ive been used.........

[Minya's wife 24]

Why is it that many times when an international marriage that began w/ a marriage or fiancee visa, crubmles there is always the inevitable "how can I get his/her greencard revokes?" If this was a marriage between 2 USC that went sour there would be no question of how can I get the person kicked out of the country?

IMO, if you're broken up that your marriage has gone bad, getting your ex's greencard revoked would not be the first thing you think of....ways to win him/her back, counseling yes, not thinking up ways to get the person deported.

-P

[*JG* 2]

Why is it that many times when an international marriage that began w/ a marriage or fiancee visa, crubmles there is always the inevitable "how can I get his/her greencard revokes?" If this was a marriage between 2 USC that went sour there would be no question of how can I get the person kicked out of the country?

IMO, if you're broken up that your marriage has gone bad, getting your ex's greencard revoked would not be the first thing you think of....ways to win him/her back, counseling yes, not thinking up ways to get the person deported.

-P

It's the hurt talking, that's all.

[iahmjpinoy 6]

Why is it that many times when an international marriage that began w/ a marriage or fiancee visa, crubmles there is always the inevitable "how can I get his/her greencard revokes?" If this was a marriage between 2 USC that went sour there would be no question of how can I get the person kicked out of the country?

IMO, if you're broken up that your marriage has gone bad, getting your ex's greencard revoked would not be the first thing you think of....ways to win him/her back, counseling yes, not thinking up ways to get the person deported.

-P

With an international marraige, there is always that 'visa fraud' that pops up when things go bad cus it does happen, but I agree, it's probably the hurt talking.. and also, the OP didn't elaborate on why it fell apart or how he got used...

And why would 2 USC even think of 'how can I get this person kicked out of the contry'... they wouldn't cus that option isn't even there in the first place.. toinks!! /sarcasm ... but yeah, they should try to work it out like you stated, but like I said, without the OP giving more details.. don't know how far they took it before it really fell apart.. *sigh..

Ingats!!

Edited September 24, 2008 by iahmjpinoy

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Why is it that many times when an international marriage that began w/ a marriage or fiancee visa, crubmles there is always the inevitable "how can I get his/her greencard revokes?" If this was a marriage between 2 USC that went sour there would be no question of how can I get the person kicked out of the country?

IMO, if you're broken up that your marriage has gone bad, getting your ex's greencard revoked would not be the first thing you think of....ways to win him/her back, counseling yes, not thinking up ways to get the person deported.

-P

Agreed

[ronjie 0]

Why is it that many times when an international marriage that began w/ a marriage or fiancee visa, crubmles there is always the inevitable "how can I get his/her greencard revokes?" If this was a marriage between 2 USC that went sour there would be no question of how can I get the person kicked out of the country?

IMO, if you're broken up that your marriage has gone bad, getting your ex's greencard revoked would not be the first thing you think of....ways to win him/her back, counseling yes, not thinking up ways to get the person deported.

-P

UNLESS ITS FRAUD !!

[Ban Hammer 12,901]

mbc

[Chica Yeyé 41]

mbc

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[Sabr 0]

so sad,i thought she reallly loved me,but i guess all that "LOVE"was gone after she got to the US.....so sad can anybody tell me how can i get her green card revoked?thanks.i should have listten to my folks about this..fawwwwkkkk

what a drag!

[Ban Hammer 12,901]

mbc

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moved by charles

[cdn_in_wa 1]

Why is it that many times when an international marriage that began w/ a marriage or fiancee visa, crubmles there is always the inevitable "how can I get his/her greencard revokes?" If this was a marriage between 2 USC that went sour there would be no question of how can I get the person kicked out of the country?

IMO, if you're broken up that your marriage has gone bad, getting your ex's greencard revoked would not be the first thing you think of....ways to win him/her back, counseling yes, not thinking up ways to get the person deported.

-P

It's the hurt talking, that's all.

I think many times it's more about getting out from under the obligation to USCIS created by the I-864. That coupled with the thought that the marriage might have been based on a fraudulent intent of the immigrant spouse. Can't help but wonder when it occurs so early in the marriage, can you?

