tany1157

Why do you have random men able to talk to you through FB chat?

You know I have been thinking about this thread a lot today. Especially since watching the video. It really makes me wonder the people who question ALL Mena relationships, of course it would be be dumb to think that fraud does not happen in a lot of countries but seriously this is my question what part of the USA do the people who are so critical live in? I am a big girl.. ok but I think I am pretty, and my fiance' is Moroccan so he is a beautiful Arabian man.. But my entire life from a teenager up the majority of men that have thought I was beautiful were men of color. yeah for real, Maybe its just an east coast thing but for some reason dem boys think our junk in the trunk is beautiful!! LIKE tonight, I made a sale and after the sale, the guy texts me back and is like You are a very attractive woman , dude for real I have been up all day and night with a sick kid, havent had a shower since yesterday morning ( i am not ashamed, I am a mom) I have been crying from exhaustion, hair is a hot mess... you get the idea, and he still found me pretty,. oh and guessss what he was a darkskinned man JUS SAYIN This is nothing new in the USA , us big girls need love too :)Againn, maybe its just over here in the East LOL I am just and blessed that my love is an arabian because he has a certain charm, moral standard, and level of respect I just have never seen before. MAGHREBIA!!!
ok Peace and Blessings, Love to you all,
Sarasusan

I find it interesting how people ask for "advice" and "opinions" then get their panties in a wad when people don't give them answer they want or expect. Why bother asking if you've already made up your mind?

Women can also be equally ignorant pigs! Take my ex, please!

And it's not just the outside bloggers you have to beware of. I think quite a few of us remember a certain VJ member who lifted photos from an unpopular MENA member's profile, then re-posted them on this very forum later on (months after the MENA member had removed them) in an attempt to harrass her.......... BTW the "perp" was neither banned from VJ nor from this forum, but instead was actually elevated to MENA moderator by the site owner. So ladies & gents, be very careful what you reveal here.

Hassan and I have been married 8 years. We met online, married, he moved here, got his american citizenship 2 years ago and
we are happy.
Debbie

I don't want to belabor the point, but did you date American men that didn't greet their mothers when they walked into the house?
That's a pretty standard greeting in Morocco. Kiss the forehead, kiss the hand, and then kiss your own hand, or shake hands and then kiss your own hand.
Just saying.
I'm going to leave the topic alone, but it seems like there can be idealizing going on, and things that are done by your foreign fiance/spouses are praised & glorified, when in reality, it's pretty standard stuff.
There are a lot of really great things about my husband that I appreciate & make me love him. But things like those mentioned on the thread seem standard.

And, not for nothing - what kind of slubs were you dating in America?????
Yes, my husband holds the door; yes he carries all the bags & doesn't want me to carry anything; yes, he wants to do laundry but I don't want him to; yes he cooks; etc etc etc.
So, no I'm not bitter or angry. (maybe a little sleep deprived b/c he snored so freaking loudly last night, but not bitter or angry).
I just don't understand #1 - why give ribbons for it,
#2 - what kind of jerks were you hanging out with in America? I've had Americans do all of that also.
#3 - how many women throw around superlatives and definitives (he's the best...the most...the perfect...I have ever known) and you've not lived with him! It drives me a little batty sometimes because to me it sounds bizarre!
I could be the most demure, selfless, accomodating, eyelash batting, princess, if I had to - for a week or two on vacation!
sorry to butt into the thread but c'mon!!!

Thanks man (if you're a woman, don't be offended- I call everyone "man"). I try not to take myself too seriously. Life's too short.

Because of course MENA men are all secretly terrorists Can't just be straight up scum bag users, nope, cuz they're muslim, they're out to get us.
OP, so sorry to hear this. On the plus side, it looks like he screwed himself by leaving too soon. I'll keep you in my duas that what is best will happen for you

But it's cool for everyone to talk about Malika "by name" on the first page, and she's still a member. Just because you don't agree with someone doesn't mean its OK to talk about them.............Just saying..........

Thanks everyone....really didn't think this day was going to come soon....thank God it's here!

Hi everybody. Sorry to hear about the recent denial. And currently they are requiring the I134 for K1 interviews. We had our interview yesterday...Feb 2 @ 3pm, had a woman interviewer...he was asked to talk about me, my daughter, my dad (and expanding questions along the way). Was told APPROVED!!!! And need to turn in I134, and updated paperwork, then will receive visa!!! So hoping on next week for the visa in hand INSHALLAH!!!! Was called a week before for him to come in, was told "The CO would like to see you, bring your passport & you will be told whatelse is needed when you come in." So stay strong everybody rebuttling/refiling...DON'T GIVE UP!!!!
Monica

ok well i'm gonna be very honest here but honey, just the fact you posted your question on this forum asking for advice from strangers, means you already know what's going on.
My advice - run. Don't walk away from it all, but run.
You're missing one of the two huge,main things you must have to be able to go through this process - trust in your significant other.
Second thing would would be patience

Obviously, you are not happy with your relationship as well. Maybe you should work on yours first before offering advice to the OP. And I think you need that "Best of luck" more than the OP.

I am sorry you are going through this...that being said...TRUST YOUR GUT!....I know you love him, but personally, I would not tolerate sneaking around....and yes, you can have a heart to heart with him...but he will only work hard to convince you there is nothing going on....him staying in NY right before your marriage??? Even if they are only friends, it is very fishy...my husband wouldn't spend time alone with another woman, only if friends, out of respect for me, and I feel the same way about hanging around with men. But only you know your relationship, but please, trust your gut on this one...
Best of luck to you

I don't want to say my personal finances here, but I am NOT rich....I work hard, but don't really have anything....my husband and I are only 3 years apart, and really, we will both be starting over when he gets here, as I am living with my parents right now....I personally would not sign one, and would be offended if someone who was supposed to love and trust me would ask me to sign one. I also come from a middle-upper class family, and material things are not first priority....I married someone who is on the same wave length as me...now if I came from a wealthy family, and had a home and many assets BEFORE I got married, maybe I would feel otherwise....but because of my life circumstances, I wouldn't sign one. Just my opinion....
Also, this guy is NOT my lawyer....I spoke to him just this time for a free consult, and it had nothing to do with my marriage....he just gave his opinion without me asking him.....also, I am a fairly intelligent woman, and I know there is a risk in this kind of relationship, but love is a risk, no matter where you find it, and if you never take that risk, how will you ever know if it was true or not??? In my case, it is finally the love I have wanted, and that is all that matters to me.