CnT4ever

Good luck. Let us know what you send in and what the interview is like when it's done.

Why does it bother you for someone to refer to you as the American fiance? Sounds like insecurity to me. Lisa is never rude, EVER. Like the others said, if you are getting bent out of shape for this, I would hate to see you at the AOS interview when the CO is doing everything in their power to prove your marriage as fake. They love to trip people up and get bad reactions, just like the one you had.

WOW it must be amazing to be sooooooo righteous and all knowing about everything Arab. Oh and I forgot to mention psychic too. I don't know why all us women in the MENA forum didn't consult with the experts before we wasted our time marrying men we would never be able to satisfy. Who knew???

Is that really how you see it? Because that's kinda sad... Why not take the good information from people with EXPERIENCE and leave what you don't like? Why resort to childish name calling? "Sooooo righteous...psychic too" If you are secure in your relationship, why does it bother you so much?

Still no EAD for us

Thank you! Beautiful pictures!

I don't think I ever heard of a case like this You will be at the mercy of the consulate, which is very harsh, in Morocco!

I know a couple whom this same exact thing happened to. It was 6:50am. The husband was also overseas. The wife let them in. They went through everything. Had been together for many years. Clothes everywhere, photos everywhere, etc etc Tons of proof sent with the AOS application (which took almost 3 years for them to get to, because of security checks - MENA man). Even after all that they were sent an "intent to deny" letter and they sent MORE proof...and still in the end, he was denied and he was arrested and put in detention pending a hearing (which they later won). So be prepared for anything.

If I'm not mistaken, if they deny your husband's petition and he is out of the country, he cannot come back into the country to fight it. You can check with a lawyer, but I think that is true. I think the reason is that once they deny the AOS the immigrant is immediately out of status as of the moment that decision is made. So if he's out of the country already, that means he has not eligibility to come back in. They (she hired a lawyer on the spot) had to get her husband back ASAP before they got a final denial. So you might want to get your husband back home ASAP. Again, double check with an immigration attorney because I could be mistaken.

It kills me how many people feel comfortable posting on here telling you basically your relationship is DOOMED because you are from different religions. I find that laughable. Is it difficult? I think it can be depending on the two people involved. Is it impossible?? No. It all depends on how willing both of you are to accept each other's beliefs and not feel that you need to impose your beliefs on your significant other. Couples have a variety of hurdles to over come in EVERY marriage. We all have different backgrounds even if we are raised in the same country and are Christian in background. Catholics vs Protestants etc. Just make sure you keep the lines of communication open and I think that can go a long way.

Some of these people have been in their marriage a long time or lived within the Muslim community a long time. They are not talking from their own whims. They are talking about what they have seen over the years. They are imparting the wisdom they have from years of experience. From what I know of both KH perfect match and Nawal is that they have spent decades amongst Muslims and have seen it all. Nothing to "laugh" at, in my opinion.

KH Perfect Match and Nawal pretty much said what I was thinking. It isn't easy, and even if it starts out easy, it may become harder as the man gets older (as they mentioned). Also, this isn't directed to you, but in general, never think that you can change someone's beliefs. If you're really accepting of all his beliefs then you will be fine. If you think "Well I can talk to him and show him ____ with reason" then you're setting yourself up for disaster. Again, this is not directed at you, but in general.

Debates are good if they are done with respect and don't end in any kind of anger or bitterness. You never know, it might bring you closer to each other.

I didn't know whether to say "Happy Birthday" or not...I know it's a touchy subject with Jen

I do wish you a happy life and CnT says, "I shall pray for your healing and salvation, my dear. The Lord shall give you the strength to come up from these trying times...and may He plunge Tushit into the fires of hell, and damn him, and give him ever lasting retribution. Amen!" We are very proud of you for ending this. ALL of us.

So give me a date/time for a chat. I miss you all! But can we do it earlier than normal? I have to feed this man at 8pm central time so anytime before that.

If anyone has advice and has been in similar situation as us please help! I'm very sorry if I'm posting in wrong place

I am new to this. I received the website from a friend of mine who married a Turkish man. She said this site helped her tremendously so I hope it will do the same for me. I am still researching to figure out all the forms and visas and such. I am an American women and will marry my Brazilian fiance here in Brazil. We are still in the beginning stages collecting various documents. My divorce decree, letter of being single, etc. He was in the US previously entering illegally and living for 6 years. He was issued a drivers license. He also was arrested in 2008 for driving with an expired drivers license. He left on his own he was not deported. He returned to Brazil because of his elderly mother and has been here for almost 1 year. In January 2009 he tried to get a visa to return to the US and was denied. He Say's he was told he was denied because the interviewer didn't believe his application." No one told him he was banned for 10 years.

He thinks the reason he was denied is not because they know he was there illegally but because he lied and said he never applied for a visa before. Which he did in 1999 and was also denied then, he believes because he had no binding ties in Brazil. Presumably he was probably at risk of trying to stay in the US. I am wondering what we should do? Is there a way to find out if he was banned for 10 years without causing ourselves more pain? I'm worried he does have a 10 year ban and that is why he was denied. But we have a friend who also was in the US living with his whole family illegally for 7 years they all left and came back to Brazil on their own not deported. The children were in school,had drivers license etc and they were recently given tourist visas. Hope this makes sense because I'm totally confused myself. Any help will be appreciated.

FYI a very very dear from of mine was going through this exact same situation. She is on here on VJ. She suffered heart break, financial disaster, trauma to her self and her children. She too had the same issues and filed waivers and bent over backwards for a man that later treated her like trash and dumped her (after he got all he can get). So I don't believe it's wrong or off topic to ask the OP the questions I posed.

