Markieboy

Decisions, decisions, decisions...that's a tough one.
They entered into a relationship because of true love, of course!

Decisions, decisions, decisions...that's a tough one.
They entered into a relationship because of true love, of course!

Hmmm...settle for Darren or wait for someone else who may never show up.
Isn't that what rlogan calls the "double bind"?

Awesome news! Congratulations!

Oh boy...here we go again...
I understand the fact that you're not the most articulate person in the world, but do you think about what you say before you say it???
Some comments you made are very degrading and humiliating. Other comments just contradict themselves.
I believe much of the problems you are experiencing are the same problems YOU created.
Do you really believe this? Even though she may marry you in the near future, you must remember that she'll always have ties to her parents. She probably holds their advice and opinions with very high esteem and respect. That doesn't mean that her parents "control" her, and neither should you. I'm hoping you would want Gretchen to be a successful, independent woman who is capable of making her own intelligent decisions.
I highly doubt both of these claims.
In general, women don't appreciate being treated like #######. They don't like to have their minds made for them. Instead, they prefer to be treated with love, respect and admiration. Putting these qualities into practice helps improves relationships.
Again, contradictions. Is she capable of making her own decisions? Or do those decisions need approval from you first?
It upset you that Gretchen willingly decided to give her mother P6,000? Seriously?
Perhaps if you weren't so controlling and dominating, Gretchen wouldn't feel the need to hide things from you. Have you considered that?
Nope, not in the slightest.
That's not necessarily a good thing.

Oh boy...here we go again...
I understand the fact that you're not the most articulate person in the world, but do you think about what you say before you say it???
Some comments you made are very degrading and humiliating. Other comments just contradict themselves.
I believe much of the problems you are experiencing are the same problems YOU created.
Do you really believe this? Even though she may marry you in the near future, you must remember that she'll always have ties to her parents. She probably holds their advice and opinions with very high esteem and respect. That doesn't mean that her parents "control" her, and neither should you. I'm hoping you would want Gretchen to be a successful, independent woman who is capable of making her own intelligent decisions.
I highly doubt both of these claims.
In general, women don't appreciate being treated like #######. They don't like to have their minds made for them. Instead, they prefer to be treated with love, respect and admiration. Putting these qualities into practice helps improves relationships.
Again, contradictions. Is she capable of making her own decisions? Or do those decisions need approval from you first?
It upset you that Gretchen willingly decided to give her mother P6,000? Seriously?
Perhaps if you weren't so controlling and dominating, Gretchen wouldn't feel the need to hide things from you. Have you considered that?
Nope, not in the slightest.
That's not necessarily a good thing.

Oh boy...here we go again...
I understand the fact that you're not the most articulate person in the world, but do you think about what you say before you say it???
Some comments you made are very degrading and humiliating. Other comments just contradict themselves.
I believe much of the problems you are experiencing are the same problems YOU created.
Do you really believe this? Even though she may marry you in the near future, you must remember that she'll always have ties to her parents. She probably holds their advice and opinions with very high esteem and respect. That doesn't mean that her parents "control" her, and neither should you. I'm hoping you would want Gretchen to be a successful, independent woman who is capable of making her own intelligent decisions.
I highly doubt both of these claims.
In general, women don't appreciate being treated like #######. They don't like to have their minds made for them. Instead, they prefer to be treated with love, respect and admiration. Putting these qualities into practice helps improves relationships.
Again, contradictions. Is she capable of making her own decisions? Or do those decisions need approval from you first?
It upset you that Gretchen willingly decided to give her mother P6,000? Seriously?
Perhaps if you weren't so controlling and dominating, Gretchen wouldn't feel the need to hide things from you. Have you considered that?
Nope, not in the slightest.
That's not necessarily a good thing.

Oh boy...here we go again...
I understand the fact that you're not the most articulate person in the world, but do you think about what you say before you say it???
Some comments you made are very degrading and humiliating. Other comments just contradict themselves.
I believe much of the problems you are experiencing are the same problems YOU created.
Do you really believe this? Even though she may marry you in the near future, you must remember that she'll always have ties to her parents. She probably holds their advice and opinions with very high esteem and respect. That doesn't mean that her parents "control" her, and neither should you. I'm hoping you would want Gretchen to be a successful, independent woman who is capable of making her own intelligent decisions.
I highly doubt both of these claims.
In general, women don't appreciate being treated like #######. They don't like to have their minds made for them. Instead, they prefer to be treated with love, respect and admiration. Putting these qualities into practice helps improves relationships.
Again, contradictions. Is she capable of making her own decisions? Or do those decisions need approval from you first?
It upset you that Gretchen willingly decided to give her mother P6,000? Seriously?
Perhaps if you weren't so controlling and dominating, Gretchen wouldn't feel the need to hide things from you. Have you considered that?
Nope, not in the slightest.
That's not necessarily a good thing.

Oh boy...here we go again...
I understand the fact that you're not the most articulate person in the world, but do you think about what you say before you say it???
Some comments you made are very degrading and humiliating. Other comments just contradict themselves.
I believe much of the problems you are experiencing are the same problems YOU created.
Do you really believe this? Even though she may marry you in the near future, you must remember that she'll always have ties to her parents. She probably holds their advice and opinions with very high esteem and respect. That doesn't mean that her parents "control" her, and neither should you. I'm hoping you would want Gretchen to be a successful, independent woman who is capable of making her own intelligent decisions.
I highly doubt both of these claims.
In general, women don't appreciate being treated like #######. They don't like to have their minds made for them. Instead, they prefer to be treated with love, respect and admiration. Putting these qualities into practice helps improves relationships.
Again, contradictions. Is she capable of making her own decisions? Or do those decisions need approval from you first?
It upset you that Gretchen willingly decided to give her mother P6,000? Seriously?
Perhaps if you weren't so controlling and dominating, Gretchen wouldn't feel the need to hide things from you. Have you considered that?
Nope, not in the slightest.
That's not necessarily a good thing.

