Cheyemo

I blame the Morans!

I bet Jethro knows how to spell moron.

So you're wife's been here for all of three months and she doesn't have a job yet? Divorce that slacker.
Seriously, when I was a new and very young bride, trying to make my way in a foreign country, with no friends and no immediate family but my husband, I freaked out. A lot. I often thought, "I left all that behind for this -- to live in a country where people make fun of my accent, where I am always the last one to get the joke, the one who had to and has to compromise all the time?" And I'd get angry and say spiteful things like, "I wish I'd never come here" and "I want to go home." I'd pack my bags and call my parents and say that was it.
But I didn't leave. Why? I had a husband whom I loved, and who loved me, and who listened to why I felt so desperate. It was never about him, it was about feeling powerless in a situation that I willingly entered because I loved him. I remembered I had vowed to stay with him and support him in good times and in bad. Ours was no great love story, a pretty average transnational romance that ended after ten mostly happy years due to us just growing up and wanting different things in life. But what we were very good at doing was listening to each other and really trying to understand what was going on underneath frustration. It was part of our vows. Did you not make similar vows?
It's one thing if someone is being abusive -- emotionally, physically or otherwise -- and another if that person feels lost, powerless, confused. In the former case, leaving is obviously the right thing to do. In the latter, the relationship can often be saved. This goes for either sex, lest someone accuse me of naturally siding with a woman here. The immigrant spouse is going to take a while to get accustomed to his or her new environment. It isn't plug and play. I would encourage you to seek counselling if things "just aren't working out" before you walk away from a marriage.
While writing this, my boyfriend asked me what I was posting about and I told him. He's Korean-American, and he suggested (as did Mr Smiley above) that your wife reach out to the Korean community in your town. Do you live anywhere near LA by any chance? There's gigantic Korean community here if you live within driving distance. He was also shocked that anyone could complain about an immigrant spouse (whose first language is almost certainly not English) not having a job after three months when there are so many native speakers who have been unemployed for many months in this environment.
In any event, he and I both wish the OP and his wife the best and hope they at least work a little harder to try to make this relationship work. Better to put the work in now and realise it can't be saved than to regret not doing so.

You're being ridiculous here, in my opinion. First, waiting to have conditions lifted is not that big of a deal at all, as you are with your spouse and have a letter that allows you to travel and work. Yeah, it's annoying, but if I had to dedicate resources to either A) ensure that people get their conditions lifted faster or B) ensure that people don't get butchered by the Assad regime and/or Al Qaeda militants operating in Syria, I would unhesitatingly choose B. Sorry if that impacts you, but that's the way it goes: there is a terrible war being waged in Syria and no one should be condemned to death just so you have the pleasure of getting your green card a couple weeks early. Learn to deal with it.
Second, your Peruvian friends are nuts if they think that Bush left the economy in good shape. You may not remember this, but in late 2008 the entire financial sector of this country absolutely imploded, causing fast amounts of wealth to be destroyed, the credit market to become extremely restricted, and unemployment to skyrocket. Next time someone asks you why American's aren't getting all nostalgic for the good old days back when we all saw our 401ks lose half of their value, you can tell them that.
Third, using Peru as some yardstick to measure the United States against doesn't make any sense. The reason why the sol has gone up has little to do with the economic health of the United States and more to do with Peruvian economic indicators. Since the fall of the Fujimorato in 2000 Peru has experienced tremendous growth in GDP. For a while they were averaging 9% a year. Peru had the fortune of having the largest-producing gold mine in the entire world right as the price of gold shot up as a consequence of the DJIA plummeting under Bush. Vast amounts of wealth were created. Peru has also had the ability to greatly expand its tourism sector, with Machu Picchu being declared one of the "new" wonders of the world, the crime situation being brought under control, and the internal conflict against the PCP-SL and MRTA brought to and end. As I'm sure you know, ever since about 1987 Peruvians have been paranoid of inflation with good reason and the government thus never prints up gobs of cash like other Latin American countries do, nor does it allow the state to grow. With a booming economy, a small state, and little money being printed, yeah, the Peruvian nuevo sol has gone up. If you measure the dollar against the Euro, a currency that people actually care about and spend, obviously you see the exact opposite effect -- the dollar has gone up and the Euro down since Obama took office.
In any event, I don't like Obama or Romney or Bush, and I think that USCIS does a pretty bad job at a lot of things. If someone wants to vote for Mitt Romney because he had to wait seven months to get his removal of conditions petition adjudicated, I guess that's his right, but it is extraordinarily silly. Tell me, what is Mitt Romney's plan to ensure that ROC petitions are adjudicated faster? I've looked at the RNC party platform and strangely I've missed the part about petition adjudication. Can you let me know what page its on? Thanks.

Even in your link it is talking about the I-864, not the I-134 which is what the OP completed. That is all people are trying to say.

Even in your link it is talking about the I-864, not the I-134 which is what the OP completed. That is all people are trying to say.

in your case, yes - as he's hurting his family and he does not seem to care. in duncan's case, more difficult to call.

LOL! That is so true. When my husband says "I'm coming", it took me a minute to learn that he meant, I'll be right back! I was like "really? You're coming over here now?" LOL.

