Thank you all for your mostly kind thoughts and suggestions. I just got off the phone and got her timeline history: It is indeed complicated - she had a Visa that was going to expire. She applied for an extension which was denied. Hope things would be okay with the extension she didn't pay attention to the fact the time passed and the denial came 4 months after her visa expired. She then got married, and her new husband gave the 'paperwork' to his cousin help with. He didn't. 5 years later, in 2011 she filed for divorce, and returned to Thailand to visit her family. Please, no criticism folks. Some people are just very trusting of others. She trusted the wrong people. I've know her before she first came over with her Thai b/f and now after all these years we have fallen in love. So, as of tonight, my plan is go there and get married in Bangkok. Then, we'll see what happens next. And I really don't want to live in Thailand - first I recently adopted a Samoyed puppy and I'm not going to give him up. And I prefer living in a colder climate. I enjoy traveling in Asia, but no thanks. I'll live in California. Next step - speak to an Attorney, I presume.