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I used fed ex before andit got there in 2 maybe 3 days if i remember correctly.

Congratz and get ready for a long boring flight

Just curious as i am about to hit my 3 month mark in 3 weeks. Was wondering if there are alot of people over the 5 month mark?

Thanks

Im just curious to know what all you decided OP. Im sure by now you guys have talked. Whatever you do i wish you the best.

I actually liike teh idea of stranding them in mexico, but yeah its a bit extreme, i would go with the lesser and take them to the embassy, thats what its their for.

And i would make sure her entire family knows about it and a few of her neighbors to. She should feel ashamed of herself, and if she doesnt her family and friends will make sure she does.

Make her make you a friend on her facebook and make friends with all her friends, then let them all know what she has done.

When my SO and i first spoke about this months ago we decided around 10k a month. But honestly after spending a few weeks there with my son and her its waaaaay cheap there and thats a generous amount but not a huge deal.

if you are sending way more than $200 a month there then you MAY be an idiot and need to take some time off and go live in the philippines for a month or two and live like they live to get a good idea what it takes to live there.

You just might be paying the car note of the guy i saw with a benz over there.

Oh, and having a savings doesnt seem to be a big a thing over there. To the individual living off his wife for now going to school i suggest you introduce your wife to a few accounting courses at the local community college and then sit her down and explain just how far the american dollar goes over there.

Cause she is paying for more than just her immediate family.

Based on our experience, you really need more than two hours (preferably 4 hours) if you want to get that connecting flight. One hour to take you out of that first airport, about an hour just to get that taxi including the 15-30 minute taxi ride to the next airport, then another hour to get you through the baggage checks and the check-in counter, plus another hour allowance for the required 45-minutes-before-departure-time check-in.

Wow you just scared the ####### outa me 4 hours and im already in the airport? so its another airport all together and not just another terminal?

Thanks for all the advice

I just took a look at everything that was in the check bag and its mostly toys for my son and a spare playpen. none of which are a must have. So i will just travel light, take two carry ons, one being his diaper bag and bring a copy of the link showing what we can carry.

Thanks for all the advice guys.

Love this site.

My son and I (2 year old) are flying to the philipines on friday.

I didnt buy a direct ticket, instead i purchased a ticket from jfk to tpe to manila on china airlines and then purchased a ticket directly from philipines airlines into cebu. (it was way cheaper this way)

The problem is luggage, i have to get my own luggage in Manila from china air and take it to the phil air check in. My original plan was to just travel light and use carry ons, but now im told i only get one carry on and his diaper bag counts as a carryon (which is dumb cause women carry purses and carryons all the time)

So now im wondering how good manila is when it comes to getting your luggage, i have maybe an hour to get my bags and check in and be onthe next plane.

Going:Flight lands in manila at 940am and i have to board phil air at 1230 am

Return: Flight lands in manila at 830 and have to board china air before 1045 am

Just want to know if you guys think i will have enough time to pick up my baggage and make it to the next flight to check my baggage and fly. worse come to worse i figure i would just pack the essentials in my carry on and leave the stuff in the check bag. (spare play pen and toys for him to play with and extra clothing ) but i would really hate to have to ditch this stuff.

it 3 am here and im debating on what to pack

My first wife cheated on me many times and my eyes were closed to it, even after i found out and she repented and was born again (which didnt last long) she cheated again and we both realized we werent ready to be married to one another. Had i listed to advice given to me i wouldnt have gotten married inthe first place.

You have to love with your heart and your head.

The extremes that you will go to to ensure that she is being faithful will take you to your limits and push her away from you. If she is being faithful you wont be sure and because you are not sure she will eventually resent you for keeping the reigns around her neck. And you will never be able to trust her to go home alone, trust me i been there.

By trying to work it out with her, you will probably be validating a marriage that was started for the purpose of bringing another here. and by the time its over she will probably do just that, unless he decides to be with someone else. In which case she may just resign herself to stay with you. when you are courting someone you love you hope they will return your love, you shouldnt have to hope that your wife will return it. If you can deal with that then get ready for the ride. Ive been on it and didnt enjoy it, i doubt you will either.

But who knows, maybe yours will turn out different. Thats what i thought back then.

A house built on a poor foundation is bound to fall if the wind blows a bit to hard.

i actually found that buying my ticket directly from china airlines is cheaper, go figure.

Wow, this is crazy, just hold onto those chatlogs for dear life and back them up. also, put a password on your computer so she cant get into that again.

wish you the best. and please report her when you are done, dont let her do this to someone else.

Maybe if you will let your wife read your two threads then maybe she will understand what your going through. It took you two threads and how many responses for you to know that all you need to do is to be tough and not give in? boy thats tough. How can you love the person? kiss the person but at the back of your head..."I have a vj thread that I need to answer.. about this cheating wife of mine...hmmm" Anyway, goodluck and hope for the best.

