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Candid! OMG! Thank God you're okay!!!!

Please be very careful! Yes, we must all remember to never take one second for granted! Thank God you have your husband near you and you're okay!!!!

I can't handle all these catastrophes! You all know how I lost my aunt recently? My cousin's mom just died a few days ago. She was only in her 40's!!!! You just never know! So hug and kiss your spouses and don't ever take them for granted for a second! And don't waste one precious moment being angry over the small, unimportant things! Because you just never know

According to Muslims that I know (religious and otherwise) ALL plastic surgery, unless done to prevent pain or harm to one's health - is a sin. Even from a non-Islamic point of view- just think any religion will generally say you shouldn't change what God gave you...unusual breasts and all

What struck me was the picture on top, showing the lady undergoing laser therapy to become WHITE... interesting indeed. It's quite sad and pathetic that a person cannot even be happy with the ethnicity they were born into and that they are trying to become white.

Good morning everyone. Good luck Seren, on your interview

Nothing much to report here. I agree, we all need to be very thankful to even have a job. No matter what it entails.

She devil...hmm... Yesterday we had a staff meeting and she made everyone take a name out of the box and we had to say one nice thing about the person we got. She got me. She really complimented me...and it was all true Then later someone else said she complained about my smoke breaks. I don't know who to believe. I think everyone is a backstabbing, 2 faced liar Well not everyone, but most of them. I give up trying to make sense if it all. Now I do my work, do a better job than everyone else, take my recognition with a grain of salt, and leave when it's quitting time. I don't get emotionally involved anymore. Too hurtful. I still chat with her and hear her out when she's complaining or when I need to complain about something...but I don't get too emotionally involved anymore.

So it's Friday. Yesterday we had a freeze here...it was 78 degrees I actually kept my jacket on. I spent a couple of hours with hubby outside just talking. It was very therapeutic. I enjoyed it. Oh, remember the painting situation? I wanted him to do some more work, but felt bad and didn't want to ask again? Yesterday mom comes and says, "this and this and that looks disgusting. It needs to be cleaned and repainted." Husband dearest was like, "okay"... so I guess while he's at it, I'll tell him to just finish up the upstairs too. Oh and I showed him the point and paint (saw it in CVS). He said he wants to try the $6 one from Walmart. When he comes back from Friday prayer, Inshallah, maybe we'll go to Walmart and see if we can find it. I also told him I want my office redone. I want him to build me shelving from floor to ceiling and a desk right into our wall. I want to be able to keep the rest of the room open so that I can put a little couch or daybed in there. Since we're always having visitors, the more beds, the better. He was like, "Okay" He's really too good for me

Good morning everyone

Yeah, I didn't mention anything to hubby. I think I will wait until he's got the driver's license, has started working, and is a little less sensitive about everything. He's getting better. So am I. Our adjustment is getting easier day by day. We still have our little arguments, but for the most part, it's calmer now. I don't want to bring on another project that might hurt our delicate relationship

Did someone say paint???

What are these pads? I'm gonna google them. I wish we'd known about it. Took us forever and a day...especially since we did the same walls 3 times

I want to ask hubby to get started on the upstairs, but I'm afraid. Poor thing. After all the work he did on the downstairs, I feel bad getting started on the upstairs. Besides, I don't even wanna look at colors for a long time. I have about 10 billion samples of paint. I wish you were closer, I would give you mine LOL We did the samples too, but you know, it still looks different when the whole wall gets done vs. a small part. Keep that in mind when you decide!

I haven't checked anything on our EAD. I should check and see if we got a "touch" remember those????

I've been staying busy. I actually have been busy on another forum. No offense to the wonderful friends I made on here, but VJ for the most part is full of the most pitiful, low lives, I've ever come across on the internet. So other than here, I don't care to post much. You guys are welcome to join me if you want. PM me and I can give you the site if you like.

