Maxx121

ive been through manila before, and i only took taxi with meter so thats fine. but ya i always budget a bit more. but if its not so far then it shouldbnt be to bad.

thanks guys , besides, shes can be pretty difficult to get over on hehe

yup, very much, we were gona stay at cherry blossoms but then i have the free stay there so i figured we would use it now.

thanks so much for the help

So my SO will be having her medical on January 26 and 27th. She will be flying in at 6am and taking a taxi to st lukes, anyone know how much the taxi costs to and from the airport to st lukes? Trying to figure out how much she will need.

also, for the hotel, anyone ever stayed at either:

Executive Plaza Hotel

1630 A. Mabini Street, Malate, Manila, Philippines

or

Palm Plaza Hotel

526 Pedro Gil cor M. Adriatico St., Malate, Manila, Philippines

are they very far from St. Lukes? I tried to figure it out using google maps but that was no help. I get to stay there for free so i figured i would use it now.

Thanks in advance

You can also try DHL tracking. Use reference number: 9485149354.

Like Tahoma said, give it up to a week for them to enter your case into their system.

I hope this helps you.

WOW, how in the world did you get that hehehe. to cool. ya it says its in transit through DHLs hong kong facility. so they will prolly have it all checked in by next friday.

But i called and they have the electronic file as she is in their system.

I was told that i could pay for the interview now so i will send her on monday to BPI and then on maybe teusday I will try to schedule her interview.

Hopefully all goes well, as of now the last interveiw date they gave out was for Feb 1 so if we can get a feb 7 interview date i will be happy .

Thanks, ya we will renew it. another question though, can her mom renew it for her? as she has work and is scared to resign before she gets her next paycheck.

which is kinda sad, she says they may not put it in her bank if she resigns.

sorry, one more, how long does it take to get the CENOMAR?

DS 230? hmm, sucks cause i dont remember reading that one in their instructions.

Thanks

Sweet, beintg that i live in queens i will be droppin in on them, thanks a bunch.

thnk of it like this, you sent 7500 in a year? multiply that by 5 years then 10...

Thats about one years dues probably less, and since dues would still accumulate leading up to the forclosure, they started the process before a year was up.

understand that this aint no big city and if im wrong correct me, but the board of the HOA would be made up of their neighbors. The guy who actually does the dirty work may not be, but i mean come on, none of them knew he was in iraq?

and you cant say the wife was an idiot as im sure all the other bills were paid.

when i was in the military i had all my bills debited from my account. maybe they did the same for most of their bills, i know i wasnt the only soldier who did it. there was this guy who had a huge lot that would charge us like a 100 bucks to park our cars their for months, we still kept insurance cause in colorado you get hit by huge chunks of hail, i know ever guy there prolly had autopayed insurance.

so its really not a hard thing to see if she just thought it was junk letter from them.

@ Vanessa&Tony

heheh na im sure we would agree on alot i just like to be difficult

Called NVC today and they said it was forwarded to Manila today. Just wondering how long it usuallly takes to get to manila and when i will prolly be able to schedule my interview?

Called the Embassy in manila and they are no help (last night). from what they said maaaaybe we will have a date for teh second week of febuary.

thanks,

Min Wage in the US is like $7.25x40= 290 a week less taxes maybe what 240 ? in a 4 week month thats what $960.00 and your sending $700.00 a month to a country where 1 us dollar is roughly 43 pesos...

your life, but if you put 500 bucks away a month for your child you will still come up short once he starts gettin older.

Complete and total BS

Stop sending money. its not your responsiblity, especially if they dont appreciate it.

Now that you have a family you have to save for your son, you know how things are here in the US and they dont. We struggle here just like they do, just in different ways.

Let them live how they lived before you came.

emergencies only, and that doesnt mean you fit the entire bill.

This whole assumption that because she is a tiny woman she can hit a big, strong man and it will be okay is ridiculous. Maxx, you have no idea how big or small either of these people are. We don't even know the home country of the OP--maybe she is a power lifter from the Ukraine who hit a 5'2" man who immigrated here from the Phils. WE HAVE NO IDEA. So discounting this as being okay because she can't cause harm and he can is ridiculous. While I love the assumption that I don't know anything about this because I live in "ultraconservative suburbia," domestic violence is a problem everywhere, not just in urban areas (for the record, my area is neither ultraconservative nor suburban). It's unacceptable anywhere. Hitting someone is not okay--either the OP or the all-caps-typer, or anyone else. I resent the implication that because I don't advocate violence and I think it's unacceptable that I am out of touch with reality. Maybe you need to stop thinking of "little women" as not being able to cause harm. They do. Women beat their spouses and beat their children, and it is not okay just because they are women.

