Nigel&Meggie

Brace yourself because this is going to sound a little harsh...
Your fiance didn't read the form instructions. Even without the VJ guides, you could have successfully submitted the I-129F petition AND included all of the required supporting forms, documents, and evidence just by exactly following the instructions for the I-129F form.
You don't need "proof of relationship" with the petition. You DO need proof that you've met, face-to-face, sometime in the last two years. You also need original statements from each of you indicating your intention to marry, and you may provide additional evidence to support your intentions. All of this is covered, in painful detail, in the form instructions. The form instructions also tell you to submit a G-325A form for each of you, and THAT form also has instructions. There is also evidence that must be submitted, and other evidence that may be required, depending on your circumstances. Again, it's all covered in detail in the form instructions.
I have seen other cases where people didn't read the instructions, and sent only the I-129F form, and they got a lengthy RFE asking for all of the additional required forms, documents, and evidence. I've also seen cases just like yours, where the petition was flat out denied. A USCIS adjudicator receives guidance in the Adjudicators Field Manual to send an RFE rather than deny when a case would be approvable if further evidence were provided, but this is a discretionary call the adjudicator makes. If they received none of the required evidence then it's understandable that they might not have the patience to play RFE tag with someone who clearly doesn't understand what they were supposed to have done.
It's also possible that your fiance blew some extremely important declaration on the I-129F. For example, did he check the "married" box for either of you? Did he fail to indicate how he acquired his US citizenship? Did he check "no" to question 18 - have you met and seen each other within the past two years? Did he check "yes" in response to the criminal conviction questions in part C? Did he fail to sign the form? Any of these would be sufficient reason to deny the petition outright, though some of these could have been overcome by providing the appropriate evidence.
Is your fiance subject to the IMBRA filing limitations? If so, did he include a request for a waiver? Don't know what I'm talking about? Of course not, because you didn't read the instructions.
Look, I'm not trying to rub your faces in this, but you and your fiance need to understand that the US government is beyond ####### when it comes to getting immigration paperwork right. They will not take you by the hand and walk you through it. They publish detailed instructions, and they expect you to follow them.
A minor point on semantics - don't refer to the I-129F as a "demand". There are many things which Americans have a right to demand of the government, but immigration is not one of them. Every immigrant visa petition is a "request", and a request can be denied.
Read the guides. Read the form instructions. File again.

There are laws which make eating ice cream on Sunday illegal, that doesn't mean that they can actually be enforced.

Are you for real?

I have seen many couples wait to get the papers and then file without a problem getting approved.

There's a lot of conjecture going on, but I keep coming back to this one statement. This isn't ambiguous, and can't be explained away by cultural differences. "Nothing to restore"? "Artificial strain"? "Act like what we ware not"? She doesn't consider this marriage to be genuine. She never did. She apparently thought he understood this, as well. The deal, in her mind, was two years of occasional sex in return for a ten year green card.
If anyone still has any doubts, I ask you to pretend for a moment that the OP married the American girl next door, and she was behaving like the OP's wife, and she sent him the comment quoted above. Would you have any doubt that the marriage was a sham in her mind?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9s_BW1n_9aI

There's no beating around the bush in this statement. She married you for a ticket to the US and a green card. Divorce her and get on with your life. She can remove conditions on her own if she's got proof she entered the marriage in good faith.
The I-864 will remain binding until one of the conditions for terminating it have been met, but she'd need to sue you in order to get anything, and lawsuits based on the I-864 have been hit or miss. On the other hand, if she collects means tested benefits then you may be tapped to reimburse the government. She isn't eligible for most means tested benefits until she's been an LPR for five years, but that child is eligible today.

YES! Only when given work authorization after marriage - unknown employer.. That's what i wrote! Hope that helps

Seriously a little over dramatic do ya think; you say you are retarded but your English is great and you have enough sense to know a lot of information in regards to different forms of ink and other things so i hope you are not using the word retarded out of context. There are many people on this planet that are mentally challenged and to throw the word retarded around just for the sake of your clumsiness is disrespectful to those who are truly mentally challenged. I do not doubt you have a cyst in your head or on your brain but you are articulated well enough that i would not consider you mentally challenged! maybe a little unstable but these two things are opposites.
P.S Pull your **** together and take the advice you have been given by others. It is my opinion that the people here have afforded you enough of their time and all you have done is complain, I have seen no gratitude given to those who have offered help so maybe it is all about you here and not about anyone else on the site.

You're a very very weird person, everyone here keeps telling you contact the darn consulate by phone or e-mail and you refuse to and keep panicking, what do you want us to do?? Go and get you a new visa?? Call them!!

