I'm VERY organized and my wife is VERY messy

[웃 910]

My wife is a bit on the messy side. She leaves things out, she loads drawers with junk (bags, receipts, everything!), she throws her old clothes on the bathroom floor after coming out of the shower instead of putting them in the hamper, she rolls her clothes into a ball and tosses them into her drawers instead of folding them, etc. Little things that are so easy such as having one drawer for shirts, one drawer for socks/underwear/bras, one for pants is very difficult for her!!!! I might find one sock (missing the other) in a drawer w/ clothes balled up or even some underwear. It is a wreck!

Now myself, on the other hand, I am very organized. If I was the only one occupying the room then there would not be one thing visible on the counters. It felt so amazing knowing that the room was near 100% perfection in terms of cleanliness and organization. Before we shacked up I even had almost each drawer completely empty, and they had that new drawer / never been a thing in it look! Now each drawer is loaded to the brim with junk!

I've tried to clean up after her but her messiness dominates over my cleanliness. I took out all her balled up clothes a couple months ago and folded each one to perfection and neatly placed them back inside and within a matter of days the drawers returned to chaos! There is literally not one thing visible in the room (on the counters) that is mine. I have tried saying politely 'Don't you feel bad knowing that every single item laying around on these countertops belongs to you and that my desk area is spotless'...I have to constantly remind her to clean up after herself and she just brushes it off. Seriously, how difficult is it to hang the towel up after drying off or keep the sink clean or put your dirty clothes in the hamper instead of on the floor? I'm a very easy-going guy so I can deal with this BULLSH_T but it definitely hurts me to have to live in these type of conditions knowing how the room would look if it were the only occupant.

Anyone been in this type of a situation and have any thoughts or advice? Some pics and slideshows below...

Here is a slideshow of our room now:

http://s106.photobucket.com/albums/m254/na...nt=e10e3b4e.pbw

Here is a slideshow of how it looked before:

http://s106.photobucket.com/albums/m254/na...nt=48a2b4ba.pbw

Spottless

And after...

Perfection...

Window area is her hangout spot, but still very messy IMO, this is how it looks on an average day...

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

Anyone been in this type of a situation and have any thoughts or advice?

Yes and no.

[dalegg 143]

I guess I'm lucky. Both me and my wife are kind of slobbish. She's got that same issue with here drawers though. When I do laundry I no longer attempt to put her clothes away. They just get their only folding and off they go to wherever it is she wads them up and stores them.

[Chris_Жанна 11]

My wife is a bit on the messy side. She leaves things out, she loads drawers with junk (bags, receipts, everything!), she throws her old clothes on the bathroom floor after coming out of the shower instead of putting them in the hamper, she rolls her clothes into a ball and tosses them into her drawers instead of folding them, etc. Little things that are so easy such as having one drawer for shirts, one drawer for socks/underwear/bras, one for pants is very difficult for her!!!! I might find one sock (missing the other) in a drawer w/ clothes balled up or even some underwear. It is a wreck!

Now myself, on the other hand, I am very organized. If I was the only one occupying the room then there would not be one thing visible on the counters. It felt so amazing knowing that the room was near 100% perfection in terms of cleanliness and organization. Before we shacked up I even had almost each drawer completely empty, and they had that new drawer / never been a thing in it look! Now each drawer is loaded to the brim with junk!

I've tried to clean up after her but her messiness dominates over my cleanliness. I took out all her balled up clothes a couple months ago and folded each one to perfection and neatly placed them back inside and within a matter of days the drawers returned to chaos! There is literally not one thing visible in the room (on the counters) that is mine. I have tried saying politely 'Don't you feel bad knowing that every single item laying around on these countertops belongs to you and that my desk area is spotless'...I have to constantly remind her to clean up after herself and she just brushes it off. Seriously, how difficult is it to hang the towel up after drying off or keep the sink clean or put your dirty clothes in the hamper instead of on the floor? I'm a very easy-going guy so I can deal with this BULLSH_T but it definitely hurts me to have to live in these type of conditions knowing how the room would look if it were the only occupant.

Anyone been in this type of a situation and have any thoughts or advice? Some pics and slideshows below...

Hahaha the picture comparisons are great.

I had an ex-girlfriend that would do the same #######. I'd spend the whole day cleaning and she'd come in and destroy the place. I called her " The Tornado".

Either hire a maid or let her know that this is absolutely unacceptable for you. If she loves you and you approach this correctly she should understand.

OR

You could fight fire with fire and make the same mess as she does and hope that she get's the point.

Here is a slideshow of our room now:

http://s106.photobucket.com/albums/m254/na...nt=e10e3b4e.pbw

Here is a slideshow of how it looked before:

http://s106.photobucket.com/albums/m254/na...nt=48a2b4ba.pbw

Spottless

And after...

Perfection...

Window area is her hangout spot, but still very messy IMO, this is how it looks on an average day...

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Neat and orderly men are usually a bit on the gay side.

[MrsCat 6]

Anyone been in this type of a situation and have any thoughts or advice?

Yes and no.

Living in separate houses?

We found one trick that has semi-helped. We keep separate closets. Chris never goes into mine and he doesn't need to know how unfolded, balled up, or how many pants are on the floor. Otherwise he'd never sleep at night.

[Jenn! 918]

I'm not a particularly orderly person, but my husband takes it to a whole new level. I pick my battles with him. Everything else I either do myself or learn to deal with.

[MrsCat 6]

Neat and orderly men are usually a bit on the gay side.

Chris is not gay. The military did it to him. He was messy until he enlisted. I have the cleanest faucets of any person I know.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Neat and orderly men are usually a bit on the gay side.

Chris is not gay. The military did it to him. He was messy until he enlisted. I have the cleanest faucets of any person I know.

Are you sure?

[MrsCat 6]

Neat and orderly men are usually a bit on the gay side.

Chris is not gay. The military did it to him. He was messy until he enlisted. I have the cleanest faucets of any person I know.

Are you sure?

Well I've never seen him with a man. I guess until that happens, I'll just have to take his word for it.

[Passing.star 0]

It's funny how people are! While my husband is the one messy Im the doing doing your part. No matter how I clean-up he always likes to throw things to everywhere. At first it kinda frustrate me because i wanted our place to be neat and spotless then again, he doesn't care though he clean-up a little bit but there goes his being him. I can't change him it's how the way he is but still love him to death.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Neat and orderly men are usually a bit on the gay side.

Chris is not gay. The military did it to him. He was messy until he enlisted. I have the cleanest faucets of any person I know.

Are you sure?

Well I've never seen him with a man. I guess until that happens, I'll just have to take his word for it.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Neither one of us is a neat freak nor is either one of us a total slob, so it works out pretty well. My only real gripe is mail collecting. She puts it everywhere and is reluctant to throw out any junk mail.

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

Anyone been in this type of a situation and have any thoughts or advice?

Yes and no.

Living in separate houses?

No. I just don't have any helpful advice. I'll keep checking back for it...

[rebeccajo 14]

I looked at your slideshows and there was only one picture where the mess bugged me (the closet). And I'm pretty tidy. Ask the husband. I'm picking up after him all the time.

Really, most of the 'mess' she is making just proves somebody lives there. It's not so bad you can't tidy it up in ten minutes.

Looks to me like you - on your own - are not just tidy, but prefer austerity.

I think you need to relax a little - personally.