how much do I put up with before deciding on divorce?

[Waldo 0]

I got food poisoning last time I was in Peru. My wife wiped my butt after they put me to sleep (True story). It seems silly but dane is right, love like you want to be loved! Or get divorced what the hell do I care, you can all get divorced when your SO forgets to put the crapper seat down.

[unforgettable fire 2]

OBVIOUSLY IF HES BEATING YOU UP, AND RAPING YOUR DOG, AND KILLING BABIES...devoice him

That means that she has to wait until that to "devoice" him??? What kind of advice is that??? Get a grip and be real!!!

[sj5 4]

What you are describing is MARRIAGE its living with his and YOUR bad habits its getting to know each other and learning how to live with each other. You want a fairy tale marriage that works your way the problem that is not how real life works. You are gonna have to learn to comprimise on issues give and take he will t oo I suggest marriage counseling

Also, your setting up for your marriage to fail. You won't be satisfied till it does. Because you are scared and find it difficult to adjust. You know what he's not perfect and neither are you stop holding him to YOUR standards. No man can be made to live like that.

If you can't make this marriage work when you have problems with everyday life in a marriage IMAGINE what your next marriage will be? Just one more failure. So look at yourself look at your marriage and see what YOU can do to change all the problems in your self to make the marriage work. Don't focus so much on your husband. Because change starts with you first.

Marriage is hard work blood sweat and tears.. It's time you cut your teeth on it. god bless and be stronge.

Don't expect too much. We Filipino women are not clone. I'm not depending anyone or myself, but I don't want anyone here to THINK that I/we women from Philippines are stupid or putting up with #######. YOU'RE WRONG.

Edited February 26, 2009 by VJ's Opportunist

[dane 0]

i think we've been conned. again.

do you know any american who talks this way, "submit to my husband".... "hurts me below" and other similar phrases? i feel like i'm reading a historical romance book, as the heroine explains the travails she went thru while married to an abusive husband.

if there's anything i've learned in my stay here in the US is that americans are so brutally frank and have no qualms calling a spade a spade.... or in this case, a rape a rape.

perhaps i'm just a cynic or perhaps i just can't imagine anyone allowing another person to treat them the way the OP was supposedly treated. besides, the police is just a phone call away. aside from that, the OP is the citizen, not the other way around.

but then again, i'm just from the village and therefore, i know nothing.

i have gained a certain degree of respect for filipino women, in that i see that they are the ones actually chastising the poster for some of the idiotic things she said.

"submitting" dosnt mean you lay down on the floor and get trampled. get the Biggest oak tree you can find and try plant it in the ocean...the tide will rip it roots and all and splinter it to bits on the shore.

then you have free floating weak, passive seaweed, no matter what kind of storm hits u will still find it floating just the same..its married to the water.

YEA SO WHAT THERE IS NO INDIGNITY IN LOVING YOUR IDIOT, BAD TEMPERED HUSBAND SO MUCH THAT YOU DECIDE SOME TIMES TO JUST LET HIM HAVE HIS WAY.

yes men are idiots, yes we are aweful and agressive and made of snips and snails and more often than not puppy dog tails. but in the end...you need ####### just as much as ####### needs you...or its over for the humans.

as expected all the "DUMP THE LOSER" comments come from contries with huge divoirce rates. CANADA, USA, ENGLAND.

no one with a decent, traditional upbringing, man or woman would ever say violate the sanctity of a marriage because his "breath smellz bads"

how DARE you say send him packing...that is the womans husband! he didnt hit her...he didnt rape her...he maybe be a little miscommunicated as she mentioned his english is not perfect, you have to work these things out, you should have thought it over before tying the knot...

[unforgettable fire 2]

as expected all the "DUMP THE LOSER" comments come from contries with huge divoirce rates. CANADA, USA, ENGLAND.

no one with a decent, traditional upbringing, man or woman would ever say violate the sanctity of a marriage because his "breath smellz bads"

So that means that you are condoning us all and our indecent, non-traditional upbringings?? I don't recall reading she is just complaining about his bad breath... There is more to it than just that!