After my last post i made the choice to just stop posting to this thread. I now break that vow to say this is the best idea i have heard anyone give. and when i say best, i mean BEST. you have fully expressed yourself in these threads in a way that im sure you have not to her. LET HER READ IT IF YOU CANT SPEAK IT.

I am now going back to my position on no longer posting.

wishing you the best

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be thankful they sent it back instead of cashing the check and denying you, which is what happened to me.

When i was in the army i was stationed in fort carson CO great place. Had a first sgt by the name of Sgt Pena respected the hell outa this guy, he was mexican. One weekend i drove up to Denver colorado and got shot in the back in a night club and wound up in the hospital because it was gun related the cops came and took one look at me while they were stitchin me up and asked me what gang i was part of, i told them the baddest mother fers in the world, the US Army and didnt say anohter word to them. When my first sgt got there they told him i was being uncooperative and asked him to get the story outa me.

Eventually i told him i was just trying to stop a guy from arguing with a female friend as he was getting physical and one of his friends shot me i guess cause i didndt even realize what happend. Cops told him what they thought happend.

on the drive home he looked me dead in the eye and told me he hated hood n's like me and i give the army a bad name. He was the only sgt i ever had who didnt have anything but high praise for me. He made that year of my military life living hell.

One night he had me working a 24 hour shift and he was in with our captain and they were kicked back in the office, and mind you this captain was a white guy but coool as hell. I overheard one of the funniest jokes i have ever heard in my life, got a good laugh out of it, at the same time i felt like ####### cause it was a black joke.

After reading this im just curious if i was being to sensitve for feeling bad or to lenient for laughing?

just cause it was a joke doesnt mean it wasnt degrading. And thats why that video is offensive, you might get a laugh, but that dont make it right

Haven't all your parents' taught you this old adage? "If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all."

Gilles,

I will reply again soon with the details you need. It might take a bit of time to dig up all the appropriate references.

You're correct, most of that concept comes from Ephesians. Chapter 5 verse 33 is the easy single-verse version.

Protestant basically means non-Catholic Christian. Protestants are those groups of Christians who originated from the movement in protest of Catholicism - "The Protestant Reformation" or just "The Reformation". Many Protestants today don't realize they are Protestants, and even if they do, don't realize what it actually means to be one.

I'm curious, is the overall tone of the marriage and relationship hostile and/or confrontational? Or is it generally fine if these topics are not in the spotlight?

You're absolutely right about the accountability issue. She should realize the teachings of the Bible are true regardless of who is reading them or presenting them or talking about them. You've just got to calmly and nicely reply to those statements by saying what you're saying here. "Whether or not I believe something has no effect on whether it's true." Truth is absolute.

You could try this... Become interested in Christianity. Then, ask her to help you understand it. Be genuine about it, so she will have no logical way to reject your advance except from her own spitefulness. If she rejects, don't give up. Let your interest in saving your marriage become an interest in Christianity. I'm not telling you to just blindly become one, but rather open up a willingness to learn more about it for the sake of turning her attitude around and saving the marriage. I'm sure you can see where this is going. If you become genuinely interested in Christianity, her biggest excuse for her bad behavior becomes nullified.

She knows what she's doing is wrong, at least on some level. She most likely gets irritated when you inquire about her faith because she knows she is not being true to it. It's a classic defensive response of insecurity. She doesn't want to actively think about how she is not acting in accordance with her own beliefs, and by becoming angry or irritated about the topic she is able to avoid those thoughts she doesn't like. Sometimes you might need to continue talking about these points (calmly), even when she is trying not to listen.

You seem like a patient person, a trait which I share. So I'm sure you can leverage this to "wear down" her defenses, if it's possible at all. Free will does exist, so you could actually be the most perfectly suited individual to overcome this, and yet be unable to, because in the end it's her choice how she acts.

Finally: Don't worry about the haters.

You sir seem to be a good christian and i tip my hat to you. Sometimes frustration pops up and makes us lose our cool.

Giles i will say a little prayer for you and yours and i hope you find jesus cause you need help my friend.

My Memory Verse:

PSA 101:7 No one who practices deceit will dwell in my house; no one who

speaks falsely will stand in my presence.

Something you should read:

http://bible-truth.org/Eph5-25-31.html

If your wife says you dont believe in god. Tell her you are trying to understand and ask her to help you.

i found it to be rather offensive. i dont know many foreigners from any country that speak perfect english. hell my company employees people from all around the world and i hear accents all day.

And if you are killing yourself to "mimic" americans, that makes you pretty fake to me, which is what the woman in the video was.

Are you up with the times on why men go overseas to find a bride? Most of the men I know who married Filipina women admit they got fed up with all the game playing that goes on with dating and/or romancing an American woman.

