BlueBonnet

I agree. at one level, I am relieved that I no longer have to think about any of this garbage. Vj is fantastic and I have referred many people I know personally to it! He took away my old life yesterday and today I've already booked a job interview at home. I'm very fortunate to have support. I'm tired of being heartbroken for so long because of the unknown. now I know.
I am hurt, sad and angry but I'm really taking action to move forward as soon as possible. Next, divorce, but til then I can just think about me for the first time in 3 years.
Thanks again for support.

Looking at your time line, hes been here almost 3 months. It was a bit like that for me too. I left behind a house, a 50K a year job that I had had for almost 20 years, family, I gave everything up. I came to the USA for him, and found as the summer rolled around he was working a lot. Here I was, with no one really to talk to, no job, in a house I still wasnt really comfortable in, bored out of my mind and feeling like I couldnt contribute. It was pretty much the complete opposite of my life back home.
The first month, oh it was bliss, I hadnt seen him in so long, now here he was and it was amazing. After the first couple months, we hit a few bumps just trying to figure out how to live together - you know, his socks on the floor, my tampons in his medicine cabinet - silly things, but still not what one is used to. After the bliss its reality, and its harder on the person coming in, because they are changing everything all at once, it can be overwhelming. For me, alot of it was that I couldnt contribute finacialy, I hated that, I felt like I put so much pressure on him ( I had money, but I wasnt earning ).
Is he miserable, probably, is it you, probably not. Its culture shock, its missing family, its feeling useless, its to much. But it does get better. Dont give up on him after a couple of months, give him time.
One thing my husband did for me, was take me out all the time. Because we were long distance, we spend our days at home so we could be on the internet so we could be together. Niether of us ever went out, so when I got here, he took me out all the time. And that was nice, a real change for my life style of the past 3 years with him. All I can really say is just give him time to adjust, do things he loves to do, get out of the house alot, visit family ... keep busy.
For me, after that first few great months, it was probably 2 more months before we really settled. We had to learn how to live together, and that can be hard. Now, our marriage is strong and Im glad I did what I did. ( move here )
I still have a problem with the health care, so much insurance needed here and there, and such low wages, but Ill adapt eventually.

That would depend on whether it was the male or the female.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Dont look at the months issue ... look at each day as though its just one more day closer. Dealing with the short term is much more easier to handle than the long term

I gave thumbs up to everyone with the sex posts ... after reading his posts from yesterday I really thought he would be gone today. Not gonna happen I see.
To answer the OP question however, in case someone else with some common sense is interested too ... the fiance visa - K1 - Is approved for 1x only crossing the border, then to fulfil the visa requirements the persons listed on the petition have 90 days to marry. If there is no marriage within this time frame, the visa is nulled, and the beneficiary must leave the USA as they now have no legal status to stay.
Its always been my personal belief that if I, as the bene, came to any country with the intention of being with a person, if that person didnt want to be with me, or I found I didnt want to be with them, I would be on the first plane back to my country. I dont understand people who dont have this belief system, unless it was always their intention to use the person just to get a visa and get into the country. Which is sad, and pisses me off, because its those people who make the process take forever and puts extra costs on those of us who are in real loving committed relationships.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

I gave thumbs up to everyone with the sex posts ... after reading his posts from yesterday I really thought he would be gone today. Not gonna happen I see.
To answer the OP question however, in case someone else with some common sense is interested too ... the fiance visa - K1 - Is approved for 1x only crossing the border, then to fulfil the visa requirements the persons listed on the petition have 90 days to marry. If there is no marriage within this time frame, the visa is nulled, and the beneficiary must leave the USA as they now have no legal status to stay.
Its always been my personal belief that if I, as the bene, came to any country with the intention of being with a person, if that person didnt want to be with me, or I found I didnt want to be with them, I would be on the first plane back to my country. I dont understand people who dont have this belief system, unless it was always their intention to use the person just to get a visa and get into the country. Which is sad, and pisses me off, because its those people who make the process take forever and puts extra costs on those of us who are in real loving committed relationships.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.