CnT4ever

Well, so far, so good for us. He didn't "change" when he got here. I have not had any nagging feelings. I'm pretty confident we'll make it until forever. So I hope that helps you feel better...there are happy endings here. They just aren't given the attention and drama that horror stories get. Sometimes people also get hurt if they've had bad relationships or hard times and others come on here and give an example of a good outcome. So that is probably another reason why you don't read alot about the good stories. Always follow your gut. You'll be fine.

Oh, one more question...how much time before your second anniversary are you planning to adjust status? Ours is in February (just a couple weeks after you Lisa ) It says that they are taking 6 months to do the aos...I'm betting it will take longer for mena men. What do you think? Do you think November/December is too early? I don't want to be bothered with lifting conditions. Or do you think it goes from the time you file and not the time it gets approved? In which case we would want to wait till after our second anniversary???

first, its about time!!!! you need to wait until you have the ead card in hand to make the SS application hun.

It's the time you get approved. I think we'll file around Jan or Feb, our anniversary is in Jan and that will give us a breath after all of the christmas shopping

Its probably smarter just to wait until after your 2 yrs..just to be safe. They have everything they need anyway(EAD, SS#)

We'll go thru that journey together too

Oh, one more question...how much time before your second anniversary are you planning to adjust status? Ours is in February (just a couple weeks after you Lisa ) It says that they are taking 6 months to do the aos...I'm betting it will take longer for mena men. What do you think? Do you think November/December is too early? I don't want to be bothered with lifting conditions. Or do you think it goes from the time you file and not the time it gets approved? In which case we would want to wait till after our second anniversary???

hey guys, I got the approval email for hubby's ead today

I had to go to USCIS office, then got impatient and called customer service today...the guy told me I would hear something in 5 days, but I just checked my email and there it was! yay!

Question - how long after the EAD did your husbands wait for the social security number? We filled out the form saying we wanted one issued, but I'm not sure if we still have to take the ead card to the office and get a social on our own, or if one will be coming in the mail?

If for nothing else, they should just let the baby stay, for the sake of the marine. They ask people to support the troops and the war, but they themselves (government) don't support that marine's memory

I had my interview on March,26,2009.The CO says everything looks good but she needs to do some AR and i asked her how long it will take? she says 2 weeks. i have been under administrative process for more than 5 months.

I got an email from the embassy to send my passport on July,30,2009.

I sent my passport to you on Aug ,2,2009 .

Every time i send you an email to ask about my case status i got the same answer '' the case is pending consular officer review''

Today the Embassy called me and they asked me for a second interview on Sept ,27 ,2009 at 1 PM.

I know it doesn't sound promising

I want to know if anyone here had the same situation ?!!!

I thought that they asked me about everything at the interview .so what will they ask me about this time ?!!!!

I wonder why they told me to send my passport and now they need me for a second interview?!!!

Dose that make any sense at all ?!!!!!!!!!!

Mohamed

I would think that them asking you to send them your passport is A VERY GOOD sign. A second interview is not a big deal, especially after there being such a long gap since the first interview. My fiance has to do another too and he and you are not the first. Some questions they ask will probably be the same ones they asked you before, and perhaps even a few new ones. Just stay calm, don't allow yourself to get too worried or stressed and as another poster has put it, 'think positive'.

It could just be that they want you to come in and take your passport/visa in person. Maybe they need you to sign something (maybe something was not signed by mistake). I wouldn't worry too much about it. Honestly, I doubt it's going to be a full on interview like your first one.

Howz everyone doing? I had family visiting last week and had a great time....

Hoping to find work soon

Still no EAD. We were told to wait another 20-30 days, "It's with an officer" - that was on the 10th.

How typical...someone treats you like garbage, simply because they can...

Well congrats on the approval, you guys deserve it! And keep after them until he gets that visa!

text me when you guys get online so I can join you

BTW, did they ask your husband for fingerprints/biometrics when they did the ead?

went to the local uscis office and they asked if he did fingerprints yet...I was like, "No"...

spent 1.5 hours just so he can tell me he put in an inquiry via email... hello, I could have done that myself from home...

You know who I just remembered? josephloveswife... I wonder what happened to him?

I'd wager that 95% here CLAIM it's good. I also think it is dirty and low down to drag 0livia's marital relationship into this cesspool of a thread when it is sheer speculation. Sloppy finger pointing at it's MENA finest ...some things never change. Kthanxbai.