And so what if there is a high percentage rate of divorce in the countries you mentioned, it means people have choices and nobody should stay in a marriage for the "sanctity" of it, regardless of country of origin.

Edited February 26, 2009 by unforgettable fire

[sj5 4]

The one who said the length of my original post showed how stressed I have become over this, was right.

hey you women make up your mind, now size does matter! No, not really but it does come with package.

everyone knows its not the size but the skill!

I don't know. I only grazing Caucasian.

[dane 0]

OBVIOUSLY IF HES BEATING YOU UP, AND RAPING YOUR DOG, AND KILLING BABIES...devoice him

That means that she has to wait until that to "devoice" him??? What kind of advice is that??? Get a grip and be real!!!

OH MY GOD!!! THE LIMEY SPELLS 110% RIGHT ALL THE TIME. LET US ALL STAND AND APPLAUD THIS PERSONS ABILITIES OF SPELLING MISTAKE RECOGNITION!!! 3 CHEERS!! ....

shut up you pretentious idiot. you dont WAIT for anything to divorce someone, divorce is a option that is intended for a abusive relationships, or unforeseen circumstances, maybe even infidelity.

these days people like you use divorce as a get out of jail free card, its not get out of jail free...sit down and DO YOUR GOD DAMNED TIME.

you FAIL! AT LIFE! DO NOT PASS GO! DO NOT COLLECT 200 DOLLARS!

[Ban Hammer 12,886]

I got food poisoning last time I was in Peru. My wife wiped my butt after they put me to sleep (True story). It seems silly but dane is right, love like you want to be loved! Or get divorced what the hell do I care, you can all get divorced when your SO forgets to put the crapper seat down.

OBVIOUSLY IF HES BEATING YOU UP, AND RAPING YOUR DOG, AND KILLING BABIES...devoice him

That means that she has to wait until that to "devoice" him??? What kind of advice is that??? Get a grip and be real!!!

maybe advocating reaching down his throat and yanking out his vocal cords?

Edited February 26, 2009 by charles!

[Waldo 0]

Or better yet just realize that the loser in the bars you settle on are better then you; and stop getting married and divorcing them a year later!

Edited February 26, 2009 by Waldo

[dane 0]

as expected all the "DUMP THE LOSER" comments come from contries with huge divoirce rates. CANADA, USA, ENGLAND.

no one with a decent, traditional upbringing, man or woman would ever say violate the sanctity of a marriage because his "breath smellz bads"

So that means that you are condoning us all and our indecent, non-traditional upbringings?? I don't recall reading she is just complaining about his bad breath... There is more to it than just that!

And so what if there is a high percentage rate of divorce in the countries you mentioned, it means people have choices and nobody should stay in a marriage for the "sanctity" of it, regardless of country of origin.

if you want to take it as that then take it as that. but to me it seems pretty damned indecent to divorce someone for the idiot reasons listed.

and you saying "And so what if there is a high percentage rate of divorce in the countries you mentioned, it means people have choices and nobody should stay in a marriage for the "sanctity" of it" is the intellectual equivalent of a woman saying to me "AND SO WHAT IF I ENGAGE IN SEX WITH VARIOUS MEN FOR MONETARY COMPENSATION, IT DOSNT MAKE ME A PROSTITUTE! IT MEANS THAT I HAVE THE CHOICE TO BE AN ENTREPRENEUR. NO BODY EVER STAYS "UNEMPLOYED" FOR THE DECENCY OF IT!

its clear to see that to you keeping promises are optional, that marriage is something that can or can not "work out".

