divorce....calling 911

[Old Dominion 26]

hi,i got a concern now coz my husband and his family is sending me home without my consent...our marriage is not in good faith, he's having an affair with other woman and its like they are throwing me up...they took all the paper works from me ,the mariage license,they cut my phone,accounts, and all the paper works...and even my conditional green card,but i dont give it to them...we ended up calling 911 becaus they're chasing me already...would u think i can still file for a removal of condition?what are the documents i will be needing?...how will i use the waiver in the removal of conition?

thank you so much in advance

Go to a women's shelter, and also contact the Catholic Charities nearest you. Catholic Charities has an immigration staff that will help you with removal of conditions. The women's shelter will help you get legal help to file for divorce as soon as possible,and also how to get your papers back. Don't delay!

[finallyfree 2]

should i be the one to file the divorce or just wait for him to do it?... i am afraid too that his mom will mess up my social security,because the mom already call my work this morning and tell my employer that i already move to other state...i am planning to get restraining order from the court to protect myself from them,would this be a good move?

Oh, my! I am so sorry you are going through all these. No, do not wait, get a divorce, NOW. And get out of there, pronto!

[pinkhonu 5]

that is rather sad.. seeing that u've only been married for 9 months and he's been already cheating..

what a strange family they have...

i am just wondering.. are u worried about how to get a divorce or how to stay in the country?

[Arla 0]

Something similar is happening to me - my husband was arrested for domestic assault and since then he's cleared the bank accounts and stopped paying rent and utilities to force me and our baby out of the apartment. I went to a domestic abuse shelter and they helped me file a protection order. I advise you to do the same. It'll stop him and his family from trying to control you and it'll give you some documentation to file alone under the abuse category. They also helped me with divorce paperwork.

[sasaqlain 24]

First, Your marriage was in good Faith. Its just that your husband didn't turn out to be the faithful kind. Keep all your papers safe. Gather any form of evidence regarding your hardship in this marriage as proof will be required that you have been subject to domestic violence. Keep track of the account closures, Credit cards cancellations and any such matter that can prove you were the victim. What happened when you called 911? DId they make a report? If so, then you need to get a copy of that. Yes, you can file for removal of conditions seperately but have to prove that you marriage was in good faith. Unfortunately it didn't last long.

Good Luck and sorry to hear about your situation. Preferably, I would hire the services of an attorney.

[whitepearl 0]

thank you for all the advices, right now i would go to catholic charities...as part of it i move to other state where i can be safe...i only have joint account and phone bills,and the utility bills is on his hand,and other paper works, so i dont have a copy of it..when i call the 911, the police just asked me if i have the green card and if i am legal...

its not only the paper that is important to me but my reputation that they destroyed,especially the mom that keeps on tellin other people that im like this and that...it was a nightmare...

thank you for all the replies...

[Old Dominion 26]

good -- you'll find help at Catholic Charities. Moving to another state may not be the best step as far as keeping legal matters as simple as possible but they'll advise you

[SuperDuper! 230]

Always sad to hear these stories here of good love gone bad. Best wishes and happy life to you!

[Norm and Grace 0]

hi,i got a concern now coz my husband and his family is sending me home without my consent...our marriage is not in good faith, he's having an affair with other woman and its like they are throwing me up...they took all the paper works from me ,the mariage license,they cut my phone,accounts, and all the paper works...and even my conditional green card,but i dont give it to them...we ended up calling 911 becaus they're chasing me already...would u think i can still file for a removal of condition?what are the documents i will be needing?...how will i use the waiver in the removal of conition?

thank you so much in advance

Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233

These guys can help you in the right direction. This husband is a monster and his family is trash.