If you're referring to what I wrote, there's no speculation; it's her own words. Who's got time to speculate about such nonsense? Who could dream up that after the whole visa process, a husband would say - Nah, not gonna live with you; I'm going to be the nanny for my sister's kids for a while! Read the other thread - he finally got the visa and says now he wants to live with his sister across the country, and no, she can't live there with him, not possible.

Why is it perfectly fine for her to toss around Islam and the Muslimah sisters on here and something that happened years ago, project anger and aggravation onto the Muslims, and it's not okay to point out she's probably the one who's aggravated and angry?

But I agree the whole "you're angry because you're fasting" argument was a cheap shot.

17 pages later and all this thread proved was that the OP was right...

There is an article out by Marc Ellis, a well known immigration lawyer with vast experience with returned petitions, that this would be a mistake. It would basically go through the system again, and when it got to the consulate they will again deny it based on a fraud marker on your case. This would put you even further back.

Which service center is it at? I am not sure at the moment which one is working faster, but at one time the Vermont was as slow as molasses and the California was doing much better. But I know of another case of a returned petition (K-1 I think) that has been reaffirmed, that took a little under a year.

Ours was at the California service center, and it took about 8 months from the time they received it until they sent out the NOIR, and was reaffirmed within 2 weeks from receiving my rebuttal. But you have to be careful of the advice from the USCIS. They told our representative that I should refile, and this was only a few short weeks before they sent out the NOIR. You just can't trust what they tell you.

She wants to refile via DCF in Syria. Do you think the outcome would be the same as refiling with California or Vermont? Maybe a DCF would be different? Does anyone have experience going through DCF? I personally do not know. I knew only 1 couple that did filing in Syria, but they did not have red flags or a denial. They were approved immediately. To the OP, I strongly suggest you ask an immigration attorney what they suggest. You can pay a small fee for a consulatation. It's worth it to take the advice of an attorney in this matter.

Still no EAD

I made an infopass appointment for the hubby so we can go and get an "interem" employment card. This is rather unusual, I think. Never heard of a hold up with a work card. I mean, if it was that involved, they wouldn't be handing out "interem" cards at the local USCIS office, would they?

we met online, zorpia.com. Houcine messged me, and I, reluctanty, replied. Well, for 2 weeks we chatted, then he called me while we were chatting on MSN. SCARED me to death. Here's this foreign man talking to me on the phone. (I first gave him a phony phone number, then my real one LOL). But....as the story goes....love at first chat! That was July of 08 and in of September I flew off to Morocco where I met my love face to face and I havent been the same since. Love is so COOL!! We got engaged, had fest there, I returned home and filed papers. I am off to Morocco again in December so we can get married there. My mom is going with me this time (I am the baby and for her not to be there at my wedding, well..... you know mom's) to meet the family and experience Morocco at its best.

That is really so sweet

I don't remember anyone posting anything negative about your quick adjustment. Nor do I remember anyone posting that they were miserable. I suspect you took this too personal.

I was referring to this post:

There are some posters that are veterans to this site that are so MISERABLE in their own situations that they have fun by saying awful and scary things to newer members just to make themselves feel better. I told my hubby just recently that I am going to refrain from some of these more negative threads because they are just not constructive to anyone who is waiting and going through the process and missing their spouse.

And I didn't say anyone said anything negative, just that some pointed out it was unusual.

In a way I agree, that's why I think if someone has a good story and a happy ending, that it's good to share the happy stories and not only the bad ones. I was not pointing out any specific person. I'm not taking anything on here personal

Why would stating that your quick and easy adjustment was unusual cause you to say that some of us are miserable? I thought we were merely comparing adjustment timelines. How would you know if we are miserable or not? And doesn't it seem somewhat judgmental to have said that?

I didn't write that post. Look at the quote. It was written by Betsy El Sum. I was only referring to it. That is why I posted my happy news. So that it's not all "miserable" posts like she said. Anyway, everyone can think what they want. As for the name, well, a select few know where it came from

You may not have been the original poster that mentioned some were miserable, but you most certainly did continue it. That is my point.

And for the record, I have never posted anything here to scare anyone. Due to our circumstances, I would be one of the highest suspects for a fraud marriage here. I come here often to tell my story to prove that suspicious marriage can and do work.

Why are you being so sensitive? I was not saying anyone is miserable or pointing anyone out. I was not "continuing" the post. I was saying that I wanted to share my good experience so that people like the above poster can read positive things, not just negative (because I do see that we have A LOT of negative posts here). Geez...no wonder people don't want to post positive things. If someone has to explain themsevles for a "happy ending" story, then it's not worth it!