This is the only thing i can tell you, you have put yourself in this situation darren. In the first place, it was you who offered money to the family. It was you who provided your young girl financial support every month. i am no saying that it is bad, however you came to their lives giving out the wrong notion that you are papa santa claus who will raise them up from poverty. and now bec of your money, you think you can control their lives and you can dictate them how they are going to live their lives

Shhh...that's supposed to be a secret, Tahoma!
I don't mind being a typical Kano, ignorant of tribal customs.

Hey guys...pass the pipe...I'll take a hit too...as long as it's not what Tim/Mav is smoking.

Shhh...that's supposed to be a secret, Tahoma!
I don't mind being a typical Kano, ignorant of tribal customs.

Oh boy...here we go again...
I understand the fact that you're not the most articulate person in the world, but do you think about what you say before you say it???
Some comments you made are very degrading and humiliating. Other comments just contradict themselves.
I believe much of the problems you are experiencing are the same problems YOU created.
Do you really believe this? Even though she may marry you in the near future, you must remember that she'll always have ties to her parents. She probably holds their advice and opinions with very high esteem and respect. That doesn't mean that her parents "control" her, and neither should you. I'm hoping you would want Gretchen to be a successful, independent woman who is capable of making her own intelligent decisions.
I highly doubt both of these claims.
In general, women don't appreciate being treated like #######. They don't like to have their minds made for them. Instead, they prefer to be treated with love, respect and admiration. Putting these qualities into practice helps improves relationships.
Again, contradictions. Is she capable of making her own decisions? Or do those decisions need approval from you first?
It upset you that Gretchen willingly decided to give her mother P6,000? Seriously?
Perhaps if you weren't so controlling and dominating, Gretchen wouldn't feel the need to hide things from you. Have you considered that?
Nope, not in the slightest.
That's not necessarily a good thing.

Oh boy...here we go again...
I understand the fact that you're not the most articulate person in the world, but do you think about what you say before you say it???
Some comments you made are very degrading and humiliating. Other comments just contradict themselves.
I believe much of the problems you are experiencing are the same problems YOU created.
Do you really believe this? Even though she may marry you in the near future, you must remember that she'll always have ties to her parents. She probably holds their advice and opinions with very high esteem and respect. That doesn't mean that her parents "control" her, and neither should you. I'm hoping you would want Gretchen to be a successful, independent woman who is capable of making her own intelligent decisions.
I highly doubt both of these claims.
In general, women don't appreciate being treated like #######. They don't like to have their minds made for them. Instead, they prefer to be treated with love, respect and admiration. Putting these qualities into practice helps improves relationships.
Again, contradictions. Is she capable of making her own decisions? Or do those decisions need approval from you first?
It upset you that Gretchen willingly decided to give her mother P6,000? Seriously?
Perhaps if you weren't so controlling and dominating, Gretchen wouldn't feel the need to hide things from you. Have you considered that?
Nope, not in the slightest.
That's not necessarily a good thing.

Very sensible advice.
It is so much easier to change yourself, than to change, say... ~94 million people. The sooner you accept it, the better.
I definitely agree with you about panic and feeling out of place! It's like sharks sensing blood. OTOH, if you embrace the culture and show a desire to learn more about it, the more people are accepting of you.
Banking IS a pain! I really don't miss that part. Waiting literally hours to make a transaction. But you know...some Dept of Licensing/DMVs here in the U.S. are just as bad!

I don't see what the fuss is about. You won't "give up anything" for you child and husband. You can actually have BOTH U.S. and Philippine citizenship. I don't understand why you're "not looking forward to it." You should really be ecstatic that Philippine law allows citizen to retain their former citizenship.
Remember that it is very difficult to see, today, your future years down the road. It is a more wise decision to have more options available, than to limit it to one.
Good luck with whatever you decide.

You can reacquire your Philippine citizenship. Your child can be a dual citizen, as well.
Please refer to Philippine Consulate New York for Citizen Retention and Re-acquisition.

I think in most cases, an unemployed beneficiary would NOT qualify for an expedite. In many developing countries, many beneficiaries are unemployed. Many have requested an expedite based on severe financial loss and have been denied.
You can certainly try and request an expedite. But IMHO, I don't believe it will be granted based on this situation.
I wish you all the best luck with your case! Keep us posted with what happens.

I don't see what the fuss is about. You won't "give up anything" for you child and husband. You can actually have BOTH U.S. and Philippine citizenship. I don't understand why you're "not looking forward to it." You should really be ecstatic that Philippine law allows citizen to retain their former citizenship.
Remember that it is very difficult to see, today, your future years down the road. It is a more wise decision to have more options available, than to limit it to one.
Good luck with whatever you decide.

You can reacquire your Philippine citizenship. Your child can be a dual citizen, as well.
Please refer to Philippine Consulate New York for Citizen Retention and Re-acquisition.

Wow, that is quick! Someone very efficient must be handling your case.
Congratulations and good luck with your interview!

With 7,107 islands, that may be possible.

With 7,107 islands, that may be possible.

OP: This is the worst advice anybody can ever give, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER lie at an interview. Period, full-stop.
Lying to a CO will result in a lifetime ban with no waiver. Your wife must answer each question truthfully.