Funny, I was just thinking about Birch-beer, CJ Vasani, CJgator, ArubaDolphin and all the other fun friends we had on here. GS4ever...totally dropped off the face of the earth once the spouse came, huh? I guess they're busy making karma star babies LOOOOL

Oh Lisa, get this...some redneck ba$tard came and yelled at us for smoking outside. He thinks he's something special (the maintenance guy)...boy did he offend the wrong person. He thought he was going to have me written up, but it turns out that it's gonna be the other way around that'll teach him to yell at his superior...

Well I better get going. I need to eat a late lunch and do a little more work before I leave today. I plan on leaving early. Overall having a crappy day.

Is there a family feud going on or what?

No one posts anymore

Will this be the last week of our weekly thread?

I guess Friday we'll have a season finale then?

Have not heard anything on the EAD homefront. I do hope it comes soon! Somebody needs to get out of the house and keep himself busy so he doens't drive me crazy

Good morning

Weather here is like a furnace I hope this means a warm winter?

Driving is getting better. Almost ready to take the test. Needs more practice with parallel parking and stuff like that.

Lisa, that's great news about the EAD. You never know, you might get his EAD earlier than all of us?

I hope you're all having a great day. Catch up later!

I know, it's Monday, we're all busy

Hope everyone had a good weekend. Check in when you have time

I think there will be a few of us in the near future applying for AOS close to our anniversaries. There were only about 5 of us that went the k3 route(seren doesnt count since she's going back for the CR1 interview ) and I think we're all doing AOS later to get the 10 yr GC.

We must be gluttons for punishment then Things are going quite fast with AOS these days and to be sure you get approved only after your second anniversary, you'd have to apply like a month or so before the anniversary. That would be another year away for us (we are like 10 days from our first anniversary !). Since I consider citizenship for my wife as the end of the immigration journey, applying for AOS now would get us to the end sooner. Having a green card sooner rather than later also has other minor advantages (like being able to go to Canada without a visa - something we hope to do when we visit Niagara later this year).

-D

Your situation makes sense to do the AOS now. Since some of us have already been married over a year and are close to the 2 year mark, we figured we would wait.

Seren, yes, the neighbor's fence, deck, and side of their home caught fire. I was just falling asleep when I got woken up. Luckily no one was hurt but it was scary! Flames shot up to the roof. I thought for sure their whole house would be destroyed, but no. Thank God. Oddly enough it was a young boy who lived 2 streets down that smelled the fire and came to our street and started banging on doors to call 911 and to get people out of their homes. Since it's so hot and dry it could have spread very very fast. We had to water our lawns down to prevent them from catching fire too. The next day my dearest husband helped the man rebuild his fence. I was very proud of my husband doing that

Yeah, what Lisa said...

I don't even know what weekends are anymore. I've been working my butt off to get these renovations paid for. I want to be able to take a vacation soon too. I'm tired of our boring routine LOL We need some time away from mom. I guess like you, mom free days for us are rare

I'm trying to think of someplace super romantic. So far I'm thinking Bali or Fiji. He wants to go to Hawaii, but for some reason, I'm just not feeling it. I want to leave the US and get lost somewhere

Ah, we can all dream right?

I guess if you count my neighbor's house catching fire, then maybe that is some excitement. Otherwise just since we never want to leave the house in 100+ degree weather.

(Clapping hands primly)...Bravo Steven.

I hope you got my text. BIG BIG BIG congratulations to you all! I hope you guys find much peace and happiness and that you finally quit one of your 15 jobs! Say hello to Ksenia from us. When you're settled in and have some time, let's all get together online and start planning our reunion

Cherish your time together!

Getting ready to leave and go home...I don't know what we'll do. I cannot figure out what to do with my living room... nothing looks how i want it to...it's giving me nightmares. I wish I could go to the movies. Husband refuses. Oh well...i guess I'll just wait for the DVD I think I'm going to plan a vacation. I don't know where yet, but I want to plan something for December/January...so that I can have something to look forward to. I'm starting to get burnt out

Morning everyone!