First i said if she is an amazon that changes everything.

Second, the average man is far superior in strength than the average woman. So i have to assume that most likly she is not bigger.

Third, as i said the OP is dead wrong for hitting him after two weeks because tehre is no way she should be close to her breaking point.

Fourth, the second poster who seems as if she was locked in a bad relationship with a fellow countrymen in the past, while it is still wrong to hit, it is wholly understandable that she hit him as she obviously reached her breaking point and she smacked him ONCE, that hardly qualifies as abuse and anyone pointing a finger and saying she was wrong should be ashamed of themselves, and yes i will assume that anyone who does such a thing lives in a small world where the ugly truths are hidden and all they do is show smiles, and im feel perfectly comfortable with making that assumption because i have lived in areas like that as well as the worst parts of the country and seen to worst parts of other countires as well.

could it have been handled different, of course, but hind sight is 20/20. To simply discount violence, even on a small degree is idiocy.

Take two small children, one is a bully and one is being bullied. sometimes the only way to stop a bully is to stand up for yourself, asking him politly to stop will get you knocked out. yelling at him will simply fuel his anger and give him more cuase to pick at you, telling an adult will simply delay the inevitable, standing your ground and fighting back might make him think twice the next time he picks on you, even if you lose.

all im saying is one smack from a women is NOTHING and hardly qualifies as abuse, unless she is an amazon. and i doubt either of the women who shared their experience with us are. its just my opinion that one was wrong and teh otehr was justified.

a man kills someone in self defence, should he be put in jail?

I feel bad for both of them, they both lose. Its a shame. I know hitting is never a good thing but from what i heard corporal punishment is used alot in some countries and maybe she didnt think it would be a deal breaker hear in america. And honestly i am struggling to figure out a grown man running to family and friends over a slap from a woman, it seems like someone said earlier he was waiting for a good reason to end it.

Na, she was only here two weeks, he made up his mind after she smacked him, he just told them for support i say. They prolly didnt know each other very long before doing the I 129F, thats my take.

Arguments happen if it was me i wouldnt stress a smack from the small hand of a woman, DEPENDING on what i did. but hey, some people have lived their lives and never even got into a fight, so they have no idea what violence really is and automatically chalk it up to them being violent.

My cathy has the habit of pushing me when i do something idiotic, to another woman she might actuallly move them, with me she moves herself i find it funny personally cause she keeps doing it. now if she did that and hit me in the face by accident, its nothing and im not gonna go ship her back to the phils, but thats just me and i understand and love her enough to forgive her for MISTAKES.

me personally, i learned early on not to play with my hands because if i make a mistake with a woman she might wind up on the ground and thats not funny.

It is NEVER okay to hit someone, and to say that a woman hitting a man is like slapping a fly is ridiculous. She HIT him. That is unacceptable behavior. If you don't call the police when someone locks you in the bathroom, that's your own damn fault. You are the one who let that person treat you badly. I understand emotional/mental abuse is difficult and you can feel trapped, but that doesn't justify hitting someone. It seems like the OP and her ex-boyfriend are now much better off without each other, since from her side of the story they both treated each other horribly.

And some idiots say that women deserve to be beaten when they step out of line. Or that a women's place is in the kitchen, or children are to be seen and not heard.

Abuse is abuse. She SHOULD have walked away, right out of his life. There is no "he deserved to be hit". That's just ludicrous.

Sorry but you guys missed when the thread got hijacked for a bit. The OP is Boonraska with her fiance in america for two weeks and hit him, my opinion she is wrong.

the second scenario was from accrossthemiles, her ex was very abusive and she didnt know how to get out of it eventually she did and i take it she is with someone who makes her happy now. before she left when the final straw was broken she smacked hiim i take it, and from what i gather this was with a philipino man in the phils and since she is now here i take it she is now with a US citizen going through the k1 process.

to her i say kudos, if you cant understand why she did it then you both need to step out of ultra conservative suburbia.

unfortunatly the world is not perfect, and if a man twice your size is towering over you breathing down your neck yelling and screaming terrifying you to the point of madness for YEARS and you are to afraid to leave because you feel you have no where else to go and one day you snap during a fight and hit him suprising him for an instant which makes him pause and you grab your children and run never looking back.

you kinda gotta give the NEVER HIT ANOTHER HUMAN BEING bit a rest. There are exceptions to EVERY rule. so give it a rest please.

