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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: England
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I thank god for the internet because if it was not for instant messenger and email i could not cope i dont think.

I am lucky in that I was able to stay with my husband in the US on a tourist visa for the 3 months after our wedding. I just returned home on saturday and I am really not coping being apart from him. The first few days are always the hardest but this time it just feels really hard to be apart.

I was wondering what all of you do to cope with the distant we all have to deal with while waiting for our approvals.

I-130 Process

NOA2 Approval recieved in the mail - 08/09/06

I-129F Process - With new form!

NOA2 arrived in mail - 08/26/06

NVC For I-129F

Arrived at NVC and Case # assigned - 08/28/06

Case Sent to London - 08/31/06

Packet 3 arrived - 09/13/06

Packet 3 Sent - 09-14-06

Medical - 09-21-06

Recieved Police Certificate - 10-03-06 (Took 34 days)

Packet 4 arrived - 10-04-06

INTERVIEW - 10-18-06 -APPROVED!

POE - Boston - 10-25-06

AOS Process

Sent AOS - 01/09/07

NOA arrived in the mail - 01/22/07

Biometrics Appointment - 02/02/07

Recieved EAD card - 04/02/07

Applied for SSN - 04/06/07

Recieved SSN - 04/16/07

AOS Interview - 06/06/07 - APPROVED

Greencard recieved - 06/22/07

Petition to remove conditions

Sent I-751 package - 03/13/09

Notice date - 03/27/09

Biometrics appointment - 04/11/09

CRIS email saying card production ordered - 07/25/09

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Egypt
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I thank god for the internet because if it was not for instant messenger and email i could not cope i dont think.

I am lucky in that I was able to stay with my husband in the US on a tourist visa for the 3 months after our wedding. I just returned home on saturday and I am really not coping being apart from him. The first few days are always the hardest but this time it just feels really hard to be apart.

I was wondering what all of you do to cope with the distant we all have to deal with while waiting for our approvals.

Honestly i pray an awful lot. it is very hard. Everyday i just say to myself i am one day closer to the one i love. I have not seen my honey now for 8 months and i know i have still a long wait ahead of me, but its very difficult at times. We both cry alot but when we do we just talk about how our life will be once we are together that also gives me happiness. So i know we all need to hang in there. I know that my time will come when i will be with my love.

AJ1

7/17/2005----I met the love of my life.

1/18/2006----Arrived in Egypt to visit my love.

5/11/2006----Sent I129F.

6/15/2006----Recieved NOA1.

6/22/2006----Recieved RFE (IMBRA).

7/12/2006----Replied to RFE (IMBRA) Sent back.

7/17/2006----Our 1 year Anniversary!!!!

7/19/2006----VSC recieved RFE (IMBRA).

7/20/2006----touched

8/18/2006----touched

8/18/2006----NOA2!!!!!! THANK YOU GOD!!!!

8/18/2006----VSC sent our petition to NVC.

8/19/2006----touched

8/22/2006----NVC recieved our petition.

8/23/2006----NVC sent our petition to Cairo Embassy.

8/25/2006----Recieved NOA2 Approval letter in the mail.

8/28/2006----Recieved NVC letter with new case number.

8/31/2006----Cairo Embassy recieved our petition.

9/24/2006----I emailed the Embassy reguarding my fiance's packet 3.

10/17/2006--Cairo sent packet 3 for the second time to my fiance. First one was never recieved.

10/19/2006--Packet 3 recieved.

12/20/2006--Packet 3 sent.

12/21/2006--Cairo Embassy recieved packet 3.

2/21/2007---Packet 4 recieved.

3/12/2007---Interview (He Passed)!

3/12/2007---Administrative Processing begins.............God please help me get through this!

7/17/2007---Our 2 Year Anniversay!!!

10/23/2007--7 months and 2 weeks of A/P and still waiting..........God help me!

4/22/2008---2nd Interview ( keep us in your prayers)

4/22/2008--He was approved for the Visa 2-3 weeks until he recieves it in the mail lets hope so!!

6/03/2008--VISA IN HAND! Thank you god!

7/03/2008--Our Wedding Day!

"NEVER GIVE UP"

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Nigeria
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I thank god for the internet because if it was not for instant messenger and email i could not cope i dont think.