Perhaps you should ask yourself why the USA treats foreign visitors with the same regard for human rights that are afforded to citizens. Granted things went wonky after 9/11 but even Bush's boneheaded administration had the good sense to not conduct it's tortures within the USA.
It isn't "my morality" it's the morality of the country at large (defined in large part by the push for universal human rights post 1945) says It isn't acceptable to summarily execute people for trivial transgressions.
You not only want to do that, but you want to justify it by dehumanising the people ("filth" to quote you) who would be impacted by it.
The US is not North Korea, Burma or the USSR. Nor should it attempt to resemble them.

Okay, my use of criminal actions was a bad example. People need to pay attention to details. She was not fired because she was pregnant but because of her behavior. No different to a teacher caught having an orgy and posting it online. It's no different to athletes having character clauses in their contracts and so forth.
Once again, is it okay for someone to get a job at a Jewish school, knowing all well they are Jewish, yet voice antisemitic views? While a number of amendments cover such a person's view, they should still be fired.
They're a religious school, not some corporation that can plan the firing to avoid such lawsuits.

But here's the thing, there are millions of people around the world who don't even have the chance to immigrate illegally or overstay a non-immigrant visa and who also have NO WAY to immigrate legally but who would love to do so. This boy benefited from 15 years of living in the US. While I might agree to some sort of dispensation for children brought to the US to stay illegally that they should not face a ban if they return as adults to their own countries, any sympathy I have for this boy is tempered by the sympathy I have for all those people around the world who haven't had the chances he has taken such great advantage of.

How far along is your parent in the process?

She was doing a CR1, not K1 which may be the difference in the information you received.

She was doing a CR1, not K1 which may be the difference in the information you received.

When you call back, tell them he wiped out the bank accounts, left for Albania with intent to never return, and NOW he is threatening your life and is returning on Saturday. Ask them to forward the order of protection information to the Customs and Border Patrol Office at the airport, and YOU forward the OFP via fax to the supervisor at CBP, also, with a cover letter explaining the situation.
IMO, the first contact person on the ICE hotline won't be able to help much, as they just 'take info' and that's it. It's worth it, though, to get the casefile started, get a receipt #, to document all, in the future. You must be able to convince that 'first line operator' that you need to talk to a case officer, and not the 'first line operator', as it's a matter of life and death.
Good Luck !

I like this topic and am happy to post in it. We are part of the happy 'beginnings' but with a rough and rocky few weeks in there. Kingsley arrived here on January 1st so he's been here just 5 months now. Each day we are finding out more about each other. Each day we are finding OUR footing and finding OUR way. People have said many times on here that the "visa journey" is not the hardest part, the hardest part starts once they get here, and it's so true. I thought "how can ANYTHING be as hard as this is ... being seperated from my husband for so long without an end date in sight?" ... and then he arrived.
I have 2 children from a previous relationship. Kingsley has never lived in the same house with children. I previously lived with my childrens father for more than 8 years. Kingsley has never lived with a woman. I've been the single mom running the show. He's been the bachelor running the show. To say that we have "butted heads" a few times would be an understatement. We have experienced all sorts of emotions during the few short months he's been here. Pure unadulterated joy, complete amazement (both good and bad), excitement, disappointment, confusion, bewilderment, frustration, silliness, love, love, love. There was a point, for about a month solid, that we weren't 'getting each other' at all and it was heart breaking for us both. I was seriously wondering if we had made the biggest mistake. GOD plans things out because we both 'hit our wall' at the exact same time and were able to bring down the walls and just talk it out. Had we hit our breaking points at different times, I'm pretty sure that this post would be quite a bit different and not under 'happy endings' as the topic!
I've never had to compromise so much in my entire life, and neither has my husband. At the end of the day, we get it figured out and we move on and we're happy that we're together. He gets homesick for the familiar. He's been job hunting (with no luck so far) day in and day out. HATES that he's at home while I'm going to work every day. His pride and his self worth has taken a big hit over the last 5 months. He's become addicted to television because there's nothing else for him to do. Since the weather has gotten nicer, he's been working in our yard which is FABULOUS because I don't love yard work and he's a bit particular about things being perfect so I told him that the yard is HIS DOMAIN .. have at it!
Marriage is a work in progress ... for the duration of the marriage. My parents just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary last week and my mom said "Marriage is work. It was work from day one and it will be work until all is said and done. Just like your job, some days breeze by and it's hard to believe that you got paid to do that all day long. Other days seem endless, nothing goes right and you wish you could quit and find something else. But you don't because you LOVE what you do, you LOVE your job. It's a work in progess and it always will be. Enjoy to the fullest the days that are effortless. Let go of the days that are difficult, take whatever lesson you learned from it and let it go." I think she's pretty smart.

But the OP was talking about fraud, not cheating per se. I think that with relationships with people from high fraud locations, you may be completely in love but still keep your eyes open. Not believing that you are being played but not being blindly in love either. Its healthy to ask those questions especially when you hear of so much fraud. One common sign that nobody mentioned yet is asking for money all the time and never paying for anything in the relationship.

From what I'e studied on here, you need a police report for every place you've lived 6 months or more in your country of NATIONALITY (state, city, province) AND a police report for every place you've lived 12 months or more OUTSIDE of your country of nationality.
I guess that is why we should ask to talk to a supervisor, but make sure you tell them that you just want to TALK to a supv not get your case REVIEWED by a supervisor!
I don't think you'll get an RFE gina_raluca. There were several folks who put where the beneficiary lived since birth and were fine.

What's that?