VinceN

I’ve getting a bit concerned about this. My wife had her biometric on 2/15, two weeks later we received a letter stating that our case have been forward to the center in California. That’s what the last of everything. Anybody has any idea why it’s taking this long and if I should contact them? How would I go about contacting them? Thanks!

You've missed the implied humor. And it seems that at least Curtis and I missed out on spending scads of money in VN.

Sounds like your party would have been a good one to attend as well.

oopps, that totally flew over my head.

I like parties.

I am definitely going to recommend to any in the future to go for a fiance visa and not get married.

You said that as if people do weddings for the sake of the visa process. We went with the K1 and I still wanted to do the "wedding" b/c of our traditions, of course all this was done after visa was in hand and we were 2 weeks away from leaving the country. Perhaps it was my ex's in the states who filled my head with crazy thoughts, but I've always thought weddings are special and a once-in-a-life-time thing for a couples, and even more so for the brides. With that in mind, I wanted to make her feel as special as I can during that day without going too crazy overboard.

FWIW, first post in this thread asked about taking $$ out of Vietnam. That may have lead to your mix up.

You can always wire money via Western Union to yourself from the US if you want to have a smaller amount on hand at the start. Might help keep everyone's spending in check if you show up with a smaller wad.

Sounds like one heck of a party for $8K.

If this is happening after July 1, I'm crashing the party.

But he's not spending 8k's on the party, look at his lengthy list of expenses. I doubt 8k's will be enough for that. I went there last April for my "wedding", my list of expense was very similar to that of OP's, minus relative's expenses and money for the wife to live on as she was coming back with me. After everything said and done I had over 10k's in the hole. I only had 2k's on me when I made my trip there, I used the ATM as I go in VN. I figured the $4 ATM charge (2$ from my bank and $2 from the ATM) was better than risking having $5k+ of cash on me, the total cost of using the ATM is also nowhere near the cost I would have paid Western Union to wire transfer $8k's.

listen all i am saying is if this woman is the ONE for you then you will try everything before giving up right??

Ok you listen, when this woman decided to do what she did, she is no longer the ONE.

just because she kissed somebody you will just quit on her??

If she kissed somebody in public in a very conservative culture such as that of VN, I'm pretty sure they have done a lot more than that behind closed doors.

So you are saying that if you were to walk in on your wife swallowing dude's face, not only you would be ok with that but you will bring her home, shower her with love to save the marriage?

Marriages are based heavily on "love" and "respect", when one decides to be unfaithful there's no longer any "love" nor "respect", and that would render the marriage meaningless in this particular case.

even if this is true i say let it be. if you really care for her ignore all that. I mean she is about to leave vietnam permanently and be with you and then you can shower her with love. I don't know how young or impressionable the young lady is but if she is from small village and she moved to busy area its easy for these things to happen. I mean you are not there every day... once she comes over here you will be there for her. worse case she will leave you when she comes but if you love her isn't it worth a try?? once she is here you can really make a proper effort to save your marriage.

Tell me you're not serious?!!!! There's so much more I can say to this post but I just had a half bottle of wine so I think it's best I hold my tongue.

that means you see the pictures? Do u have it with you? If it was the case then.. I don't think you need any advice at this point

I don't think it's that simple.

Let's suppose she was out having coffee with a cousin or another relative who came from outta town, and OP's cousin happened to pass by and misunderstood the situation, snapped a pic and accuse her of cheating.

It all depends on how incriminating the picture(s) is.

I am going to go over there to find out the truth if it is true I could always cancel her part of the trip back. I want to make sure until jumping to conclusions. Yes I know people do get jealous sometimes but these pics are real and not photoshop. Thanks for all yall advice but I need to make sure and don't want the what ifs. If it is true then I get a vacation out of it and she can stay over there and be poor all her life.

Yeah, just like what I've suggested. Go and have yourself a good time!

Man...Am I the only one who really wanna see these pics?

If you have solid evidence such as pics that show an obvious affair then I say save your money and call it quit. However, if it's not crystal clear I would spend some money on a trip for a "surprise" so you will never have to look back and ask yourself "what if...." Worst case scenario, turn your trip into a vacation to relieve yourself from any depression by blowing money on bia om and "massages" On top of that, consider yourself blessed to find out now rather than later when she's already over here.

You and I will meet in person someday, Anh Loi. You will not know who I am. You'll just think I'm another white guy with a Vietnamese wife. You'll ask if I've heard of VJ, but I'll claim I've never heard of it. We'll chat for a while. You'll recommend a VN restaurant in Little Saigon, and we'll all go for dinner. We'll eat. We'll laugh. We'll drink...a lot. But the whole time, you won't know it was me...

...until you wake up the next day...

...and see "JvP" tatooed on your butt!

I don't know about you but I don't think I would want our names anywhere near that region. If I were you I would do VC4LIFE on that region.

Scott, you just said she's taking a break from the pu$$y for a few days . You meant "cac"

NO he's right with the word chim in this context, but i must admit, when I first read it I thought it was a typo of an english word.

The point is that everyone bitches about the traffic and the lack of enforcement of the rules in Vietnam.

Now the government in Vietnam is actually starting to push some safety issues and traffic issues, and everyone says it's a waste of time. You can't have it both ways.

While I agree with your sentimental, but if they truly care about traffic issues I believe there are many many other other issue they could focus on instead of the helmets.