Devil's advocate here. Why would you marry someone that obviously has no problem breaking the law and no problem lying about everything? Not to mention, someone who has every reason to use a USC to get back to America???

I second that !!!

The OP did not ask our opinions on her life decisions, #######. Reported.

I suggest you know that you will face a very likely denial; and indeed, like bobby said, the waiver might also be denied on grounds of misrepresentation. Do consult an immigration attorney AND consider residing in Brazul.

Get a life! Anyone that airs their dirty laundry on a public forum should expect people to give their OPINIONS. I didn't see you having a problem giving your opinions to people in MENA when Tammy was asking about marrying a second foreigner I didn't say anything bad to her. Just telling her to open her eyes to some major red flags. Ever known anyone whose life was completely destroyed by an immigrant user whose story is quite similar to this? I do. Not a pretty picture.

Devil's advocate here. Why would you marry someone that obviously has no problem breaking the law and no problem lying about everything? Not to mention, someone who has every reason to use a USC to get back to America???

I think since they didn't ask for evidence, that's good. They didn't ask us either and we were approved without AP. As for the cousins, that's good also. Surely they don't think he would "use" or commit "fraud" with his own cousin, right? I think it's good news!

If they took his passport, that is excellent news!!!!!! God willing and visa with no AP!!!!!

Congratulations!!!! Now onto the driver's license and all the "wonderful" stuff that entails (God was I happy when hubby got his license. Finally no more fighting about what he is doing wrong, etc).

Aww...I bet he's gonna be so happy! I know my husband is gonna be on cloud 9 when we get ours!

[The reason that these women have such a hard time talking about what has happened to them or what they have been through is the minute they say something, they are set up for a personal attack. I think you may have figured out that alot of the people on the boards actually know each other in person. My story is very complicated and convuluted and its easy to see how it would seem weird . But yes. My daughter is Moroccan. Her family is from a part of Rabat called AGDAL and her father used an American back in 1998 for papers and abandoned her without divorcing her days after he got his 10 year card and she had brought him over here at a time where DCF was still permissible. Yes, I have lived through things you never ever would wish that could or would happen to you and have seen culturally some things that most never get to see because the stress of losing a child is beyond horrific. I would say that I am a pretty credible source when it comes to talking about this subject and I am very quick to tell people that its not ALL people but it is so prevalent tnat the consulate itself polices alot of the applications. There is even high lottery fraud out of there as well, with single lottery winners sometimes marrying people and then scams running that way. Its because of the intense poverty and there is a very high moroccan population here in the USA so there are alot of places to run to if things are arent working out and a very strong emigrant population.

I want you to understand that I understand your defensiveness but its not me who was used by a Moroccan for a greencard. Its tons of my friends and the ex wife of my daughters father. I merely commented on things. I forgive you because honestly if I knew what happened to me, I would and could never believe the nightmare I have lived

Cheers

Am I reading this right? You married a man and had a daughter with him, even though he previously used a woman for a greencard? Or did you have his daughter and then he used another woman? I'm confused

Good luck Kenza!!! Inshallah soon you will be reunited without any further delays!!!

Good morning everyone

My weekend was busy with work, cleaning, cooking... So nothing special.

I miss you all. When can we chat?

until obama stops sanctioning the murder of muslims in af-pak and elsewhere, i've no use whatsoever for his ramadan kareem. i have no idea why muslims keep on posting this all over. it's quite demeaning in light of the circumstances.

09ok my son married an all-american woman, sweetest woman in the world, and her parents got him for $250,000. I've married a Moroccan man and I doubt I'll be in the position of my son. We all take a chance when we marry today, no matter what culture - and we pray and hope for the best. If people are foolish enough (on both sides) not to protect themselves and their feelings, then I think they have what's coming. I'm sorry for them, I've made mistakes with my heart as well in life. Think of all the anger you are spewing....you can't move forward if you keep looking backward. If I were you, I'd chalk it up to a horrible mistake and experience and move on and vow to be careful with future relationships. What are you gaining. I believe my husband to be a good and honorable and very intelligent man with a kind heart. If he proves otherwise, it's my mistake and he will have to face God. I have a friend who married a man from Peru, and she was badly burned. Anyway, here's my timeline.

1st NOA rec'd 4/23/09

2nd NOA rec'd 8/10/09

Anyone have any idea it may take to get notified by Visa

Meaning even All American people can swindle people out of money and break their hearts. I think the poster is referring to the trash FB group. I'm assuming they either embezzeled, swindled, or in a divorce settlement got 250,000 from her son.

Good morning all! TGIF!

Hope all is well at your end, has SHE DEVIL been at it again?....

cool seren! Is it for the same type of work you were doing?

hey CnT! hows it going this morn?

Kinda Sorta....I used to deal with commercial lending this is more personal banking. blah blah blah

She's looking into taking a promotion to a regional level job and she wants me to take her place as director

No, really. So we'll see what happens. I'm debating if I want that type of job or not.

Good morning all! TGIF!

Lisa, I tried skiing and it was a disaster. What I am looking forward to is trying something else like tubing (how hard can it be to sit on a tube? ) I also want to go on a sleigh ride (all bundled up with hubby under the blankets would be so romantic). I doubt my husband will ski either, so Y and Y can sit and talk about work, how expensive things are here, how lucky they are to be married to us, and how silly skiing is.

I'm totally open for anywhere. Let's see what married2atico says. Does anyone have her number? I don't have it in my phone, otherwise I would have texted her to come "vote"

I texted Jen, she said she's trying to finish up her stuff in CR and couldn't attend. I told her it was for 2010 but then didn't get a reply about it. So we'll see.