I am lucky in that I was able to stay with my husband in the US on a tourist visa for the 3 months after our wedding. I just returned home on saturday and I am really not coping being apart from him. The first few days are always the hardest but this time it just feels really hard to be apart.

I was wondering what all of you do to cope with the distant we all have to deal with while waiting for our approvals.

Honestly i pray an awful lot. it is very hard. Everyday i just say to myself i am one day closer to the one i love. I have not seen my honey now for 8 months and i know i have still a long wait ahead of me, but its very difficult at times. We both cry alot but when we do we just talk about how our life will be once we are together that also gives me happiness. So i know we all need to hang in there. I know that my time will come when i will be with my love.

AJ1

I simply check the VJ forum every 30 min

May 2001 Met online

May 2005 Finally Made first visit

May 2006 Second visit

]uly 17, 2006 mailed I-129F to TSC

July 18, 2006 received delivery notification from USPS

July 21, 2006 NOA1 mailed from CSC

July 26, 2006 NOA1 received from CSC

Oct 20, 2006 NOA2

Nov 15 2006 Left NVC

Mar 1 2007 Interview Date

Mar 6 2007 Visa Granted

Mar 17 2007 JfK POE (enjoyed NY for a week)

Mar 25 2007 Arrived in the my cityb]

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I thank god for the internet because if it was not for instant messenger and email i could not cope i dont think.

I am lucky in that I was able to stay with my husband in the US on a tourist visa for the 3 months after our wedding. I just returned home on saturday and I am really not coping being apart from him. The first few days are always the hardest but this time it just feels really hard to be apart.

I was wondering what all of you do to cope with the distant we all have to deal with while waiting for our approvals.

Honestly i pray an awful lot. it is very hard. Everyday i just say to myself i am one day closer to the one i love. I have not seen my honey now for 8 months and i know i have still a long wait ahead of me, but its very difficult at times. We both cry alot but when we do we just talk about how our life will be once we are together that also gives me happiness. So i know we all need to hang in there. I know that my time will come when i will be with my love.

AJ1

I simply check the VJ forum every 30 min

:thumbs:

I cope with being a part from Bingo by living from phone called to phone call or chat to chat.

I look forward to the next time we chat or I hear his voice. since we talk daily - 12Pm my time. I get happy then its time to hear my Bingo!!! I get happy again because, 1 30 am its time to hear my bingo again.

when we dont talk - I always can expect a cute text message.

I try to involve my husband in my world. example:

if I am going to the store I might text him something silly like " baby want something from the store? "

he would respond with something like " yeah grab me some orange fanta please".

sometimes he would send me a text like " shonnie where are my green shoes" :lol:

I would say " under the bed - dog was chewing on them " . sometimes its simple text like

he would say " shonnie wanna meet me for dinner? ". my response..

" sure, I meet you in 5 mins".

these things are silly but, it keeps us pacified til we meet each face to face again.

1 1/2 years later it still works for us.. :(

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Filed: AOS (pnd) Country: Canada
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Let's be honest. None of us figured this would be such an emotional experience. But the separation has made us grow in many ways. We are stronger as couples for weathering this storm together. We are richer spiritual beings for having looked at the bigger picture.

What is love? Something beyond the bedroom, for sure. It is to connect with the source of love. If you have a basic instinct of a creator, you'll understand. No matter which religion you happen to be raised in, the law of love is the same: love others the way you want to be recognized, respected, and validated.

So here's the bonus. You thought you'd simply submit a petition and wait to be approved. You never thought you'd grow and be proved in the ultimate law of love.

Now we have a responsibility. If we come through this with visas, we need to be loving, generous couples who share the abundance of our many blessings.

It's not enough to grab the visa and run. We need to give thanks by being a source of compassion to others.