like i said the OP BONRASKA is wrong and there is no way after two weeks she was abused in any way, to the otheer poster ACCROSSTHEMILES, i tip my hat to you for having the courage to leave an abusive relationship.

and yes a woman hitting a man is wrong, but if you cant take a smack from your wife for being an idiot and cry to the cops you are prolly a puss.

thats not abuse, abuse is ongoing. unless your wife is an amazon then thats kinda different.

now a man hitting a woman is a waaaaay wrong, simply because MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT PHYSICALLY EQUAL. So dont give that both are equally wrong #######, if ya wana take it to law then think of it like this. for an arrest to be made in an assault there has to be visible damage done to a person, a smacking a man would hardly leave a mark, unless you are white then you might have a red mark for what 10 mnts? would be gone by the time the cops come making it an arrest for harrasement if im not mistaken which is not a crime but a violation.

now if a man hits a woman then she will more than likely blead or have a permanant mark, even if its gone by the time the cops come alot of times officrs will still take the womans word for it and say they see it, dont beleive me? ask a cop if you want i can give a couple NYPD officers numbers to call and talk to them about some of the horror stories theey have seen, i can even put in in contact with some of my army buddies who were with me when we had to drag a soldier off his wife.

a woman hitting a man is NOTHING compared to what a man can do to a woman, and anyone who says its EQUAL is a damn idiot and never had to see a woman hurt by a man.

step outa your idiot boxes.

I RESPECT YOUR OPINION AND I APPRECIATE THAT. MAYBE YOU JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND,I NEVER STATED HOW BAD HE WAS. IN ADDITION TO THAT,HES BEEN ABUSING ME VERBALLY IN 2 YEARS ALMOST,THERE WAS THE LAST TIME THAT HE LOCKED ME UP IN THE BATHROOM,BUT I DIDNT REPORT HIM TO POLICE BECAUSE I DONT WANT HIM TO GET INTO TROUBLE WHILE HE WAS STAYING WITH ME IN PHILIPPINES.I JUST SWALLOWED EVERYTHING HE DOES BECAUSE I LOVED HIM MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD. BUT LOVE WILL BE FADE WHEN IT HURTS LITTLE BY LITTLE UNTIL LOVE IS GONE.AND THATS WHY IT HAPPENED THAT NIGHT. I NEVER REPORT HIM TO POLICE I JUST SLAPPED HIM AND LEFT. IN THAT WAY I FEEL FREEDOM THAT I NEVER HAD WITH HIM.

VANESSA&TONY I'M HAPPY WITH MY LIFE NOW AND I KNOW YOU BOTH HAS GOOD LIFE TOGETHER. PAST IS PAST... NO REGRET.

HAVE A BLESSED YEAR BOTH OF YOU...

your Ex was a pric and deserved to be slapped, but some idiots will say you should have just walked away.

some people live their lives in really small boxes thinking the world is built on principles and cant understand why some people are so bad.

I understand what everyone is saying about violence in a relationship but seriously, a woman gives you a slap once when you are being in a idiot? Its unacceptable and has no place in a relationship.. but is it enough to finnish the relationship.. personally I don't think so.. If Rach slapped me chances are she'd get such a shock at what she did and cry and Id probably just laugh.. but then again.. she is a bit of a smurf!!

THANK YOU, I mean come on really a man hitting a woman might cause her to fly into a wall, a woman hitting a man might cause him to go ouch, the upside to this is it also comes with one free kinky voucher.

Also, i seriousl doubt that two weeks worth of sex can be considered sexual abuse. I mean come on, im sure the guy has a decent enough job to be goin back and forth to the phils so he had to be at work most days so how much sex could they have been having for her to feel used???

My take on it is simple clash of cultures blown outa proportion by a lack of properly communicating wants and needs.

Thats why im no holds bared with my cathy, hehe we had a HUGE argument the first time we talked, but when we stopped and thought about what the other was saying without being so emotional, we both gave ground to compromise, and that is how are relationship is which is crazy and stressful, but loving and reasonable.

Being nice to your loved ones is cool and all, just make sure they know what they are buying before taking that flight.

To the OP, I know you say you pay alot of bills but you really do need to get your savings up if you wana start this process especially with a filipina. Im guessing you havent met in person yet so here is a quick break down for you.

