Administrative Processing Hell and Marriage

[doodlebugg 10]

Did waiting in the long hellish administrative processing enhance the beautifulness of your marriage and increase your love for each other tenfold or was it more like biting on a big leather strap until it was over?

please discuss

[Ban Hammer 12,836]

Did waiting in the long hellish administrative processing enhance the beautifulness of your marriage and increase your love for each other tenfold or was it more like biting on a big leather strap until it was over?

please discuss

[maggieNomar 0]

The process can bring out the worst in some people. The anxiety, not knowing when or if, makes one crazy.

[ya falaha! 0]

It didn't enhance anything in our marriage but on the other hand it didn't ruin anything either. It was just a huge pain in the rear end.

[allousa 1]

Honestly...it was a little bit of both!

It brought alot of pressure to our visits because we always had interviews or things we had to do or deliver to the Consulate. Hicham would get frustrated because he thought I should just march in there and demand that they do something. He had a hard time understanding that it just doesn't work that way.

But at the same time, Hicham and I have learned to communicate on a level that I don't think we would have matured to had we not gone through this ordeal. We had to learn to talk things out because that's all we had.

In the end, it's made our relationship much stronger and we will cherish being together again more than we did before.

Hang in there girlie! You'll get there. :):)

[doodlebugg 10]

well all I can say is for those who haven't gone through this stage yet be prepared!!!! Fighting long distance sucks bigtime and you don't even get makeup sex when it's over.

[Becky&Sam 0]

Did waiting in the long hellish administrative processing enhance the beautifulness of your marriage and increase your love for each other tenfold or was it more like biting on a big leather strap until it was over?

please discuss

[monnik 0]

Honestly...it was a little bit of both!

It brought alot of pressure to our visits because we always had interviews or things we had to do or deliver to the Consulate. Hicham would get frustrated because he thought I should just march in there and demand that they do something. He had a hard time understanding that it just doesn't work that way.

But at the same time, Hicham and I have learned to communicate on a level that I don't think we would have matured to had we not gone through this ordeal. We had to learn to talk things out because that's all we had.

In the end, it's made our relationship much stronger and we will cherish being together again more than we did before.

Hang in there girlie! You'll get there. :):)

Hi, allousa. Have you met my husband????

It's YOUR embassy, YOU call and cuss them out!! YOU can make them do something. I can't.....

How many times we've had that discussion....

Fighting sucks. Long distance fighting sucks hard. Hey, bridget. Make-up WHAT ?!?!??!?!! you never tell me this thing~

[polarbear 0]

Did waiting in the long hellish administrative processing enhance the beautifulness of your marriage and increase your love for each other tenfold or was it more like biting on a big leather strap until it was over?

please discuss

I feel like it's to early to tell we're still going through the adjustment period.

But in reality, everything is different after going through all that sh!t to be together. It did make us stronger as a couple and we appriciate the fact that we can be together much more. The hardest part of the adjustment for me is just watching the frustration of my husband.

[Becky&Sam 0]

Did waiting in the long hellish administrative processing enhance the beautifulness of your marriage and increase your love for each other tenfold or was it more like biting on a big leather strap until it was over?

please discuss

It has definitely been the latter. I cannot see that this hellish long wait has enhanced our marriage at all. It has stretched us to the very limits of our patience, tolerance and trying to communicate about this whole process. It is so confusing for me in many aspects and trying to communicate a lot of it to him in terms that he understands when I don't understand what the he!! is going on has driven us both crazy!! Don't feel alone in having your relationship strained to the max with all of this. A new marriage is difficult on it's own without having to do it long distance for over a year!!!

I will say that my trips there are exceptional memories cause we try to make up for all the time missed in 10 days...........

[doodlebugg 10]

Honestly...it was a little bit of both!

It brought alot of pressure to our visits because we always had interviews or things we had to do or deliver to the Consulate. Hicham would get frustrated because he thought I should just march in there and demand that they do something. He had a hard time understanding that it just doesn't work that way.

But at the same time, Hicham and I have learned to communicate on a level that I don't think we would have matured to had we not gone through this ordeal. We had to learn to talk things out because that's all we had.

In the end, it's made our relationship much stronger and we will cherish being together again more than we did before.

Hang in there girlie! You'll get there. :):)

Hi, allousa. Have you met my husband????

It's YOUR embassy, YOU call and cuss them out!! YOU can make them do something. I can't.....

How many times we've had that discussion....

Fighting sucks. Long distance fighting sucks hard. Hey, bridget. Make-up WHAT ?!?!??!?!! you never tell me this thing~

Have you ever seen Everybody Loves Raymond? OMG I love that show. There's one episode where he realizes that when his wife is ticked they have the BEST sex so he purposely tries to get her mad about different things until she finally catches on. lol

[ya falaha! 0]

Adjustment to living together is a whole new experience. I dunno if it's harder than AP but it is HARD. There are days (now and in the past) where I'd like to straight up kick the man's azz all the way to Egypt and back.

[a1angied 0]

AP was surely he!! and fighting long distance did suck big time. It was very trying at times. I am glad that I had strong faith in God to help see me through this because I think I would have went insane, maybe I am insane but in the end it was all worth it.

I am thankful that the adjustment period was not trying and that life is great living with my husband.

[NancyB 0]

Adjustment to living together is a whole new experience. I dunno if it's harder than AP but it is HARD. There are days (now and in the past) where I'd like to straight up kick the man's azz all the way to Egypt and back.

OMG!!! I can't believe you said that about your "Dear Sweet Honey" Moody, lol!!!!

Have some "chai"

[ya falaha! 0]

LOL well I'm drinking diet peach iced "chai" right now.

I don't think anyone married to an Egyptian man could say that their man is dear or sweet all the time.

Adjustment to living together is a whole new experience. I dunno if it's harder than AP but it is HARD. There are days (now and in the past) where I'd like to straight up kick the man's azz all the way to Egypt and back.

OMG!!! I can't believe you said that about your "Dear Sweet Honey" Moody, lol!!!!

Have some "chai"