Edited by Jersey Girl

I-130 sent Mar 30, 06

approved Aug 15, 06

I-129f sent April 24, 06

approved July 27, 06

Montreal interview Jan 18, 07

POE Toronto Jan 28, 07

EAD sent Jan. 30, 07

transferred to Vermont Feb 12

biometrics Feb 22

approved March 13

card returned undeliverable! March 27

called after 6 weeks to have EAD re-sent

AOS sent Jan. 30, 07

biometrics Feb 22

RFE for complete medical (!) Feb 23

Called Senator from NJ - never returned call

Infopass March 19 (no help)

Replied to RFE with duplicate medical March 19

Sent additional evidence (I-693A) March 26

NBC received supplement March 30

touched April 4

Interview July 16

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: England
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The replies I've read on this thread have instantly made me feel just a little bit better about the feelings of separation I'm having. The moment my Sweetie and I discovered how long we would have to wait to live together, it was like the world closed in. How would we make it? I guess I'll never have to know how we would have made it on our own - even when I'm not actively posting, just reading this forum has made me feel less alone and much better understood. Thanks, everybody. And CapeG, thanks for asking this and giving us all a chance to share (or even just reflect). When it comes down to it, for me this is really the most important question I've read since I joined VJ.

PS - JerseyGirl, your answer made me cry for a minute! Thanks for that, too. Sometimes it's just what I (we?) need.

Filed: Lift. Cond. (pnd) Country: Peru
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Listen to JerseyGirl....hers are very wise words.

I love to add to my list of "Things My Baby and I are Going to do Together When He Comes Home"... ;)

After several months of absolute misery, I realized that my attitude was helping no-one...especially my husband. My perspective on our time apart changed when I decided that we could either cry and feel sorry for ourselves, or do everything within our power to make the most of our separation. While we are apart, we are taking full advantage of our resources and learning how to make each other feel loved everyday despite the distance. In doing so, our marriage is getting stronger, our love more enduring, and our friendship so much closer.

We all have a choice: To conquer or be conquered.

Some days are better than others. I still cry and feel sorry for myself sometimes. But always I'm reminded that everything happens for a reason. And I know the day my husband and I are together again will bring me a joy few in this world will ever know.

ONE DAY AT A TIME....

REMOVAL OF CONDITIONS

12/30/2008: Overnighted I-751 package to VSC

01/06/2009: Check cashed

01/06/2009: NOA (arrived 01/09/09)

01/23/2009: Biometrics appt letter received

01/31/2009: Biometrics scheduled

05/20/2009: APPROVED

06/23/2009: 10 Year Green Card arrived

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: England
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Matcoody - I found myself thinking this earlier tonight, that the reason i come to the site so much is because i feel like everyone here better than any of my friend really understands how i feel.

Yet i realised i dont think i have ever read a thread where anyone has asked this question. I am so tired of my friend saying things like "you will see him soon", "It will be over before you know it", " You know what you were getting into". Yet when i ask then could they be without there spouse for x amount of time they say no without hesitating.

I also try to explain that what person in there right mind would activly choose to fall in love with someone from the otherside of the world. I had no choice in it, it just happend, being without my husband is something i have been doing for 3 years. I wake up feeling like something is missing when we are apart and i think if anyone the members here know what i am talking about.

I think alot of my friends take there loved ones for granted and through this process i have learnt that never ever take anything for granted, but cherish the time you have.

I wish all of you hugs, and speedy processing!

I-130 Process

NOA2 Approval recieved in the mail - 08/09/06

I-129F Process - With new form!

NOA2 arrived in mail - 08/26/06

NVC For I-129F

Arrived at NVC and Case # assigned - 08/28/06

Case Sent to London - 08/31/06

Packet 3 arrived - 09/13/06

Packet 3 Sent - 09-14-06

Medical - 09-21-06

Recieved Police Certificate - 10-03-06 (Took 34 days)

Packet 4 arrived - 10-04-06

INTERVIEW - 10-18-06 -APPROVED!

POE - Boston - 10-25-06

AOS Process

Sent AOS - 01/09/07

NOA arrived in the mail - 01/22/07

Biometrics Appointment - 02/02/07

Recieved EAD card - 04/02/07

Applied for SSN - 04/06/07

Recieved SSN - 04/16/07

AOS Interview - 06/06/07 - APPROVED

Greencard recieved - 06/22/07

Petition to remove conditions

Sent I-751 package - 03/13/09

Notice date - 03/27/09

Biometrics appointment - 04/11/09

CRIS email saying card production ordered - 07/25/09

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: England
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Matcoody - I found myself thinking this earlier tonight, that the reason i come to the site so much is because i feel like everyone here better than any of my friend really understands how i feel.

