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[ForeverAmen 0]

I didn't like that story being posted. I found it hurtful. I just want to be done with this #######. I don't like the direction this forum is moving in. We really need to remain positive and supportive of each other. When negativity is thrown out, the wind blows it back. Please don't let it stain you. We've been positive people supporting each other where ever we are on this journey. There has been negativity on this forum that is bringing everything else down. Admittedly, it's a distraction from our own journey which can be painful. I miss Bassi and it hurts like hell that we're still not together. But I don't want to be distracted from the pain. I want to feel support and be supportive to others. Maybe it is best that we just ignore certain posts because it seems to change us and the flavor of this forum when we don't. My mother always taught me that when something is changing who you are or how you behave for the negative, eliminate it from your life. Let's give that a try.

I TOTALLY agree with you!!!!!!!!

Boaz

[JJWashington 0]

I didn't like that story being posted. I found it hurtful. I just want to be done with this #######. I don't like the direction this forum is moving in. We really need to remain positive and supportive of each other. When negativity is thrown out, the wind blows it back. Please don't let it stain you. We've been positive people supporting each other where ever we are on this journey. There has been negativity on this forum that is bringing everything else down. Admittedly, it's a distraction from our own journey which can be painful. I miss Bassi and it hurts like hell that we're still not together. But I don't want to be distracted from the pain. I want to feel support and be supportive to others. Maybe it is best that we just ignore certain posts because it seems to change us and the flavor of this forum when we don't. My mother always taught me that when something is changing who you are or how you behave for the negative, eliminate it from your life. Let's give that a try.

I TOTALLY agree with you!!!!!!!!

Boaz

I totally agree with you 2 and Ose n me.

[Kanyiri 0]

I didn't like that story being posted. I found it hurtful. I just want to be done with this #######. I don't like the direction this forum is moving in. We really need to remain positive and supportive of each other. When negativity is thrown out, the wind blows it back. Please don't let it stain you. We've been positive people supporting each other where ever we are on this journey. There has been negativity on this forum that is bringing everything else down. Admittedly, it's a distraction from our own journey which can be painful. I miss Bassi and it hurts like hell that we're still not together. But I don't want to be distracted from the pain. I want to feel support and be supportive to others. Maybe it is best that we just ignore certain posts because it seems to change us and the flavor of this forum when we don't. My mother always taught me that when something is changing who you are or how you behave for the negative, eliminate it from your life. Let's give that a try.

I TOTALLY agree with you!!!!!!!!

Boaz

I totally agree with you 2 and Ose n me.

[Perseverance 1]

I dont think that EQ was trying to be malicious, I think that she was trying to enlighten us all to the fact that there are 2 sides to every story. Many a man has been charged, given a guilty verdict and condemed from this "VJ court room" without anyone here ever hearing that mans side of the story. There are 2 sides to every story and there is not one person I dont care who you think you are or what you think you know that does not know exactly what has happened between 2 people except for those 2 people involved. Even observers to a situation have a different explanation from the other, while they both have been watching the same senario. So I thank EQ for reminding everyone that there are 2 sides to the story, and not being afraid or bullied into being silent. When a diverse group of people such as ourselves is brought together, there is bound to be disagreements, but how we choose to deal with those disagreements is the key. It has been said that everyone here is intitled to thier own opinions, so there is mine on this subject. I know that there will be those who will get out thier gavel and start to judge and sentance me...

[Ta Ta 1]

I dont think that EQ was trying to be malicious, I think that she was trying to enlighten us all to the fact that there are 2 sides to every story. Many a man has been charged, given a guilty verdict and condemed from this "VJ court room" without anyone here ever hearing that mans side of the story. There are 2 sides to every story and there is not one person I dont care who you think you are or what you think you know that does not know exactly what has happened between 2 people except for those 2 people involved. Even observers to a situation have a different explanation from the other, while they both have been watching the same senario. So I thank EQ for reminding everyone that there are 2 sides to the story, and not being afraid or bullied into being silent. When a diverse group of people such as ourselves is brought together, there is bound to be disagreements, but how we choose to deal with those disagreements is the key. It has been said that everyone here is intitled to thier own opinions, so there is mine on this subject. I know that there will be those who will get out thier gavel and start to judge and sentance me...

I agree with this perspective.

[ebonyqueen 0]

and the moral of the story is:

There are 3 sides to every story. His side, her side and the truth! We all have to look at ourselves in the mirror and live with our actions, cuz in the end it's not what our friends, family or peers think of us, it's what God thinks!

Peace, Love and Happiness

[Queen Jenn 0]

and the moral of the story is:

There are 3 sides to every story. His side, her side and the truth! We all have to look at ourselves in the mirror and live with our actions, cuz in the end it's not what our friends, family or peers think of us, it's what God thinks!

Peace, Love and Happiness

[idocare 3]

This is precisely why some people don't come foward with THEIR reality story. From the first time I posted my story I knew of the possibility of negative responses and people trying to change my reality.

[We_Destiny 1]

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[Queen Jenn 0]

Thanks. I hope you don't mind that I saw yours and decided I had to have one, too!!

[southernchic 0]

IMHO, if people don't want to hear negative stories on VJ they shouldn't read threads about immigration fraud. This message header was 100% clear about its stated purpose: to give people a space to talk about international love gone bad via fraud.

Now if you're not in a space to read that, then skip over it and focus on something else. Simple. There are lots of different topics and postings here on VJ. There's plenty of room here in cyberspace for people to read happy stories and sad stories.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Once in a land some know as the land of opportunity, there lived a woman.

Despite the fact she thought she was attractive and had much to offer, she was unable to find someone there.

