would be months before I would kiss those lips again. And I know she cries herself to sleep on occasion. October 1st will be one year since we met, and nothing has been the same since. Everything is affected . . . including my work, where I spend all of my time now multi-tasking between thinking about what I get paid to think about, and thinking about what I love to think about - her. And I think there is no cure, though the symptoms will lesson when she's finally here. Hang in there, and look at the positive . . . you are one of the very few truly blessed people in the world that loves someone so much it hurts to be apart.

[GaryC 7]

I know how you feel. In one respect I react opposite from you, I eat like a pig and have put 40 LB's on since this started. To tell you the truth I have a really hard time handling it. That's why I go back every 6 months or so. Because of the annulment Luz had to get this process has been going on for us about 2 1/2 years now. When we are together it's so good. When I have to leave it's SO BAD! But we are dealing with it as best we can. Just remember this, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

I notice that a lot of those expressing similar reactions have filipina fiance's. It must be the fact that they are so sweet and loving that makes it hard to be away!!