Guess its my turn to share my bad news

[Angel7422 0]

Many of you may know me or have checked out my profile/timeline, I have been on VJ since 2004 and my husband who is from Egypt recently became a US citizen back in December 2008. During the years of our marriage we have had our ups and downs which I thought would get better in time but it seem to only have gotten worst. I hung in there hoping to try to savage our marriage even trying counseling to which he didnt want to go to in the beginning, eventually he did go to 2-3 sessions but no more as he always had an excuse for not going. I have thought of myself as being a strong woman but nothing could have prepared me for the verbal and emotional abuse at the hands of my husband. The ways it effected my health (hair loss, extreme stress, severe headaches, numbness in my face, hands, fingers, etc) He would blame me for his anger outburst, for the reason he lost his job or the reason he chose to leave his job. It was always someone elses fault for his problem/situation, never his. My husband also thinks its okay for him to give his private cell # to female co workers w/o my knowledge and yet say its wrong for me to do the same in regards to male co workers not to say that I would. He also seems to think in his strange logic that its okay for him to talk to his female co workers and that I should be okay with it but its not okay for me to talk to my male co workers and supervisors.

The thing is he hadn't broken me enough to make me believe all the words he spouted off but at the same time he broke my heart bit by bit because I couldn't believe the man saying these mean things to me was the same man I had married, the man who I loved and who promised to love me. It was as if I was married to Two-Face(character from Batman) one face would be saying all these awful things to me and the other face would be saying all the sweet and loving things, it got too confusing.

I told my husband that we needed to separate and that he needed to move out. I did discuss this with the marriage counselor and she agreed that this was a wise choice as she was worried about my health but she also stated that no decision on divorce should be made right now. She felt time apart might help put things in perspective and in the meantime she wants to see me and my husband on an individual basis. Whether or not my husband goes to the individual sessions I plan to go for ME. Sorry if this was extra long or rather incoherent.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

[raymaga 25]

Your health should be very important to you and high on your priority list right now.

Go to the your own counselling sessions and if your husband choses not to go, I think you have to come to the realization that he is not very interested in saving your marriage.

I hope you can move on and find happiness with someone who is worth your love.

Best wishes.

[HLM 1]

I'm so sorry things are not going well between you and your husband I know how painful it can be to be hurt by someone you love and since it is taking a toll on you even physically I agree too that you made the right decision to separate and focus on you and only you! I hope he either changes and returns to the sweet person you said you married or you get over him and move on because you deserve way better than that!

Don't apologize...you will always find someone to listen to you and support you when you need it.

[L179 1]

sorry to hear about your situation.

hope god showers his blessings on you and take care of your health

[HoneyandSonny 0]

Please take care of yourself honey, your health is very important. You will be in my prayers...Please take care of yourself.

[sara..... 371]

im sorry ur in my prayers

sara

[Angel7422 0]

I can't stay too long as I have to get ready for work but I just wanted to say "Thank you" for your kind words.

[*Maureen* 0]

i'm sorry to hear what you're going through, just stay strong and keep looking forward.

[SaadBell 0]

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[JeanneVictoria 55]

It's so ironic both of our husbands are named Wael, and both are from the same area in Alexandria. I was so sad to read of what is going on in your life. I pray you find solace in this trying time.

It's your time now sweetie to take care of yourself. Do what you have to do.

[Staashi 371]

God bless you.

[Twisted K 2]

[~Jackie~ 30]

I am saddened to read your post. Stay strong and take care of yourself.

Jackie

[Nagishkaw 510]

You love him and it is hard to let go. You want things to work out, and it sounds like he doesn't care. You can't make him love , respect and care about you. Believe me, I am crying with you, sister.

Try the separation for awhile. Use the time to find your peace, get closer to God, and heal physically and emotionally.

Above all, stay safe. God is right there with you.