What amazes me more is that people are so willing to sign the I-864, considering the extent of the obligation it requires. Do they not read and understand the implications of it?

Well, the other thing that amazes me is how many of these marriages don't even last 2 years before the USC is crying to revoke the GC.

And USCIS does not help the matter by allowing so many to self petition to remove conditions after divorcing the USC. Think someone intent on immigration fraud through marriage cannot convince any number of people that they are truly in love and get here, get married, then - oops - change their mind? And how hard at that point is it to prove the marriage was in good faith? The USC thought so, the non-USC obviously already acted a great part, and can likely convince USCIS of same. Hard to blame the USC for *thinking* fraud, especially considering the usual outcome.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

mbc

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moved by charles

[rebeccajo 14]

Why is it that many times when an international marriage that began w/ a marriage or fiancee visa, crubmles there is always the inevitable "how can I get his/her greencard revokes?" If this was a marriage between 2 USC that went sour there would be no question of how can I get the person kicked out of the country?

IMO, if you're broken up that your marriage has gone bad, getting your ex's greencard revoked would not be the first thing you think of....ways to win him/her back, counseling yes, not thinking up ways to get the person deported.

-P

UNLESS ITS FRAUD !!

In whose mind?

[ronjie 0]

Why is it that many times when an international marriage that began w/ a marriage or fiancee visa, crubmles there is always the inevitable "how can I get his/her greencard revokes?" If this was a marriage between 2 USC that went sour there would be no question of how can I get the person kicked out of the country?

IMO, if you're broken up that your marriage has gone bad, getting your ex's greencard revoked would not be the first thing you think of....ways to win him/her back, counseling yes, not thinking up ways to get the person deported.

-P

UNLESS ITS FRAUD !!

In whose mind?

certainly not in our minds, we could only guess or make assumptions. but I believe that the married, possibly soon to be divorced couple honestly knows if its just a matter of differences and being incompatable, or a scam from the start. love is blind, but eventually the blinders come off and we see life as it truly is.

peace

[Jamericanlove 31]

No way OP...I followed your story. You mean in the week since she got over there she ended the marriage? I see in your siggy your wedding is supposed to be today. I hope you guys can work something out.

[Minya's wife 24]

Why is it that many times when an international marriage that began w/ a marriage or fiancee visa, crubmles there is always the inevitable "how can I get his/her greencard revokes?" If this was a marriage between 2 USC that went sour there would be no question of how can I get the person kicked out of the country?

IMO, if you're broken up that your marriage has gone bad, getting your ex's greencard revoked would not be the first thing you think of....ways to win him/her back, counseling yes, not thinking up ways to get the person deported.

-P

UNLESS ITS FRAUD !!

In whose mind?

certainly not in our minds, we could only guess or make assumptions. but I believe that the married, possibly soon to be divorced couple honestly knows if its just a matter of differences and being incompatable, or a scam from the start. love is blind, but eventually the blinders come off and we see life as it truly is.

peace

But that's just it....fraud can be perpatuated by anyone, not just someone wishing to emigrate to this country, and nobody is immune to it. It is this rush to fraud judgement, in international marriages that irks me.

Once you remove the fact that the spouse is from another country you have two adults that should be completely awake and serious when they make the decision to wed. If after a wile (short or long) the marriage ends....the blame if it must be appropriated, liles on both sides. The "it takes two to tango" adage works here too. But I keep seeing the 'he/she used me for immigration' banner being displayed too much in VJ marriages that end.

While I understand that its the hurt talking, but there is also significant portion (IMO from what I see reported here) of these break-ups, where the marriage has gone bad just because it sometimes happens -no fraud intended or perpetrated. Yet, the end result is still, that the USC does his/her damnest to jeopardize the immigrant's residency - calling and/or writing USCIS and ICE to report a fraud. But if examined more closely we see no fraud at all...just a very hurt spouse who's marriage ended before he/she was ready for it. Its just sad...that the USC who'se marriage to a foreigner has ended, has this 'power,' and I fear that in some cases it is sorely abused.

(And I must clarify, that I'm not talking about the OP's situation here...as we do not know the details here....I'm just ruminating on the on international marriages in general.)

-P