So glad I got to catchya last night. Wish I wasn't interrupted, but...c'est la vie. We'll get together again SOON. Let's not wait so long.

9pm works for me tonight also. But please please please text me to remind me. Actually I guess it would be 8pm for me? Still, that'll work. Will make dinner early tonight.

So excited to chat with you guys!!!

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...t&p=2125392

Read this post. It has the phone number for department of homeland security and the names of actual people there who were helpful in the past. Your husband can maybe ask to speak to them directly.

Wow, gogo, looks like you've jumped a whole lot of hoops for all this... At least it seems to be slowly paying off, yes? :] And yes, I've been reading your story, I'm just not quite sure how to reply to it all... Were you working full time while doing all this?

How about the others who read this post? Have you all been working full time while working on the visa process as well? Just wondering... as the visa process takes a lot of time and then your work takes a lot of time... You see where I'm going here.

I think most people here work full time. Yes, writing letters and contacting people takes time. However, nowadays with the computer it can be done in the evening via email and printing out online forms. Your husband should be doing all this. Sending out emails. Printing out authorization forms and mailing/faxing them to the senators/congressman so it gives them permission to check into the case. Have him call the department of homeland security directly...I think there was a number for that on VJ. I saw it a long time ago. I could dig through our papers and find it IF your husband will actually call them. Also, let's see what the Ombudsman says. Did you fill out all the paperwork and send to the Ombudsman? Make sure your husband did that. There is a whole application that gets filled out to them. It's not just a phone call or email for that.

Morning all!

This weekend was... well, I need another weekend Actually a 7 day weekend in the Caribbean sounds good right about now

No, I didn't get any SMS either. I was waiting and had the phone with me all day yesterday

Well it's certainly a creative idea

Good morning all...hope you are having a good weekend (and sleeping in )

Last night our AC system froze up (due to several days of 100+ weather) and the repair people said we just have to turn it off and let it melt out...we ended up having to stay in a hotel (too hot to sleep)...suffice to say, I'm so ticked off today...and tired!

After spending all week driving around, shopping and buying stuff, I have given up on the color we chose...I cannot believe I'm saying this, but we are going to select another color and repaint. I freaking wish I never took on this project! My poor husband has been like, "Sure, I'll paint it 100 times if that is what you want, until you're happy" but I feel so bad...not to mention how much money we've spent on paint...it's like almost $40 per can! Sheesh... So we decided to forgo colors and go with something blah and easy that will match with everything...just a slightly darker off white color than what we have on top (our wall has that wooden molding separating the wall in half). So today we have to go back and get some more samples...

I don't think he's talking about marrying outside of culture. He's probably talking about the fact that a Muslim female who has never been married before cannot give herself in marriage. She must have the permission and blessings of her father. He has to be the one to give her away. Also, no imam, (valid imam) would allow a Muslim girl to marry anyone without the father, brother, uncle, etc present. Non-Muslim they can, but not Muslim girls. That is the view of mainstream Islam as it is told to me...other people with less popular views might find a way to manipulate the situation to their liking and say it's okay (like they do with the whole Muslim women marrying non-Muslim men) - as it is told to me.

I also wonder why the parents don't like him? Is it because he's not Egyptian? Because he's not Muslim? (I don't know if he is or isn't). Maybe he doesn't make enough money? Maybe they're scared their daughter will be abused? and there is no protecter here for her? You have to think about what is going through their minds. Is it possible the parents hate him for no reason? Maybe it's not hate, but fear...

aya told us why-"My family's only reason for disagreeing with me is that they want me to marry an Egyptian!" in the OP.