My point exactly.

and at this point, im sorry but i no longer believe this to be a real scenario. NO ONE could be this dense.

i would include a copy of my resume and have my boss write me a letter detailing my job and then hold that up against what my wife said with a nice letter stating that you feel that her answer was within reason and in line with what you have previously told her about your job in passing conversations of a general work day, or something to that affect.

as far as how far your state is from california, tell him to get a map. or just provide him a google map with directions to and from. course i dont see how that holds any weight with regard to your interview, how is she supposed to know how far it is.

my first wife was very irresponsible with money, caused huuuuge arguments and finally when we got divorced (more than just money) i felt financial freedom again. Now i have saved and saved purchased my first home, met a beautiful new woman who is young and responsible (the two words rarely go for americanized women ) and looking forward to the future.

sucks to go half way around the world and wind up with the type of women you coulda found in your own backyard.

Life is full of choices if you love her then fine, but love can only take you so far before your sanity is thrown out the window.

Thanks, its not such a big deal, will just wait till we do the AOS. Geez this is a good sight. I didnt even think of this till i read a similar thread here.

Thanks for the help

just to much stuff that we take for granted here in the US that we just dont think about. I mean i can hope on a plane and go just about anywhere on a whim, as long as i feel lke putting the cash out, that people in other countries have to jump through hoops for.

kinda messed up in a way.

This just popped into my mind as i wanted to take a trip when my fiance gets here. After reading a few posts here im now worried about leaving before our AOS is done, which is kinda crazy cause its a few hours drive.

Very well said. Other than using our reserves to pay for her school, I agree with everything you said. If I don't use our reserves to pay 100% of her schooling, she's going to throw a fit. So why should I pay only a small portion and leave the rest to her if she's still going to throw a fit?

Because marriage is about helping each other. If she is willing to grow as a person and be more adult (even if she sometimes lapses) then you should be willing to grow as well and stop setting so many conditions.

If i remember correctly she refused to work in the past giving many excuses. now she has a part time job. paying for one class per semester is not alot of money at a decent community collge. If you pay for one and she pays for the other then that is more than fair and she is a part time student, hell if you are low income then you may get financial aid and get reimbursed.

both of you have to be willing to grow. maybe she will realize she wants to take more classes then tell her she has to pay for them, or work something else out.

Well, I have been married for almost two years and I have concluded that this will go nowhere. I have been taking therapy with my wife, because she is extremely unsecured and jealous. If i watch a commercial and an attractive girl pops up my wife go crazy and accuses me of everything. I cannot even go to work if there is a girl working there, because she thinks i am cheating on her. She was cheated many times and left with one kid, who I also brought to this country. This has been going on for a while now. I thought my love for her would help her overcome it, but she is very ignorant and stubborn and she is the normal one and not everyone else. I have the biggest fights with her over the smallest things and it is affecting my health, job, and other things.

It has not been two years yet since she entered the country so no conditions have been removed. What options do i have? I know this sounds mean, but I do not want her in this country because i know it would not work out for other reasons. I was thinking of taking a trip to her country and get into a fight and leave her instead of making up, which I am the only who tries every time. Then get a divorce there and take all documents with me. Is there a way I can get her green card voided? by telling the I will not remove the conditions? how does this work? help please.

For something like this i would suggest presenting your case to a Lawyer and see what he has to say. At least then you can fully explain yourself to him and find out what legal things might come back at you and what her options would be.

People are a bit to judgemental. In my first marriage my wife and i went through alot of #######, when we divorced she moved to another state rather than sucking me dry emotionally, mentaly, and financially. If she is really as bad as you say then i doubt a divorce would end anything, in fact she might even not want to give you one. If your heart is totally out of this then do what you feel is right. But if there is a chance you still love her and later on down the line you want her back, doing her dirty like this would prolly be a bad thing.

Best of luck to you in whatever you decide, im sure there are personal factors that you dont wish to share on such a public forum.

Honestly, only you truly know your wife and we are just on the outside looking in threw a peephole which you made for us. Im sure there is much more to your situation, if not you seem smart enough to move on when there is no hope.

From what i have read this has been going on for quite some time and she seems to be getting better from what you are saying. She went from not willing to work to working part time and realizing that what she was making was not enough. she seems to be trying even if its at a snails pace ssometimes people are like that, scared of change. If she is just scared to make the next steps in life just help her.

If she wants to go to school, let her. if you have to pay, tell her you will pay for one class and over that she must pay for more. when she starts school and if it goes well she will realize that she needs to make more to get more classes.

Honest, sometimes being married to a woman who acts like a child but is willing to learn is better than being married to an adult who is stubborn and refuses to change.

Just help her to see, if she puffs up and gets a fit. leave her be till she calms down. from what i have read in your posts it seems that knows how to think she just needs time to do it and rationalize everything out on her own. Just present her with the problem and the solutions and let her do the rest.