CaylinObinna

1 hour ago, FPope said:

This is not good at all. So does it mean no point expecting IL until the ban is lifted? I mean we already submitted and paid for these visas. We already complied with all requirements including police report from nigeria. My husband even got police report from uk as well. Why target families especially but allow visitors' visas. It makes no sense to me at all. This is really bad. Hopefully it doesn't last for too long.

It MAKES ABSOLUTLY NO SENSE!! I honestly want to be so mad and upset. It feels a direct way to just keep foreign people out. Doesnt matter if you do it legally or not 😡

My immigration laywer is looking into this. He said "typically" people who are in the last stages either waiting for interview or have interview it will not affect. It usually affects those who are just now going to start to apply...so the first step of NOA1...HOWEVER he is looking into it more for me this weekend and will let me know Monday. He said if the ban is not in affect until February 22nd if your interview is before then and you are aproved (Nigeria) then it will not affect us...he said there is usually waivers that can be applied for spouse he has used such waivers for other couples from the original banned countries and they worked just fine. 

PRAYING FOR ALL THE FAMILIES that will be affected by this....I am saddened by this. Our interview is the 10th thank God. But still very uncertain times for us. 

Thank you all for your opinions and advice. On those topics.gives me new insights to things. I appreciate it very much. Blessings! 💞

23 minutes ago, dwheels76 said:

For someone in UK, Europe not coming from a 3rd world country and definitely not a woman sending money to a man.

 

It goes like this what was he doing before he meet you. That is never helpful because in the eyes of the Co it may look like you are being romance scammed out of money.

 

 

But I'll just take out the western union slips and keep them with me just in case I guess. I hate how people are judged on things simply because they are from other countries. Married couples share money all the time. Sometimes one spouse makes less than the other and more financially is on one than the other, or they are investing in businesses together so money is pulled from both accounts. It's silly that its looked at as "wrong" for a woman to occasionally send money to her husband! Lol I mean what do they think will happen when male spouses from 3rd world enter the US? the wife will have to take care of and pay for things until He starts working if he doesnt have a job lined up. Thankfully my husband does. 

8 minutes ago, Iscir said:

That's true! I'm nervous about my interview soon, but like you say, God is in control! So I'm sure all will go well for us!  

6 minutes ago, dwheels76 said:

For someone in UK, Europe not coming from a 3rd world country and definitely not a woman sending money to a man.

 

It goes like this what was he doing before he meet you. That is never helpful because in the eyes of the Co it may look like you are being romance scammed out of money.

 

 

I mean I can understand. But I Never sent him money till after we were married and it was small amounts. When I'm there he buys me gifts and takes care of everything...But I can understand how someone could look at it that way. I'm just not going to take money from my husband for me when it's not worth anything here. It doesnt make logical sense. 

12 minutes ago, Iscir said:

yes sadly, it's strange to me too that we have to prove our relationship is real, but it's because other people do get married just for benefits

Exactly,

It feels very off to have to prove my intimate relationship to a stranger. To just know that the future of our marriage is in the hands of someone else. I guess that's what makes me nerveous. It's out of our control. Lol. But ultimately God is in control and we are confident in Him. I'm an overthinker. So I just need to relax and trust in God and our love. They will see us through 💓💓

Just now, Iscir said:

because they could think he using you for money. maybe it could be good proof in other countries but not Nigeria, especially since it's you the woman sending money to the man. Usually it's the man sending money to the woman

Smh perpetuating stereotypes. How can he use me if he is my husband? Smh. I understand the logic. Just think it's silly for people to always label Nigeria this way. It makes me sad. But I understand 

6 minutes ago, CaylinObinna said:

Why is that? My laywer said any proof of money being exchanged is good proof.  The way the currency is in Nigeria it's pointless for him to send me money. The exchange rate is horrible and he could send me two months worth of his salary(he works at the university of Nsukka as lab professor) and it wouldn't even pay all my rent lol. I told him not to. 

However I can understand how maybe it may not "look" good. 

31 minutes ago, dwheels76 said:

Also that's not true about joint accounts. Me and my husband opened a Domiciliary account in Enugu and we money deposited there to this day 4 years later (he still has drivers working for him there).

 

Honestly for  spouse living abroad joint anything matters not you don;t live together. Your #1 proof is visits you have done that the longer the better of course. Nothing you can do about it now you will be there for interview and they will ask him "when last you seen your wife" and he can say "she's outside". That's that.

