Administrative Processing Hell and Marriage

[doodlebugg 10]

This journey not only strengthend us as a couple, it strengthened me as a person.

Getting divorced with a 1 and 2 year old strenghtened me as a person. This journey is gonna send me over a frikkin' cliff!!!!

[polarbear 0]

This journey not only strengthend us as a couple, it strengthened me as a person.

Getting divorced with a 1 and 2 year old strenghtened me as a person. This journey is gonna send me over a frikkin' cliff!!!!

It does kinda make you nuts

[~~~water~~~ 0]

Its making me nuts .... were back waiting

[doodlebugg 10]

Its making me nuts .... were back waiting

What happened? What did they tell you??

[morocco4ever 63]

We didn't go through the AP but rather a returned petition, so I think that would qualify since it was an additional 15 months after his interview.

Our marriage was strong before, so that didn't change. We did have fights, and we are both extremely bull headed, so long distance was interesting to say the least. I even went through a bout of time that I suspect I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown. The entire process was hell.

One thing it did do, and given time you will feel the same, it has given us a bigger appreciation of each other. The little things. Simple things like a hug when I get home from work and hearing him snore. His laugh, his smile. I have a much bigger appreciation for all of this that I am sure I would have taken for granted if we hadn't gone through this.

[~~~water~~~ 0]

he went to the consulate, they told him to mail it by dhl with a note explaining the problem and it should take about 10 plus or so days days to process....

back to the waiting

[tammy2688 1]

Hey Bridget, its Tammy

How are you doing? Yes, your question is a profound one in that in a marriage where there are little flaws, this process can destroy it to the fullest extent, but if the marriage is really about love and trust and wishing to spend life with the one, it strengthens marriage and brings out what is really the important thing. Not letting go when times get rough and enstilling Iman/faith.

Insha-Allah we will get visas in hand.

Our experiences have taught us more than we could have imagined, and indeed, our marriages will never be like the ordinary kind, we know more that we would ever have without this experience.

I keep my prayers.

I wish in Allah's timing, we may reunite and our husbands may join us.

Tammy

[doodlebugg 10]

Hey Bridget, its Tammy

How are you doing? Yes, your question is a profound one in that in a marriage where there are little flaws, this process can destroy it to the fullest extent, but if the marriage is really about love and trust and wishing to spend life with the one, it strengthens marriage and brings out what is really the important thing. Not letting go when times get rough and enstilling Iman/faith.

Insha-Allah we will get visas in hand.

Our experiences have taught us more than we could have imagined, and indeed, our marriages will never be like the ordinary kind, we know more that we would ever have without this experience.

I keep my prayers.

I wish in Allah's timing, we may reunite and our husbands may join us.

Tammy

Thank you Tammy you have given me a lot of strength through your pm's during my pms. lol

[monnik 0]

You're so funny, bridget !!!

You deserve a giant flower for your sense of humor !!

[maggieNomar 0]

I don't know what it's like to wait this long Bridget. I can only imagine it is hell, as the 3 month wait we had was difficult. Not difficult in terms of our relationship but trying to plan without planning and hoping each day we would hear something, only to be disappointed. When Usama finally gets the visa you are going to faint, I'm sure. And despite the difficult times that most couples go through with adjusting to each other and culture differences, I think you will appreciate the things that would otherwise annoy you (see M4E's post).

[sun_flower4712000 0]

the last time i saw my husband were 8\2005 and he still now on AP FOR MORE 9 MONTHES WITH NO NEW LITTLE WHEN we fight but the long time of waitng make us feel bored but we still love each other and still dont know when this AP WILL be over , monnik YES i have to tell u nothing in our husband hand because is the husband send mellion email to the embassy they dont care but one hard from us mybe will make diffrent , i wish to see my husband soon because it had been long time since we got married at 2005 , i think im the only who married 2005 with medo &cheryl wish she get her visa soon

[doodlebugg 10]

the last time i saw my husband were 8\2005 and he still now on AP FOR MORE 9 MONTHES WITH NO NEW LITTLE WHEN we fight but the long time of waitng make us feel bored but we still love each other and still dont know when this AP WILL be over , monnik YES i have to tell u nothing in our husband hand because is the husband send mellion email to the embassy they dont care but one hard from us mybe will make diffrent , i wish to see my husband soon because it had been long time since we got married at 2005 , i think im the only who married 2005 with medo &cheryl wish she get her visa soon

oh my God you haven't even gone to visit him for that long?

[sun_flower4712000 0]

yes i have hard work with no any rest or holllyday , and no one i can trust her can take care of my work until i comeback , the only one i could trust was my young sis but she gone last monthe so now , our only hope in see each other after this long year is the visa , wish they could make any step with our case , home visite , asking for more paper , another intrview , any thing make me feel they r think of my case