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    Newly married and already issues

    in Philippines

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    On 5/19/2022 at 9:02 PM, NoMansLand2020 said:

    I got married to my Filipina roughly two months ago and we are already having issues. I know no marriage is perfect and all relationships require constant work. But I'm at the end of my rope and need some help. 

     

    I'm 41 and she's 27. Neither of us have been married previously, but she has two young children who believe I'm their real dad. We are very attracted to each other. She's currently 6 weeks pregnant. 

     

    She's a bit immature in my opinion. I currently work full time while she stays at home. Many times, she spends all day on her phone or watching TV rather than helping with household chores. I come home from work frequently to the house messy. Food from breakfast and lunch and dirty dishes all over the place. Sometimes she will do laundry and then leave the clean clothes in the basket for days staying wrinkled.  

     

    We seem to argue a ton about money. I am a very frugal person and this immigration process and the wedding cost me a ton of money. I'm still young and trying to save for retirement, keep a budget and provide for my family at the same time. Her idea is that I provide even if I have to take out loans to buy things she thinks we need but are more wants than anything else. 

     

    Anyhow, yesterday we took the kids to their biometric appointment as part of the AOS process. Afterwards we were going to take the kids to the local zoo. On the way, as I was driving through busy afternoon traffic, she was teasing me and pulled on my face and nose covering my eyes so I couldn't see the road. I nearly caused an accident because of it and got upset. So I hit her in the shoulder to get her attention. I don't think I hit her very hard, but according to her it caused bruising. 

     

    We got to the zoo and she was obviously upset and crying. I tried to get her to talk, but she just pushed me away and told me she wasn't going with us. She ended up staying with the car while I took the two kids. We came back two hours later and she's vanished. She wouldn't answer phone calls, or messages for hours. I had no idea where she, so we just waited and waited. She responded to messages, but it's vague responses not to worry about her, that I don't care about her and that she doesn't love me anymore. She says she's with friends. Yet, I wasn't sure and didn't want to leave her. 

     

    So we ended up waiting 9 hours and she never shows up. So I end up driving an hour back home with the kids and no wife and no answers really as to where she is. 

     

    Today she messages me while I am at work and asks me to bring the kids back to where we were the previous day. She's obviously still upset by the way she's responding and very vague answers. I drove the kids an hour back and we wait almost 90 min for her to show with a Filipina friend that I don't know. Anyway, my wife is not making any visual contact. Keeps her back to me the entire time I am helping the kids into their car seats and handing over some clothing to her friend. 

     

    I don't know what I'm supposed to do at this point. I'm upset because my kids are gone and they are upset that daddy is gone. They were pulled out of school a week before their last day. The youngest is supposed to graduate kindergarten on Tuesday. I have all their stuff at the house. Clothes, toys, identification including passports.  With my wife being pregnant, she has upcoming prenatal appointments to be to and I'm concerned about her and the kids getting the care they need. Especially now that she has no money, nor insurance information on her. 

     

    Is this just some silly tampo fit and she will realize the predicament she's put herself and the kids in? 

     

     

     

     

    You do have to be there for her to get her green card.  Just saying.

    NVC to Manila embassy - next steps? K1

    in Philippines

    Posted

    2 hours ago, kevsheryl said:

    Hello,

     

    In the situation where the petitioner is not with the beneficiary for the interview, would the beneficiary fill out and bring this to the interview?

     

    Or can the petitioner mail this in or submit it online? Appreciate any help,

     

    Thank you.

    Yes, just fill it out and sign, make a digital copy, then email that to beneficiary for them to print.

    NVC to Manila embassy - next steps? K1

    in Philippines

    Posted

    On 4/12/2022 at 9:29 AM, Chancy said:

     

    Once CEAC status says "Ready" -- submit DS-160, pay MRV fee, book visa interview, book SLEC medical.  Prepare all civil documents required for the interview.

     

    Your fiancee may register for CFO anytime, but it might be useless prior to getting visa on hand.  Some CFO counselors might refuse to schedule the session without a scan of the visa.  Unless CFO changed things up again with the easing of COVID restrictions, CFO sessions are done via phone call now.  No in-person seminars anymore.

     

    This comment was very helpful.  We just had interview, and are now approved.  Thank you.  

    I-134 Beneficiary A-Number from NOA 2? And, other I-134 questions.

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

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    Filling out our I-134, and do have some questions:

     

    1) Is the A number from the NOA 2 (above beneficiary's name) the one to use for I-134?  I've seen some who use it, and some that don't. 

    2) The I-134 is sent with her for the interview.  Does it have to be originals, or can be copy?  I know this is asked a lot, and she is checking with the embassy, but thought I would ask from experience. 

    3) I have filed an Affidavit of Support before, but I don't remember the exact date (2010'ish).  I want to generalize the date, but not sure if this will hinder?

    4) Question 26.a. from I-134, should I put the current beneficiary, or a previous one? 

     

    Thank you all in advance; as many of you, we have been waiting a few minutes for this to go 'Ready'.

     

     

    NVC to Manila embassy - next steps? K1

    in Philippines

    Posted

    9 hours ago, Chancy said:

     

    Once CEAC status says "Ready" -- submit DS-160, pay MRV fee, book visa interview, book SLEC medical.  Prepare all civil documents required for the interview.

     

    Your fiancee may register for CFO anytime, but it might be useless prior to getting visa on hand.  Some CFO counselors might refuse to schedule the session without a scan of the visa.  Unless CFO changed things up again with the easing of COVID restrictions, CFO sessions are done via phone call now.  No in-person seminars anymore.

     

    Thank you for info, Chancy.  I apologize if obvious, but what is CFO?

    FEBRUARY 2021 K-1 NOA2 to NVC to EMBASSY

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    8 minutes ago, GarLeb said:

    I just read this very helpful thread from the Philippine portal: https://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/782135-nvc-to-manila-embassy-next-steps-k1/

     

    I also bookmarked the Philippine forums page for K-1 visas https://www.visajourney.com/forums/forum/129-philippines/ and the US Immigration portal https://www.visajourney.com/portals/index.php?country=Philippines&tpage=2. They've been a great resource for me. A lot of helpful folks there. 

    Thank you, GarLeb.  Checking all out now!!

    FEBRUARY 2021 K-1 NOA2 to NVC to EMBASSY

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    15 hours ago, DeysiT said:

    They won't issue an extension. The "Valid To" date is not a big deal since there are delays for many many people and most NOA2 will be past the Valid to date by the time of interview. So for interview you would simply take a recent letter saying that you are still fiance of .... and intend to marry within 90 days of arriving in USA. (1 letter by petitioner and 1 letter by beneficiary). This letter is same as when you had initially filed the fiance visa

    Thank you for your reply, Daisy.  The limbo is tough.  Last time I called the NVC, that is kind of what they told me.  The time before that, they told me to contact the target embassy, but that was fruitless.  Ready for our free trial of communism to end, but it is what it is.  Cheers you. :pop:

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