Flight: 1k round trip

hotel: my first trip i paid maybe 300bucks for 10 days

food: maybe 200 (depends on you)

misc: gettin aroudn and other stuff 200

gifts: maybe like 150 bucks got kids toys and my SO something

I 129 f filing fee: i paid like 500 but there is a new rate

NBI and police clearance for SO: sent her about 150 maybe 200 and her and her mom got everything done with that (travel and expense if they have to go back to hometown)

Medical in phils: bout 200

visa application fee: bout 350

travel and expenses in manila if they dont live in manila: depends on where they are 200 to 300 maybe? not sure havent reached that point yet

think thats about it, mind you this is all dependent on the person and can be done a bit cheaper i guess. but some things cost what they cost and when you travel abroad you really should have some just in case money.

on my second trip there i gave all my pesos to my SO forgetting about the airport tax. i had enough to fly out to manila but i split my ticket between two airlines cuase it was cheaper so i had to pay it again and didnt have enough, i flew china airlines and had my son with me at that time and couldnt get into my atm. the china airline employees all pitched in to help me, was every nice of them and i felt hella bad cause im sure they get paid ####### wages.

but they were so nice to me i will always fly china airlines now, and if i see the people who helped i will repay the kindness, even though i kinda thought cathay pacific was a waaaay nicer flight, took them firsrt time i flew.

So having 5,000 in the bank for the I-134 affidavit of support is a good thing?

i mean for processing and travel. How much you have in the bank isnt as important as how much you make for the affidavit of support.

between flying back and forth to the phils and paying for all the paper work i have spent about 7k. but i went back twice and once was with my son and i had to file the I129f twice before i was approved.

You never know whats gonna happen so its good to save anyway for just in case something screwy happens.

if they cashed the check you are fine.

Hell everyone,

I am new to the site and honestly never thought I would need to know this type of information until I met a girl in the Philippines online and have fallen in love with her. I am going there to meet her the first of April and am planning on taking a ring with me to propose. I have been reading a lot on here and looking over the forms for the K-1. It is a little intimidating, I am 36 years old and have a bit of a criminal background from my younger days when I was 18 to 23. I had 2 DUI's that I was convicted of and also a possession of marijuana. For the possession I served 10 day work release. So I am wondering if this will affect my chances of qualifying. Also I make just under 40K but pay a lot of bills so I don't have any money in savings. I am not really sure what they are looking for with the financial information. If anyone could give me their opinion on these topics I would greatly appreciate it.

Josh

Nothing you have saidd is a reason to deny you, you make enough to qualify. the only thing is you might wanna get your savings up. btween travel and completing your AOS 5k is a save point i would say.

Hmmm someone hit you across the face and you'll just say oh I deserve it..? Then shouldn't the wife think the same...? Who is has the hierarchy...? No man/woman should settle for less. You get hit/beaten once.. it's sure to happen again - changes more than doubled.

Let me rephrase, NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO HIT ANYONE all i was trying to show is that after two weeks there is no way she would have reason to lose her top enough to raise her hand to him.

but the world is not a perfect place and we are not perfect people, so if after 5 plus years a women who is generally mild mannered and usually takes all of the ####### i throw at her with not much of a peep suddenly explodes and smacks the ####### outa me, YES, i will take it on the chin and rethink how i treat her and i would in no way think that it would be a repititious behavior.

People do dumb things, no ones perfect, if you love someone and have spent a liftime with them you know when they are acting out of character. there is no way after two weeks in a relationship he could know for sure that she was acting out of character or if this was how she normally acted.

the choice to marry her after that or send her home is a personal one and everyone has to think for themselves, he chose to send her home and i was just saying that i see no fault in that as they dont have much time invested in the relationship to warrant trying to work it out.

You were only there two weeks and you hit him? That is not enough time to give a man to adjust his living situation, what did you expect from him?

Honestly he did what was best given the situation.

Understand this, in america if a man hits a woman its made out to be a HUGE deal and he could get into serious trouble. If he hit you and you called the police he would be treated horribly.

If you hit him and he calls the police the police officers will laugh at him.

When it comes to women the justice system is always in their favor here. By striking him after two weeks of being in the US you give him the impression that that is the type of person you are and he then had to think about his future with you. How would he react the second time? This time he did not hit you back, next time he might, and if you call the police, he will be the one going to jail most likely.

Like i said, you gave him no choice when you put your hands on him after two weeks, a few years ok thats different.

If I was married to my SO for 5 years and she one day blew up and hit me then i would take it as i deserved it.

If i wasnt marrieeed to my SO and after two weeks of her being here seh hit me I would prolly have a sit down with her and give her a second chance after explaining to her what is and isnt expected during an argument, as she has never been in a serious relationship before and im 10 years her senior with a marriage and kid under my belt.

He chose to not take the chance.

With relationships like many of us here you really have to think alot more when things you dont expect happen.

what are you telling them in the email? took me about a week to get a response