We looked into getting a domiciliary account as we are working on building a home on land there he owns as a second home so we can return and visit when we want. But for right now it is too expensive for us to have at the moment. Would rather wait until we are together to open that and use once we can travel back and forth together. I'm saying I was told by lawyer that if my husband and i had ever lived together than it would be a red flag to immigration that we dont have anything joint but because we have never loved together it is not so concerning to them. 

7 minutes ago, dwheels76 said:

Man sending the money outside of Nigeria is a plus. But woman sending to man. Never a good thing to show.

 

 

Why is that? My laywer said any proof of money being exchanged is good proof.  The way the currency is in Nigeria it's pointless for him to send me money. The exchange rate is horrible and he could send me two months worth of his salary(he works at the university of Nsukka as lab professor) and it wouldn't even pay all my rent lol. I told him not to. 

1 hour ago, Gojo said:

I’m the US born citizen and my husband is Nigerian. My husband Always  Sent Me money via western union and I didn’t have to provide proof of none of that. Our visa is approved. 

Congratulations!!!! Sooo happy for you both!! We are Next!! 

1 hour ago, DKing said:

I said this above. However if you feel you need extra evidence, then those are items you can bring. 

Sure we know the legitimacy of our marriages but we still have to prove that to a third party who is going to be as objective as possible.

Yes me him our whole family friends know we are legit. But in any case you have to prove. So I just want to make sure I have good and correct evidence. I may be more nerveous and I've always been a bit of a worrier and over thinker.  I'm working on that though lol. Thank You ALL for the support, and encouragment. my husband is the calm of the two of us. He is sitting there not concerned at all. We balance eachother out haha. 

5 hours ago, TheChheavFamily said:

It is definitely possible to add a non-resident alien spouse to a bank account. Check with your bank’s rules and process. I added my husband to my US bank accounts back before we started this whole process. They wanted copies of his passport since he had never stepped foot in the US and didn’t have any alien or social security numbers. The US based bank sent the signature cards and we signed in front of a public notary and we sent them back to the bank. 
 

He’s been added to my credit cards as an authorized user and we applied for a joint apartment lease application remotely too. 
 

Just be open and ask your bank, landlord, credit cards, etc how the process works. 

I already asked my bank. They will not unless he has a social or a green card. And my apartments can not either unless he is here and has a social. They have to be able to run a background check. I was able to add him as an authorized user on my bank of America Card and they printed me his own card with his name.  But that's it. I'm sure it depends on what state you are in too. We are in Oklahoma.

42 minutes ago, DKing said:

Then you're great! You have a lot of evidence. Now just relax and let the process happen.

Sigh...ok!! Thank You very much 😊

1 hour ago, DKing said:

Visits are important yes, but you definitely have many other ways to prove your relationship. do you have any joint accounts, old correspondence, pictures from early in your relationship. We were told by our lawyer to collect anything that prove we know each other. you can use anything, even better if theyre dated, old emails, things from social media (facebook helped A LOT in finding old pictures and messages), emails, texts if you can find them. Anything you can think of, bring it.

 

They more than likely arent gonna ask for them, but its nice to have them prepared. Also, don'f forget, YOU know your relationship. You can answer any question they ask. Just be confident and it will be good. 

Yes, we have original chats that our lawyer submitted before we got married. New chats from recently we have western union slips from money I have sent him..we cant have a joint bank account since I've never lived in Nigeria and he has never lived here. But we used western union alot so we have that documentation. I screen shoted alot of facebook messages and posts between us too. Our WhatsApp calls and messages ect too. And of course lots and lots of pictures from both trips. 

21 minutes ago, CaylinObinna said:

So my husband and I met in 2017, got married almost a year later in 2018 on first meeting. Then I flew back over before our application had been aproved through USCIS in summer of 2019, and bout another ticket to fly back to see him beginning of february(it so happens we recieved our interview letter two days after I bought ticket so I'll get to be with him for interview! WHOO HOO!) 

I was wondering if that is enough time of visits? I'm just NOW discovering how important visits are and how much they show bonafide relationship. We miss eachother so much I would have lived there or gone more visits of we had the money to do so but we simply could not afford so many tickets. 