Edited February 26, 2009 by dane

[DanielParul 50]

OH MY GOD!!! THE LIMEY SPELLS 110% RIGHT ALL THE TIME. LET US ALL STAND AND APPLAUD THIS PERSONS ABILITIES OF SPELLING MISTAKE RECOGNITION!!! 3 CHEERS!! ....

shut up you pretentious idiot. you dont WAIT for anything to divorce someone, divorce is a option that is intended for a abusive relationships, or unforeseen circumstances, maybe even infidelity.

these days people like you use divorce as a get out of jail free card, its not get out of jail free...sit down and DO YOUR GOD DAMNED TIME.

you FAIL! AT LIFE! DO NOT PASS GO! DO NOT COLLECT 200 DOLLARS!

whats with the name calling?

Personally, I want to see how long your wife puts up with a man with an attitude like yours.

[childress_london 3]

OH MY GOD!!! THE LIMEY SPELLS 110% RIGHT ALL THE TIME. LET US ALL STAND AND APPLAUD THIS PERSONS ABILITIES OF SPELLING MISTAKE RECOGNITION!!! 3 CHEERS!! ....

shut up you pretentious idiot. you dont WAIT for anything to divorce someone, divorce is a option that is intended for a abusive relationships, or unforeseen circumstances, maybe even infidelity.

these days people like you use divorce as a get out of jail free card, its not get out of jail free...sit down and DO YOUR GOD DAMNED TIME.

you FAIL! AT LIFE! DO NOT PASS GO! DO NOT COLLECT 200 DOLLARS!

whats with the name calling?

Personally, I want to see how long your wife puts up with a man with an attitude like yours.

I agree. I'm glad I'm not married to dane. Marriage should not be like "time" done in prison. LOL. I feel sorry for you dane. Hope your "time" goes quickly. Ha ha...

[Ban Hammer 12,886]

shut up you pretentious idiot.

let's not have any more personal attacks.

[sj5 4]

What is Emotional Abuse?

There are various types of emotional abuse. Below is a list of characteristics that are emotionally abuse.

Rejecting

·Telling a person that they are unwanted

·Telling a person to leave

·Name-calling

·Telling the person they are worthless

·Making the person the scapegoat, blaming them for everything

Ignoring

·Does not show attachment

·Does not provide nurturance

·Does not show or express affection

·Physically there, but emotionally unavailable

·Does not recognize the other persons presence

·Uses the “silent treatment”

Terrorizing

·Singling out a person to criticize and punish

·Ridiculing him or her for displaying normal emotions

·Having expectations far beyond his or her normal abilities

·Threatening person with death, mutilation and abandonment

Isolation

·Not allowing person to interact with other

·Restricting person to a room

·Restricting eating to isolation or seclusion

·Restrict/monitoring phone calls

Corrupting

·Allowing minors to use drugs or alcohol

·Forcing others to watch pornographic material or sex acts

·Forcing someone to participate in or witness criminal activities

·Forcing someone to witness cruelty to animals

[Waldo 0]

OH MY GOD!!! THE LIMEY SPELLS 110% RIGHT ALL THE TIME. LET US ALL STAND AND APPLAUD THIS PERSONS ABILITIES OF SPELLING MISTAKE RECOGNITION!!! 3 CHEERS!! ....

shut up you pretentious idiot. you dont WAIT for anything to divorce someone, divorce is a option that is intended for a abusive relationships, or unforeseen circumstances, maybe even infidelity.

these days people like you use divorce as a get out of jail free card, its not get out of jail free...sit down and DO YOUR GOD DAMNED TIME.

you FAIL! AT LIFE! DO NOT PASS GO! DO NOT COLLECT 200 DOLLARS!

whats with the name calling?

Personally, I want to see how long your wife puts up with a man with an attitude like yours.

I agree. I'm glad I'm not married to dane. Marriage should not be like "time" done in prison. LOL. I feel sorry for you dane. Hope your "time" goes quickly. Ha ha...

So should we assume that you will divorce your SO at the drop of a hat as well? Hmm.