So when she found a man across the seas, she thought all her Christmases had come at once.

He professed to be Christian, as she herself did, and claimed to adore her as none had ever been adored before.

People saw through him, but this man had wooed many foreign women before, and also had the experience of his fellows to fill her head with the illusion of his undying love....

She rode on such a high she proclaimed herself Queen....

Then one day, she found a website filled with other women also with their heads high up in the clouds and she rejoiced.

One day, she saw someone post a story that cast possible doubts on her fairytale and despite proclaiming herself a positive, intelligent woman, she immediately unleashed a stream of vitriol on the poster for daring to post.

She indignantly complained to her 'prince' who nervously jumped on the bandwagon in case his house of cards should come tumbling down....'Outrageous' he shouted loudly, 'This woman merely wants to stir up trouble'.

She breathed a sigh of relief and concentrated harder to silence this poster who was forcing questions to pop up in her mind...'Funny how he managed to live to his age without wanting to marry someone else, then within a few months he was consumed with an all-compassing desire to marry'...'How did he manage to eat BEFORE I came along?....'Does his family REALLY like me, or are they overjoyed at the new life for their son?'....'I'm not pretty or slim, he has the body of Adonis, what REALLY attracts him?'

To silence those nagging doubts, she spent more and more of her time proclaiming the poster bitter, mentally ill and twisted...

An ocean away, her love interested breathed a sigh of relief as he rubbed his hands together at the thought of the shiny new green card that would soon be in it, and chuckled at the irony...

Any resemblance to real life characters on a message board is amazingly co-incidental and of course completely unintentional

[panamania79 2]

Come in share your stories.

A place / a home / an arena for those wronged / hurt / scammed to communicate stories, scream, cry and heal themselves past the pain of lost love.

Why did you have to get me started,lol? I know many tales of deceit and heartbrake.I only have time to tell you two.

Once upon a time in a small state called RI,there was a gentleman who was a sucessful business owner in the town of Central Falls.People would go to his business to send money back home,use the phone booths to call their countries,buy phone cards,cell phones,you name it,he had it.This man was also happily married to his high school sweetheart who he hed met in his country.Unfortunately,his wife developed a uncurable strain of breast cancer and she succumbed to it in less than a year.Three months later,this man went to his country,supposedly to get over the greif of losing the love of his life.To everyone's surprise,he brought back a supemodel like woman half his age and said it was his wife.He sold his small business in Central Falls,and him and his arm-candy moved to South Carolina.In three months,this girl got her things,and left this man high and dry.

I know this lady in my neighborhood who has the reputatation of marrying guys so they can stay in the USA.Her last(and 3rd) husband got deported for statutory rape of her own 16 year old daughter.Now she's on her 4th husband who just happened to be here illegally also.So one day when I saw her at the market,I just asked her why she liked men who didn't have green cards so much.She was quite honest with me and said that she needed someone to pay her bills and mortgage.

[Queen Jenn 0]

Come in share your stories.

A place / a home / an arena for those wronged / hurt / scammed to communicate stories, scream, cry and heal themselves past the pain of lost love.

Why did you have to get me started,lol? I know many tales of deceit and heartbrake.I only have time to tell you two.

Once upon a time in a small state called RI,there was a gentleman who was a sucessful business owner in the town of Central Falls.People would go to his business to send money back home,use the phone booths to call their countries,buy phone cards,cell phones,you name it,he had it.This man was also happily married to his high school sweetheart who he hed met in his country.Unfortunately,his wife developed a uncurable strain of breast cancer and she succumbed to it in less than a year.Three months later,this man went to his country,supposedly to get over the greif of losing the love of his life.To everyone's surprise,he brought back a supemodel like woman half his age and said it was his wife.He sold his small business in Central Falls,and him and his arm-candy moved to South Carolina.In three months,this girl got her things,and left this man high and dry.

I know this lady in my neighborhood who has the reputatation of marrying guys so they can stay in the USA.Her last(and 3rd) husband got deported for statutory rape of her own 16 year old daughter.Now she's on her 4th husband who just happened to be here illegally also.So one day when I saw her at the market,I just asked her why she liked men who didn't have green cards so much.She was quite honest with me and said that she needed someone to pay her bills and mortgage.

Wow

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

This is precisely why some people don't come foward with THEIR reality story. From the first time I posted my story I knew of the possibility of negative responses and people trying to change my reality.

Hi

I am not going to get into what happened to me 4 years ago with someone hurting me but I will share one thing with you. You have got to stop doing this on the boards... If I was Nigerian and I had to deal with someone as venemous as you, I would not see my kid either. I was financially and emotionally violated by a foreigner and raged for years about it. It does nothing but raise your cortisol count and make you fat and miserable and get wrinkles. You need to lay down the anger. Look for the positives about Nigerians, maybe even positively reach out to some and teach your son Nigerian culture. Get a hobby, take some meds, I dont know , date some Americans. But stop this idiotic ranting on the boards and grow up. I have an asthma attack just listening to you . I was ROyALLY SCREWED by a guy a few years ago. He never got papers from me but trust me, he violated me. I was mad... But then I decided my baby was more important than raging for years and years.. I am remarried and trust me my insecurity rears its ugly head...

But stop demonising Nigerians ... they already have a bad rap . the reality is that some of these visa journey relationships will work. Some will not. Some women will have an adventure. Some will suffer and some will end up with a whole different life due to their experiences. I am having a baby now with my new husband. If I stayed like you,,,, I wouldnt have a damn thing.. and trust me I was screwed blue and tattooed. For your mental health and your kid, FORGIVE..... let it go... and stop ranting and raving around here.. everyone gets your point already