Correct, however, if there is a denial, there's no appeal when adjusting from VWP. Did the lawyer mention that not only the marriage but also the AOS filing must occur BEFORE your 90 days is up? Did the lawyer address the additional risk resulting from having already declared your immigrant intent with an I-129F petition and letters of intent to marry? Four months into the process, I would just follow through with the K1 if it were me.

Have you looked at any of the example forms?
http://www.visajourney.com/content/examples

VJ Guides may suggest it but London guides (instructions) do not. Don't you think VJ is covering the whole world with one guide, when each consulate sets up their own plan for logistics? I have never known London to ask for the USCs documents (birth, divorce) in hundreds of couples/interviews in the last three years. London seems to be very different from many consulates in that they do not look at any relationship evidence. You don't have to provide a tax return if you've got other proof of income. You can provide a do-it-yourself affidavit instead of an I-134. The UK beneficiary can self-support with no US sponsor's affidavit. I seriously believe that London is not out to repeat the USCIS's job. An approved K1 petition means the couple has proven they have a relationship and have met in person; they have documented they are free to marry and intend to marry. London is all about the beneficiary meeting visa requirements with his/her documents including UK decree absolute, proof of identity, an approvable medical exam and police record, and financial support. The actual interview part of the morning in London is a 3 minute chat that's more like small-talk with a person you just met at a cocktail party or the local coffee shop. All the fretters walk out saying "That was it?"

No problem. It's probably not a good day to be talking about divorce in England anyway.

A non issue.. unless she has one on her neck that says USA Sux

Afterbirthers Demand To See Obama's Placenta
WASHINGTON–In the continuing controversy surrounding the president's U.S. citizenship, a new fringe group informally known as "Afterbirthers" demanded Monday the authentication of Barack Obama's placenta from his time inside his mother's womb. "All we are asking is that the president produce a sample of his fetal membranes and vessels—preferably along with a photo of the crowning and delivery—and this will all be over," said former presidential candidate and Afterbirthers spokesman Alan Keyes, later adding that his organization would be willing to settle for a half-liter of maternal cord plasma. "To this day, the American people have not seen a cervical mucus plug, let alone one that has been signed and notarized by a state-certified Hawaiian health official. If the president was indeed born in the manner in which he claims, then where is his gestation sac?" Keyes said that if Obama did not soon produce at least a bloody bedsheet from his conception, Afterbirthers would push forward with efforts to exhume the president's deceased mother and inspect the corpse's pelvic bone and birth canal.

Sorry but the fact they wish to cancel.. Is reason enough to give support to OP... What ever the reason it can't be good
Sorry to hear you have to cancel OP

So you are assuming we are making the wrong conclusion by assuming youself. Funny.
Seems you know more than us, please enlighten us with your new found knowledge of this situation.
Why are we sorry to hear that? Because we followed this person's story, through the hardships they shared on the forums, and the pain and time it took them to get the NOA2 finally. It's sad in any event to see someone cancel the process after getting so far.

Actually, this thread was highjacked as I was the original poster as I posted about my legal problems 30 years ago. But thats okay as I understand that she must be stressing as well. With that being said, as well as the fact that I have learned alot in this process, the young lady with the fiancee with the legal problen involving the 11 year old, the best advise I have for her is to seek attorney representation. There are many attorneys that will at least give an initial consultation at no cost. Good luck to us all.
Now, back to my topic... do you guys think at as the US petitioner, my 30 year old arrest, with adjudication withheld, probation and retitution, cause denial of my petition?

Get off plane -> go to immigration -> get visa/brown envelope processed (maybe in the line, maybe in another room) -> get luggage -> go to customs, turn in green form -> meet fiancee
Immigration and customs are separate things. Immigration lets you in. Customs lets your stuff in.

The US government expects the spouse to do better financial planning and to financially support their new spouse, since getting married is not an urgent or emergency event.

There is no temporary work permit that you get from the airport. Your fiance will need to apply for EAD. Most people apply for EAD together with the AOS because it comes with the fee. He is allowed to apply for EAD upon arrival but it will only be valid until his i-94 is valid, and it will take about 2 months to process, so it is pretty useless. To make the long story short, k1 filers pretty much cannot work until you file for AOS and receive your EAD.

Everday someone complains about the wait time....EVERY DAY!
Did you read the guidelines that it may take 4-6months? That is just to get your NOA2. Then you will wait another 1-2months for your NOA3. Then depends on your consulate that your interview MIGHT be how many days?
Relax!!!!
I am going thru the same process....I never called my rep....why? cause I was within the guidelines.
Learn to read....google is your friend.Read your specific place.

If you don't learn to have patience then you won't get through this easily. I waited almost 6 months for my NOA2 and although it was hard, coming on this forum and seeing others in the same boat as me gave me hope. Keep calm and keep the faith.