1. Get a restraining order on this guy. Press charges when asked by the police

2. Call the number above

3. Talk to a divorce lawyer

4. Talk to an immigration lawyer

5. Apply for public assistance, you will qualify and you don't have to live in that terrible household

6. Have a good life, and trust me there are good men here in the US.

[Created 6]

Something similar is happening to me - my husband was arrested for domestic assault and since then he's cleared the bank accounts and stopped paying rent and utilities to force me and our baby out of the apartment. I went to a domestic abuse shelter and they helped me file a protection order. I advise you to do the same. It'll stop him and his family from trying to control you and it'll give you some documentation to file alone under the abuse category. They also helped me with divorce paperwork.

thank you for all the advices, right now i would go to catholic charities...as part of it i move to other state where i can be safe...i only have joint account and phone bills,and the utility bills is on his hand,and other paper works, so i dont have a copy of it..when i call the 911, the police just asked me if i have the green card and if i am legal...

its not only the paper that is important to me but my reputation that they destroyed,especially the mom that keeps on tellin other people that im like this and that...it was a nightmare...

thank you for all the replies...

Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233

These guys can help you in the right direction. This husband is a monster and his family is trash.

1. Get a restraining order on this guy. Press charges when asked by the police

2. Call the number above

3. Talk to a divorce lawyer

4. Talk to an immigration lawyer

5. Apply for public assistance, you will qualify and you don't have to live in that terrible household

6. Have a good life, and trust me there are good men here in the US.

I am sorry to hear you are having problems you are not alone. You have good advice here. talk to a lawyer before you leave the state. You will have to get the protection order before you leave. If you contact the local crisis helpine, or even your local helpline, they will help you get the protection order and recover the documents that they are holding. Please do not do anything before contacting an immigration lawyer, the shelter will help you with this also. Call the police and tell them you want to leave, but they are withholding your documents.

Immigration dont care who filed for divorce. You do not need to have the divorce before filing for waiver. A good immigration lawyer will guide through the process. Catholic Charities will provide divorce & immigration lawyer. The sheler will help you with pro bono lawyers and help you get you life back on track.

It is not ok to let them do this to you. Please let us know when you are safe.

[Old Dominion 26]

I am sorry to hear you are having problems you are not alone. You have good advice here. talk to a lawyer before you leave the state. You will have to get the protection order before you leave. If you contact the local crisis helpine, or even your local helpline, they will help you get the protection order and recover the documents that they are holding. Please do not do anything before contacting an immigration lawyer, the shelter will help you with this also. Call the police and tell them you want to leave, but they are withholding your documents.

Immigration dont care who filed for divorce. You do not need to have the divorce before filing for waiver. A good immigration lawyer will guide through the process. Catholic Charities will provide divorce & immigration lawyer. The sheler will help you with pro bono lawyers and help you get you life back on track.

It is not ok to let them do this to you. Please let us know when you are safe.

Catholic Charities will not become involved in advising on divorces.

[Created 6]

Catholic Charities will not become involved in advising on divorces.

NO PROBLEM. Once you are being sheltered, you will have access to the legal help you need. The shelter will have a curfew but it is for your protection. You will also have a caseworker and a counsellor that will work with you. I wish you the best.

[whitepearl 0]

what kind of waiver is it?is it the waiver that i can use in my removal of condition?...i was planning to wait for him to divorce, would that be good idea?i already called the catholic charities but the person concern in immigration is on vacation, i feel much more safe now, i move out the state and stay with relatives....

[Darnell 8,478]

timing is an issue, reread my post here in yer topic about it ?

as for 'the waiver' - is a written letter, requesting the waiver of 'current marriage requirement'.

Also -

I suggest YOU file the divorce, instead of HIM filing the divorce.

He/She who FILES the divorce, controls the process.

Edited June 29, 2010 by Darnell

[IncorrectPolitics 26]

what kind of waiver is it?is it the waiver that i can use in my removal of condition?...i was planning to wait for him to divorce, would that be good idea?i already called the catholic charities but the person concern in immigration is on vacation, i feel much more safe now, i move out the state and stay with relatives....

Did you get your green card back and were you able to gather any paperwork or police reports from the 911 call?