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Ok guys, what do you think about this:

is it ok for the groom to wear a suit which is several years old?

The reason why I'm asking for your opinion is because my fiance has this custom made suit. He claims that he has never worn it ever since he had it made. He wants to wear that suit at our wedding.

I really dislike that, very much. He says that he doesn't want to spend money on something he already has, that this suit is custom made, he has never worn it, and he also says that I shouldn't be bothered with how old the suit is as long as he looks sharp and like a million bucks in it.... :blink:

But I really REALLY dislike that. The wedding attire is also a symbol,isn't it? I don't want him to wear something old.

I'd appreciate your honest opinions. Am I overreacting??? :ranting:

What are your fiances going to wear?????

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Filed: Other Country: Canada

yes i think you are overreacting :lol:

what is wrong with him wearing the suit? if my hubby had a perfectly fine suit that he barely had worn I would be totally fine with him wearing it..

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Egypt

for me i think that if it is new not worn even if he has had it for a while and it looks good..........no reason to spend money on another one.........but i think it is every couples choice in this matter........that is only my opinion......

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Morocco

We bought my husband a new suit for our wedding, but he didn't have one to begin with.

I tend to agree with your fiance - if it's perfectly good and he's happy wearing it, then there's no reason to buy something new.

However, I also understand that it's your special day and you want everything to be perfect. If it's gonna cause problems though, just suck it up and try to pretend that it's brand new.

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I don't see what the problem is here.

If he has a suit that is custom-made that he has never worn, but was tailored to him several years ago (and still fits well), so what? If he's never worn it, it's as good as new and since it's designed for him, it'll look much better than a suit that's off-the-rack. Asking (or forcing) him to purchase a new suit, which will probably require some alterations anyway, is simply a waste of money. There's no purpose in it.

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It seems to me that something that was "custom-made" (Men's Warehouse?) for the body of "a few years ago", probably isn't going to be as flattering today.

My *new* suit fit perfectly when I bought it for the wedding, but the trousers are slightly on the tight side today.

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If your hubby looks good on it even if the suit is old..GO FOR IT!

but if not....tell him the truth.. and get a new one..Your wedding is very special moment.

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The wedding attire is a symbol of what?

Regardless, so long as the pair of you look how you want to look and feel not only comfortable but suitably special as the occasion demands, does it really matter if the clothes were purchased for the purpose, or are new?

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If he looks like a million bucks in it, he should wear it! It would be one thing if it no longer fit him properly, or made out of shag carpeting or pink velour. Think of it as satisfying the "something old" tradition (which is quite flexible!).

I'd try to focus on the wedding itself, and the great time you'll have with family and friends. Try not to cause yourself stress by conforming to restrictive notions of what's "proper." It will drive you crazy. I don't think it's a coincidence that many of the accepted wedding traditions cost a buttload of money (like a new dress or suit).

My husband wore a sharp suit he already had (but had barely worn). He did treat himself to a really nice new tie. I got my wedding dress from eBay. Actually, the alterations cost more than the dress!

(I'm probably not the best person to answer this because I'm not traditional in the least and find a lot of modern wedding conventions really curious.)


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The wedding attire is a symbol of what?

Regardless, so long as the pair of you look how you want to look and feel not only comfortable but suitably special as the occasion demands, does it really matter if the clothes were purchased for the purpose, or are new?

It doesn't have that "new suit smell" anymore. :whistle:

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