All Quiet on the Western front

[Ta Ta 1]

Wonder if you would say to him .....look you want me to go, then I will tell them that we are done and over, that you treated me terribly......maybe he will never contact you again.

Stay strong !

[Zee Bee 61]

I think that you should go to the interview and tell them the truth!!! What have you got to lose???

[chispas 0]

Thanks Sista Vjers.

I was considering going to the interview like you said and tell them what has been going on. What is making me think twice is that Ido went to her interview with her husband and after she told them what he was doing, they gave him further details that he needed to remove conditions on his own. I would hate to spill my guts there and then some one feel sorry for his A$$ and help him make my life more miserable. If I do decide to go, I'm taking the email, letters, text and everything he sent me telling me that he was just using me and that I was worthless. Further, I'm taking the blackmail voice mail too so they can hear the threats he told me he would do to me if I don't cooperate. As I write more I get more and more angry at his nerve to try and use me again. It would be different if he were up front, but to continue to operate from the position of a sneak is deplorable.

Edited November 7, 2008 by chispas

[ForeverAmen 0]

[Ta Ta 1]

I think you have so much evidence that they will listen to you and not him, each case is different. You clearly have the proof in his own writing that he used you for immigration benefits and therefore it is fraud. He did not enter in good faith into the marriage but with intentions of fraud.

[Zee Bee 61]

I agree with Omoba. If you have in writing that he said he used you, I think you should take it to the interview and show them.

[chispas 0]

Yes,

I do have it in writing many times over. We'll see what happens next week and I'll keep you posted

[Zee Bee 61]

Yes,

I do have it in writing many times over. We'll see what happens next week and I'll keep you posted

Wanna send me his address? I know a couple of people who would go "talk to him"

[LovinLiberia 0]

Chispas, I think you should definately go with your evidence. It won't hurt to try.

zee, you and "your people". We know how ya'll are.

[chispas 0]

Chispas, I think you should definately go with your evidence. It won't hurt to try.

zee, you and "your people". We know how ya'll are.

True dat Uno

Zee: true dat too.

I'm sure he already has a plot up his sleeves already so I'll see and try to not take the offensive attacks personally and keep telling myself that this is his MO. My mantra right now is just that.

[ForeverAmen 0]

Be sure to arrive in seperate cars. You don't want to give him, or the person doing the interview the wrong idea.

[LovinLiberia 0]

Good idea, Boaz.

[Tunji&Toyin 0]

Interesting, I hope this turns out very well for you. Sounds a little scary, but your in the US. You should be fine you have evidence of threats! Good luck!

[KenDC 0]

You should NOT go. Just send your info as a RFE. I know someone who had the same situation. If you don't go, they will either re-schedule indefinitely and flag it. Caused them to lose EAD and other problems. They ask questions why spouse did not show. If you go, you run the chance of them approving since you knew about interview and showed up. You can explain later. You just want to slow or stop process.

[joej 0]

Oh Chispas so sorry to hear that.

Does he have an attorney?

Jodi

Thanks Sista Vjers.

I was considering going to the interview like you said and tell them what has been going on. What is making me think twice is that Ido went to her interview with her husband and after she told them what he was doing, they gave him further details that he needed to remove conditions on his own. I would hate to spill my guts there and then some one feel sorry for his A$$ and help him make my life more miserable. If I do decide to go, I'm taking the email, letters, text and everything he sent me telling me that he was just using me and that I was worthless. Further, I'm taking the blackmail voice mail too so they can hear the threats he told me he would do to me if I don't cooperate. As I write more I get more and more angry at his nerve to try and use me again. It would be different if he were up front, but to continue to operate from the position of a sneak is deplorable.