Yet i realised i dont think i have ever read a thread where anyone has asked this question. I am so tired of my friend saying things like "you will see him soon", "It will be over before you know it", " You know what you were getting into". Yet when i ask then could they be without there spouse for x amount of time they say no without hesitating.

I also try to explain that what person in there right mind would activly choose to fall in love with someone from the otherside of the world. I had no choice in it, it just happend, being without my husband is something i have been doing for 3 years. I wake up feeling like something is missing when we are apart and i think if anyone the members here know what i am talking about.

I think alot of my friends take there loved ones for granted and through this process i have learnt that never ever take anything for granted, but cherish the time you have.

I wish all of you hugs, and speedy processing!

Amen, Sister. :thumbs:

I feel for my friends and family sometimes because they want to show support but there's only so much they can say, and everything always comes out like a cliche no matter how pure the sentiment. Isn't it true of pretty much all tough life situations?

The people who love me also love my Guy and genuinely want us to be together, and just knowing that helps a lot. You're right, this whole thing has taught me not to take any one of those people for granted.

Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Morocco
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We were married September 20,2005, I came home 3 days later. It was almost 9 months before I was able to go back and be with him. We have been apart for two months again and no end in sight. I just try to take it one day at a time, thinking of the months apart is too much. So everyday I look forward to talking to my husband on yahoo and in between I try to stay busy and find something to do that makes me smile(Usually quilting with my Mom and sister, or watching an Adam Sandler movie). As others have said this time apart has helped us grow as a couple. We have a chance to really talk about life, love, the future and really get to know each other. Not despite but BECAUSE of the distance this is the closest, most emotionally satisfying relationship I have ever had. We just try to think how much we will appreciate being together when he finally gets here. Just one day at a time!!!!

Filed: Citizen (pnd) Country: Ghana
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I love that CapeG has posted this question because as so many VJ members so eloquently stated, we all find ways to show our love to each other across international waters and have suprisingly found along the way that this visa process paired with the long periods away from our significant others have somehow strengthened our relationships and tested the depths of our love and commitment to our spouses/fiances.

How do me and my significant other cope? We find ways to incorporate each other in our daily lives such as text messages, yahoo chats, spending endless amounts of $ on calling cards and just staying hopeful and optimistic that this separation will end on a happy note with us together. Many of my friends have no idea and cannot understand how it is to be with someone so far away. Many of them think its rather absurd, but I could care less what they think. They do not know just how beautiful me and my husband's relationship is. We were only married 1 day and half before we parted ways and that immediate separation was so painful for me. I think it took me about a whole month to adjust being without him even though we only spent 2 weeks together. Its been about 7 months now since we've seen each other. We do pray alot, cry alot and there are moments when he is down and I am there to make him feel better and vise versa. Our relationship is built on trust and is rooted with the strong faith in God. We laugh alot because there is alot of humor to be found in this rough process and there isnt a day that doesnt go by that we dont tell each other, I love you. (L):star:

March 8, 2010 N-400 priority filing date

April 21, 2010-biometrics apppointment

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Philippines
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AJ1

I simply check the VJ forum every 30 min

I now live on this site just waiting for an approval so I can feel i am closer

3/11/06 - 3/26/06 Visited my baby in the PI's

3/29/06 - K1 packet recieved at NSC

6/01/06 - Redirected to CSC

6/14/06 - CSC e-mailed confirmation on the reciept of file

6/23/06 - They they sent the IMBRA RFE

7/03/06 - The emailed that the IMBRA RFE went out on 6/23/06

7/03/06 - I received IMBRA RFE

7/05/06 - Touched

7/06/06 - Delivery Confirmation from the Post Office RFE recieved

7/11/06 - Email notification from CSC that IMBRA RFE Recieved

7/12/06 - Touched (but was to respond to an email that only said 'request recieved and will be processed within 30 days. argh)

7/13/06 - Touched

NOA2 September 11!!!

10/18/06 - Received at Embassy

12/23/06 - Recieved package with interview/medical schedule

01/08/06 - CFO interview/(pre-departure class) Complete

1/11/07 & 1/12/07 Medical complete

02/05/07 - Interview!!!

2/7/07 (2/8/07 manila) - Informed we are approved...3 days after interview.

2/12/07 Visa Received

2/16/07 Baby arrives in US!!!!!

4/14/07 Wedding

4/21/07 Filed AOS

 

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