Did you tell him that your concern was about a possible emergency in the future? Maybe he didn't think of that? Depending on how long he's been here, or his job status, maybe he doesn't have enough money and is ashamed to come out and say, "I can't afford it right now" - or maybe he feels that his money needs to go to more "useful" things. I'm not sure, but I think he will need a valid passport if he has to renew or extend his visa, etc. Maybe someone else knows better. Perhaps you can convince him by telling him that he needs to do it for USCIS????

I don't remember anyone posting anything negative about your quick adjustment. Nor do I remember anyone posting that they were miserable. I suspect you took this too personal.

I was referring to this post:

There are some posters that are veterans to this site that are so MISERABLE in their own situations that they have fun by saying awful and scary things to newer members just to make themselves feel better. I told my hubby just recently that I am going to refrain from some of these more negative threads because they are just not constructive to anyone who is waiting and going through the process and missing their spouse.

And I didn't say anyone said anything negative, just that some pointed out it was unusual.

In a way I agree, that's why I think if someone has a good story and a happy ending, that it's good to share the happy stories and not only the bad ones. I was not pointing out any specific person. I'm not taking anything on here personal

Why would stating that your quick and easy adjustment was unusual cause you to say that some of us are miserable? I thought we were merely comparing adjustment timelines. How would you know if we are miserable or not? And doesn't it seem somewhat judgmental to have said that?

I didn't write that post. Look at the quote. It was written by Betsy El Sum. I was only referring to it. That is why I posted my happy news. So that it's not all "miserable" posts like she said. Anyway, everyone can think what they want. As for the name, well, a select few know where it came from

which interview did he take? the K3 or the Cr-1? If the K3 is denied, maybe he can try again with the CR-1??? I'm not sure...does anyone know?

I think with all your "proof" you will be fine. Being with him will be especially helpful too. Best of luck!

I don't remember anyone posting anything negative about your quick adjustment. Nor do I remember anyone posting that they were miserable. I suspect you took this too personal.

I was referring to this post:

There are some posters that are veterans to this site that are so MISERABLE in their own situations that they have fun by saying awful and scary things to newer members just to make themselves feel better. I told my hubby just recently that I am going to refrain from some of these more negative threads because they are just not constructive to anyone who is waiting and going through the process and missing their spouse.

And I didn't say anyone said anything negative, just that some pointed out it was unusual.

In a way I agree, that's why I think if someone has a good story and a happy ending, that it's good to share the happy stories and not only the bad ones. I was not pointing out any specific person. I'm not taking anything on here personal

That's what I thought. I couldn't imagine taking years to adjust. Unless something unusual happened. (Loss of job, a new baby, etc). I figure everyday is a small adjustment. One day it's about this and one day it's about that. For example, I had come home early the day before yesterday and cleaned the whole house up (all dusted and sparkly). Hubby comes home and says, "When did you get home?" I say, "A few hours ago, I cleaned the whole house, did you notice?" He dumps his wallet, keys, and some other small things on the table (the glass one I just windex'ed) and says, "Your house is always clean." Then, he goes to the bedroom where he takes off his dressy clothes, throws them in the closet (not hangs them, mind you) and puts on his comfy clothes. My first thought was "You inconsiderate beast" - but then I picked up his stuff, put it away, hung up his clothes...it took less than 60 seconds. I told myself "It's not worth it" and didn't say anything to him. Yesterday when I came home with a migraine and slept all evening - and hubby had to eat leftovers with bread (gasp! I didn't make him any rice) - he didn't say one word. He was happy, content, and thanked me for everything - asked me how I was feeling. So to me, that is compromise and consideration at its best. I wouldn't call it adjusting...but that's just me.

If someone made that threat to me, I would leave immediately, or at least get far away from him (and contact security). I wouldn't stick around to see him make good on the threat.

double post

You tell people how miserable you are, they don't like it... you tell them how happy you are, they don't like it It can't all be about the scams and users. I think it's good to tell people when you have a good experience with your spouse, so that they don't feel like they're headed for doom. My post was in response to a few people that seemed to find a quick and easy adjustment to be unusual. As for keeping personal things off VJ, I said that to the OP because she felt she was insulted and judged for something personal she shared (and I agree, she was attacked for that). Oh well, I wish the OP the best.