Do you guys feel 3 visits is a good amount? We are Nigeria. 

If you cant tell...I'm getting anxious for the interview!! Lol I am trying to remain calm..but with all these changes in immigration laws ect. It makes me nerveous to wonder if we have done everything we could, did we get enough documentation, enough pictures? Chat logs? Visits? Lol. We are just so desperately ready to be living each day with each other I dont want to hear anything else but an aproved visa! 

So my husband and I met in 2017, got married almost a year later in 2018 on first meeting. Then I flew back over before our application had been aproved through USCIS in summer of 2019, and bout another ticket to fly back to see him beginning of february(it so happens we recieved our interview letter two days after I bought ticket so I'll get to be with him for interview! WHOO HOO!) 

I was wondering if that is enough time of visits? I'm just NOW discovering how important visits are and how much they show bonafide relationship. We miss eachother so much I would have lived there or gone more visits of we had the money to do so but we simply could not afford so many tickets. 

Do you guys feel 3 visits is a good amount? We are Nigeria. 

5 hours ago, dwheels76 said:

There's a whole lot involved with that. It's not just meeting a income guideline. Remember you meeting the guideline means you are poor. These are the POVERTY guidelines.

 

There are self employed. People who current or past didn't meet guidelines. They are on Public aid. Beneficiary has a not to good job history. All that plays a part in being deemed a public charge.

 

Do not read into others dilemma it has nothing to do with you. You are well above the guidelines go with that. Nothing to worry about.

Ok. Yes, that does make more sense. I try not to pay attention too much into others case because everyone's is differrent. He has always worked after he graduated with his bachelor's and I've never been on public aid ect. I was only about 3,000 over the requirement 3 years ago but every year Its increased and that shows on my taxes..Thank You for that! Sometimes I just need to hear it from someone else 😊

22 hours ago, dwheels76 said:

Why would u need a joint sponsor when u are well above the line. 

I sure wouldn't worry about it.

I guess because I've read of some people being asked to get a sponsor even with them making over qualifying limit. I guess I wonder how that can happen.

Hey all I've thought of something. 

I make over the the qualifying income. About 27,000 a year gross. But it's not a ton over. We have never been asked to provide a joint sponsor ect. But I've read some here and there of people getting asked to provisw a joint sponsors at the time of interview? Is this usually typical? Should I have a joint sponsor ready just in case? I thought NVC would have told us if we needed one. I've been at the same job for 7 years and have gotten a raise even if small every year. I have health insurance 401 k ect. Is this something I should be concerned about at  all?

35 minutes ago, dwheels76 said:

Well if that's your wedding anniversary and it's so close wait until April 19th  for him to enter the US if you want to.

 

There is no status change your husbands will be a Legal Permanent Resident when he enters the US. If he enters before your 2 year anniversary 21 to 24 months after he enters you will fill to remove conditions on his 2 year green card to get the 10 year green card.
If he enters after your 2 year anniversary he will be issues the 10 year green card and no need to remove conditions.

 

whether 2 or 10 year he is eligible to file for citizenship 3 years from his entry.

 

Of course every petition cost. I-751 right now is $680 (That includes biometrics).

 

Is there a down side no just more paperwork, and money. Nothing more. 

 

Ok so if its before two year that is not a legal permanent residence? What will that status be called then? 

On 1/24/2020 at 7:04 PM, dwheels76 said:

Any of you coming up on your 2 year married anniversary and will wait for it to enter US to get the 10 year green card? Or even know what I am talking about.

 

Let's talk.

Our 2nd year anniversary is April 19th. I've been wondering about all this. We hired immigration laywer to help us so he likes to go one step at a time and not get ahead of ourselves so he hasnt discussed much about the status change once he gets here. Is it difficult and long and drawn out to do that? More money? Are their downsides if we dont wait till our two year? I really dont think either of us wants to wait. But I'd like to understand better 

45 minutes ago, Sea Leslie said:

You are so amazing and calm... I am smiling right now. I need to relax and enjoy this moment and have comfort in knowing that I have gotten this far. 

 

I need to redirect my focus, I am waiting for him to call me so we can discuss the interview packet, we only have one week. Thanks so much. 

I am the SAME WAY. I like to keep busy. It keeps me very positive and calm when I do. BUT yes we have to remember what a blessing it is in how far we have come. Prayers your way for interview!