i personally don't consider the hanafi position on this marriage issue to be "manipulating the situation to one's liking and saying it's okay", but that's just me. her family's position is not islamically sound. i don't know of a single school that would allow rejection of a marriage proposal based on nationality. it's of course up to her to decide how to go about dealing with this, but that other guy's comments were out of line, and completely ignorant of the fact that much more learned hanafi scholars say she has every right to marry this man without having to worry about "ALAH will be so angry from u , specially u r female not a male ..and that will causeshame to ur parents , brothers and sisters amont ur big family , friends ..etc"

Maybe they are not hanafi? Anyway, I have no idea but the imam had said that if a girl is Muslim and never married before, then she must have her father present. It happened to me and to another lady which married a Muslim and we had to tell the imam that about not being Muslim and had no "wali" otherwise he wasn't going to do the religious marriage. Actually I'm not sure if he would have asked for the father anyway, but due to age, the father was deceased already.

Either way, telling a girl that comes from a "conservative" family in Egypt, to just ignore her parents and do what makes her happy is not responsible advice. That is Egypt, not America. Girls cannot just "do what they want"...they have consequences there that you seem to be forgetting...especially for girls.

I also agree with KH regarding the "conversions" I see taking place amongst "Muslims" right before marriage... it's very fishy in my opinion...yes, call me old fashioned too, but I wouldn't believe in a conversion that happened over night. If this John is a practicing Muslim, then it's upto him to follow the religion and prove his intentions in the religion to her and her parents. Trying to get a girl to have a relationship with him online and take her across the world without her parents blessings, is a piss poor way to do it if you ask me!

Besides, is it really allowed Islamically for the girl to leave and go alone to him without a chaperone and marry him? What happens if he "defiles" her before they marry? Who is her protector in this journey? What happens if he dumps her once she's here? Or starts making excuses and doesn't follow through? What if he becomes like the other men we hear about on VJ who bring over foreign wives and start abusing them and treating them like slaves...I see that in the "Effects of Family Changes" section. She will be alone without anyone to fall back on...and probably without her family if they decide to "disown" her for going off with him. Lots of things to think about...

Mrs B, I am starting to wonder about your marriage, really... I mean, he could care less, and is "too tired and busy" to work on getting you here...and you're ready to just "go on" with your life and live alone, seeing your husband from time to time... Maybe there is something a little deeper here? Perhaps in your hearts, you've both called it quits, but neither one has the courage to come out and say, "It's over between us"...and so this delay in getting things done is just a blanket for deeper issues??? I'm just thinking out loud here. I don't mean to offend you in any way, but it's an observation I've made as your posts continue.

So I have a question for this crew...do any of you have Joint Credit Cards with your spouses. I can easily have an account in my name and then add her as an authorized user. What I really want is her to be equally responsible for the bill, so that her name appears on the bill. If you do have this type of account, what company is the card from??

Hmm...not sure about being responsible for the bill... my understanding is that when you are married you are automatically responsible for each other's bills 50/50. I know one thing for sure...I had added my husband as an authorized user before he even got here. When we went to the bank to add him to the account, the lady, a friend of mine, told me "Wow...he already has good credit...how did that happen?" So it turns out that the credit is built for them, even when you just add them as an authorized user.

I don't think he's talking about marrying outside of culture. He's probably talking about the fact that a Muslim female who has never been married before cannot give herself in marriage. She must have the permission and blessings of her father. He has to be the one to give her away. Also, no imam, (valid imam) would allow a Muslim girl to marry anyone without the father, brother, uncle, etc present. Non-Muslim they can, but not Muslim girls. That is the view of mainstream Islam as it is told to me...other people with less popular views might find a way to manipulate the situation to their liking and say it's okay (like they do with the whole Muslim women marrying non-Muslim men) - as it is told to me.

I also wonder why the parents don't like him? Is it because he's not Egyptian? Because he's not Muslim? (I don't know if he is or isn't). Maybe he doesn't make enough money? Maybe they're scared their daughter will be abused? and there is no protecter here for her? You have to think about what is going through their minds. Is it possible the parents hate him for no reason? Maybe it's not hate, but fear...