My beautiful wife is very irresponsible

[AandD 20]

The focus for solutions should not be on her behavior or choices, as she is just like an indulged child who is allowed to do what she likes.

Rather the focus is best placed on the attitudes and expectations of the OP who has given away all his personal power and now wishes he hadn't.

My suggestion to the OP is that you consider that the behaviors you don't like are symptoms of conflicts around power in the relationship. Perhaps her wasting of resources is an expression of personal power and you have gladly given yours away in exchange for 'fun to be with"

My sense is that you would do best to find ways to assert your needs and boundries and values around thrift, resources, and wastefulness. It is then her choice to either respect them or not.

Should you choose to continue to stay in your current role despite evidence that she will not respect you, then you, my friend, have far greater concerns than the water bill and the number of bars of soap being used.

[tallcoolone 102]

The focus for solutions should not be on her behavior or choices, as she is just like an indulged child who is allowed to do what she likes.

Rather the focus is best placed on the attitudes and expectations of the OP who has given away all his personal power and now wishes he hadn't.

My suggestion to the OP is that you consider that the behaviors you don't like are symptoms of conflicts around power in the relationship. Perhaps her wasting of resources is an expression of personal power and you have gladly given yours away in exchange for 'fun to be with"

My sense is that you would do best to find ways to assert your needs and boundries and values around thrift, resources, and wastefulness. It is then her choice to either respect them or not.

Should you choose to continue to stay in your current role despite evidence that she will not respect you, then you, my friend, have far greater concerns than the water bill and the number of bars of soap being used.

Lets Stop This Insanity

It was posted as a humorous thread.

No need to be giving Dear Abby replies here

He sure gut hooked a lot on this thread

[john & jean 37]

The focus for solutions should not be on her behavior or choices, as she is just like an indulged child who is allowed to do what she likes.

Rather the focus is best placed on the attitudes and expectations of the OP who has given away all his personal power and now wishes he hadn't.

My suggestion to the OP is that you consider that the behaviors you don't like are symptoms of conflicts around power in the relationship. Perhaps her wasting of resources is an expression of personal power and you have gladly given yours away in exchange for 'fun to be with"

My sense is that you would do best to find ways to assert your needs and boundries and values around thrift, resources, and wastefulness. It is then her choice to either respect them or not.

Should you choose to continue to stay in your current role despite evidence that she will not respect you, then you, my friend, have far greater concerns than the water bill and the number of bars of soap being used.

Lets Stop This Insanity

It was posted as a humorous thread.

No need to be giving Dear Abby replies here

He sure gut hooked a lot on this thread

great analogy Jack!!!

[SuperDuper! 230]

TCO Does It Again!

[tallcoolone 102]

Ole Bobby Plant Screaming my theme Song.

[I'm Gone 60]

I say tell her due to her wasteful ways you need to make cutbacks and buying rice is the first thing to go. I'm certain that will get her attention. LOL

I had a problem with my daughter spending all day in the shower. I bought a kitchen timer and told her when the timer goes off I'm cutting the water off if she wasn't out of the shower.

Daughter would leave lights on and I started telling her to me me a quarter every time she left on a light.

I never had a problem with food being wasted, since my rule is if it goes on the plate you eat it even if you have to sit there all night.

Main thing is that anything you tell her you are going to do you follow through on.

[Jasman0717 8]

I say tell her due to her wasteful ways you need to make cutbacks and buying rice is the first thing to go. I'm certain that will get her attention. LOL

Couldn't help myself, bought her 50# fo rice over the weekend. Maybe it was the golf club through the back window that convinced me

[NArocks 13]

I say tell her due to her wasteful ways you need to make cutbacks and buying rice is the first thing to go. I'm certain that will get her attention. LOL

Couldn't help myself, bought her 50# fo rice over the weekend. Maybe it was the golf club through the back window that convinced me

[Ndrangeta_one 0]

I say tell her due to her wasteful ways you need to make cutbacks and buying rice is the first thing to go. I'm certain that will get her attention. LOL

Couldn't help myself, bought her 50# fo rice over the weekend. Maybe it was the golf club through the back window that convinced me

:rofl:

Not to mention all the other stuff that was ready to go through the windows too.....

[Don José 2]

Maybe it was the golf club through the back window that convinced me

There should be no golf club through the back window if you stop playing in tournaments for couples where she ain't in your foursome!

BTW on the Tiger saga:

Sources say that Tiger was in his shorts and t-shirt and without shoes when the "accident" occurred. I think this means that he was about to putt when the missus grabbed a pair of scissors and about to do a Lorena Bobbitt!

[toma1 10]

mine's the exact opposite...sorry dude.

ME TOO! She sews her own clothes, even purses. Won't buy ANYTHING frozen or canned--everything is cooked from scratch from farmer's market stuff. She even wanted me to stop leaving the water on when I shave and brush my teeth. OK, I agreed for teeth brushing. But shaving? I gotta have running water.... we compromised on that.