Vince, what type of bike do you have? I have an 2008 Ducati 848

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This was certainly a huge surprise, I'd never thought about bumping into another bike rider in this palace. You have a Duc in the states right? bc nobody in their right mind would bring their Duc to VN. I have a 2006 CBR1000RR.

Being an active sport bike rider here in the states, I can tell you those "helmets" are a joke regardless where you buy them from. Like it was stated, the people do not give a damn about safety, you can make them put one on but with the way they wear them along disregarding any fitment issue the helmet might even hurt them instead of helping them in a crash.

Jim, I see your point, please at least give some credence to my own. Another example, I have been a practicing Buddhist for ten years. Should I have a VK Catholic or VK agnostic provide mentoring to my whitebread self on what is largely in principle a Buddhist spiritual practice. Granted it has taken on more secular spin in recent years (Buddha didn't drink Heineken), but it is still based in the Buddhist faith. Perhaps non-Buddhists could sue the US Govt for being compelled to participate in a Dam Hoi which may violate their religious principle.

Are you saying dam hoi is more of a buddhist practice?

Immigration isn't a legal process. There are no courts involved unless you're in removal proceedings. It's an application to the government for a discretionary benefit. It's complicated, but not so much that a person of average intelligence couldn't learn how to do it themselves. This is what pisses them off. To be honest, preparing a typical tax return is a lot more complicated than the forms and documents you need to prepare in order to get a visa, and I don't see tax preparers up in arms because a lot of people chose to do their own taxes. Given some of the horror stories I've read on this site, I'd say there are a fair number of immigration lawyers who shouldn't be "playing lawyer" because they have no idea what they're doing. I don't mean to disparage the good immigration attorneys, because there are a lot of them. I've met a few who I have a lot of respect for. None of them tried to discourage me from doing it myself, but said they'd be available to help if I ran into problems or thought I was in over my head. They get plenty of business from people who don't have the time or the desire to learn what they need to do on their own. It's the shysters who make a killing overcharging people for filling out forms who are angry. They're afraid people will come to VJ and find out they've been fleeced for doing something they could have easily done themselves.

Very well said.

I did the entire thing on my own and never looked back!

I just want the new Ipad, make sure it's brand new in the the box.

She's right about the envelope with money, the amount shouldn't really matter since it's just symbolic, at least that was in my case. As matter of fact I never knew how much money was in the envelope as my wife's mom took care of all the gifts on my behalf behind the scene.

Looks like its gonna be a free ride for us, we've just received a notice from them stating that our application has been forward to the California center for a speedy process, from what I've heard this means we will not have to go through the interview process.

thanks guys!

My wife biometrics appt is coming up on Feb. 28th. Interview or not, i am hoping to not having to worry about these immigration processes soon.

I'm on the same boat, my wife's bio is on the 15th of this month. I'm hoping we'll get to skip the interview.

It's normal, I posted the same questions a few week ago when I mailed out our package. They will pick it up at the end of the day.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/346572-no-authorized-recipient-available/page__p__5096809__fromsearch__1#entry5096809

Thank guys, I was just being a bit too paranoid then, thanks again.

Has anybody run into this problem? I've sent out the AOS for my wife to the center in Chicago, I sent it through Usps with signature confirmation. I've been tracking it and apparently they are not able to drop it off b/c of the "No Authorized Recipient Available " reason. Does that mean nobody is willing to sign for the package? What is going on with that?

What makes you think you know ALL the details about the people coming in asking for help? You just "assume" what they told you here is the truth.

How many people actually come back here and update their "REAL" marital status afterwards?

When it comes to VNese marriages, please don't use the term "moral". It's an oxymoron!

To me, Wreath's divorce case is NO DIFFERENT from one that filed divorce for only 3 months prior to filing another petition for someone in Vietnam. (and there're tons of those cases in this forum)

A horse's ####### might smell a little bit better than a bull's, but in the end, they are ALL CRAPS.

I'm curious, how else are you going to help and give people advice without assuming what they're telling you is the truth?

At any rate, I'm so lost! It was very hard to read the original post.

Usually you have to sell it as a salvage car about 1/2 the value. I really don't know why people buy salvage, since it could put you or your loved ones in danger on the road or the next time your wife hits someone. Thankfully and hopefully she is okay, the most important thing.

You said that as if all vehicles with salvaged titles are dangerous. Many vehicles go salvaged from a simple hail storm, I'm pretty sure damages from a hail storm wouldn't "put you or you loves on in danger". You just have to be competent enough when picking out a vechile, but just b/c it's salvaged does not mean it's a time bomb.

Don't be so touchy...

I read that reply as more of a comment on the whole "You cause the damage to your car and then sue the insurance company for diminished value" idea as being a scam (wither it's legal or not)

I have to say that I'd agree with it, I mean where is taking personal responsibility aside from having to live with the insurance rate increase which will be even larger as you add to the Dollar amount they have to pay as a result fo your or your wife's driving.

Don't blame the man for being touchy, he's in a rough spot right now and he doesn't need any non-nonconstructive and seemingly condescending comments from people on their internet high-horse

I think you cannot get SSN without a green card, so that would add about a couple more weeks. I am little confused. Is your wife here? You used past tenses so I am not sure.

This is false, my wife got her snn within couple of month of arriving, she doesn't have her green card yet.

What? Another immigrant putting burden on the Govt's assistance roll? Thank God this one is LEGAL.