Edited December 1, 2009 by toma1

[luckymom 0]

Life in the Philippines is a total opposite of my life here. I worked hard for our family and when I came here the first thing I was thinking is I'm very lucky to have a husband who's providing us most of the time. I am not contributing much in financial aspect and I have two sons whom he petitioned. Nowadays, people should be not wasteful in all aspects because life is becoming harder and harder. I don't know for some people but most filipinos I know are valuing everything that they're having especially if they were working all their lives but they also spend money for things that they crave for. Being wasteful is a very common sense issue. I for one always remind my kids that they must conserve electricity, water etc. Since they are minors I want to instill in their minds the value of hardwork. You have to work hard if they want to have something, and if they have that something already they should learn to preserve and value it.

[rk17 0]

My sweet little Claudeth is a wonderful, giving woman but is also the most irresponsible person I have ever met in my life. I never seen anyone melt a bar of soap before but she does it. She can plug up the shower drain quickly and just loves to take 30 or 45 minute showers twice a day. She leaves the lights on constantly and the refrigator open all the time. She will fill her plate full of food and eat about 1/4 of it and the rest goes in the trash.

I am totally at my wits end. I have been dealing with this for 4 1/2 years but have made no progress in teaching her conservation. I love her very much and would never dream of getting rid of her but have been thinking of sending her to the Philippines for a visit.

Has anyone else had this problem? I have heard comments off and on but nothing consistant with what my little consumer does.

aww thats sad ..well what can i say...i suggest u talk it over 2, 3 times wouldnt hurt ..is she willing to cmpromise? if u feel comfortable of sending her back here inth phil for a vacation, maybe that'd be a wise decision so that she would realize the difference of having u around and not...maybe when she gets back to u she would somehow realize that she's wrong..good luck to both of u...God bless

[Jo-bel 0]

My sweet little Claudeth is a wonderful, giving woman but is also the most irresponsible person I have ever met in my life. I never seen anyone melt a bar of soap before but she does it. She can plug up the shower drain quickly and just loves to take 30 or 45 minute showers twice a day. She leaves the lights on constantly and the refrigator open all the time. She will fill her plate full of food and eat about 1/4 of it and the rest goes in the trash.

I am totally at my wits end. I have been dealing with this for 4 1/2 years but have made no progress in teaching her conservation. I love her very much and would never dream of getting rid of her but have been thinking of sending her to the Philippines for a visit.

Has anyone else had this problem? I have heard comments off and on but nothing consistant with what my little consumer does.

Well sorry to hear that, but there are many Filipina who are very responsible and some are not. Be thankful that she is just irresponsible....

My husband married a young Filipina before. She was very irresponsible, etc... but my husband deal with her for 6 suffering long years, to save the marriage until he gave up because it was too much.

1. She doesn't know how to cook (she never cooked when they were together), most of the Filipina is good in taking care of their husband

2. She hardly clean the house and always left her stuff any where and asked her husband on that time to clean it

3. Stole $300 when she was a cashier

4. Had many bf's during their marriage

5. Have a nasty mouth

6. Always in the bar with other men

7. Working, but hardly share for the bills payment and let her husband worked 2 jobs while she was buying all her wants and going to the bar

8. Threw a plate to her aunt, ruined the door

9. Committed an adultery and got pregnant with other man because this man is rich

10. During their divorce asked my husband to sale the house and get 50% of the value

11. My husband is now paying her $10,000 student loan

And many many more crazy things she did, these were true and there are papers to prove it and persons that testified.

So you are so lucky that your wife is just irresponsible, because we have all our weaknesses... some Americans might experience the same and some in the future

[tallcoolone 102]

My sweet little Claudeth is a wonderful, giving woman but is also the most irresponsible person I have ever met in my life. I never seen anyone melt a bar of soap before but she does it. She can plug up the shower drain quickly and just loves to take 30 or 45 minute showers twice a day. She leaves the lights on constantly and the refrigator open all the time. She will fill her plate full of food and eat about 1/4 of it and the rest goes in the trash.

I am totally at my wits end. I have been dealing with this for 4 1/2 years but have made no progress in teaching her conservation. I love her very much and would never dream of getting rid of her but have been thinking of sending her to the Philippines for a visit.

Has anyone else had this problem? I have heard comments off and on but nothing consistant with what my little consumer does.

Well sorry to hear that, but there are many Filipina who are very responsible and some are not. Be thankful that she is just irresponsible....

My husband married a young Filipina before. She was very irresponsible, etc... but my husband deal with her for 6 suffering long years, to save the marriage until he gave up because it was too much.

1. She doesn't know how to cook (she never cooked when they were together), most of the Filipina is good in taking care of their husband

2. She hardly clean the house and always left her stuff any where and asked her husband on that time to clean it

3. Stole $300 when she was a cashier

4. Had many bf's during their marriage

5. Have a nasty mouth

6. Always in the bar with other men

7. Working, but hardly share for the bills payment and let her husband worked 2 jobs while she was buying all her wants and going to the bar

8. Threw a plate to her aunt, ruined the door

9. Committed an adultery and got pregnant with other man because this man is rich

10. During their divorce asked my husband to sale the house and get 50% of the value

11. My husband is now paying her $10,000 student loan

And many many more crazy things she did, these were true and there are papers to prove it and persons that testified.

So you are so lucky that your wife is just irresponsible, because we have all our weaknesses... some Americans might experience the same and some in the future

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