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Most importantly, you should be thankful that you didn't spend thousands of dollars importing a woman from a country far, far away, who would have turned around shortly after arrival here. It saved you a lot of money and surely headaches to get the bad news so early that they have become good news.
There are over 310,000,000 people living in the U.S., many of who are from the Philippines (hence the waiting time of 23-1/2 years for siblings); surely there should be at least one of them that will make a fabulous spouse for you without having to spend thousands of dollars in import duties. Maybe you should try to connect with the Pina community in the U.S. You can only win!

I dont see any info here about the situation with the child. You need to check into what it takes to take the child out of Colombia. To bring the child to the USA for example the mother will need a signed statement from the father allowing the child to leave.
I would think your company would have more info on sending it employees & families to other countries. My husband was sent to Saudi Arabia & Colombia. The company had people that did nothing but visas for entering those countries to work & live.

They arent morons. They are required to follow the proceedure & so are you. The need the correct documents to place in your file. That file will be maintained & used as psrt of your AOS later. Its not their responcibilty to submit the documents.

Don't offer the visitation. If you miss even one promised visit then he can get the authorities involved the next time your wife returns to Colombia for a visit and prevent her daughter from leaving again. That will leave you back at square one - negotiating and probably paying him off again. You want his absolute and irrevocable permission for his daughter to permanently emigrate from Colombia. There should be no additional conditions attached that your wife has to meet in the future. You're going to be paying for this so you've got the upper hand.
BTW, it's common in situations like this to have to pay off the child's father. Ask first without offering any money. If they refuse then make a cash offer. If they are hesitant then bring up child support. That's usually enough to get them to accept the offer.

I dont see any info here about the situation with the child. You need to check into what it takes to take the child out of Colombia. To bring the child to the USA for example the mother will need a signed statement from the father allowing the child to leave.
I would think your company would have more info on sending it employees & families to other countries. My husband was sent to Saudi Arabia & Colombia. The company had people that did nothing but visas for entering those countries to work & live.

I've lived in Metro Manila my entire life, so I know my way around. But I can see how a girl who has lived in the provinces her entire life and doesn't know her way around a big city would be quite daunted, intimidated and scared, especially if she has a hard time with English and Tagalog. I agree that in that case, it's a matter of a lack of experience, not a lack of intelligence. However, if it would be too much of a financial risk for the OP to fly here and assist his fiancée with the visa process, he could look into hiring the services of an agency, as another posted suggested. Or better yet, make arrangements for her in advance and research the directions to SLEC and the U.S. Embassy so she can familiarize herself with them.

Contact IRS by internet or phone to ask for transcripts. Free. Get them for 3 years by fax, mail or in person.

I not only believe it will help but I know it can based on past experiances of others that I have helped do exactly what I suggested. Each one of those visas were granted with almost zero questions about return.
Additionaly this " third party" seems to me to be very intellegent. Enough so that she would use more sense than you have displayed by having him sign his own letter. Nobody is trying to " fool" the CO.
Its my opinion that submitting such a letter is a good way to allow the CO to make an informed decision. You want him to wait until the CO is standing there. Many times when that is done it results in a denial. It is very hard to get a tourist visa from Egypt. As I explained before they dont go over the rules with the applicant. The person is expected to know how to meet the strongest ties rule without knowing the terms. I also suggested this course of action in case he is given the visa because he may be questioned again at the POE.
Also we should keep in mind this is her husband not some guy off the street.
We are here to offer advise on how people could succeed. You have spent your time explaining why nothing will work. What advise do you have that would ensure his success? They can fail on their own.

No matter what anyone says this tourist visa case will be decided as they all are on its own merits. All of the reasons you gave that indicate why he MUST return will be considered.
I suggest you consider the following to help try to ensure success. Tourist visas dont have a lot of documentation to them. The " rules" arent explained very well. The most important aspect is the ability to understand & adhear to the " strongest ties" rule.
Help him by preparing the case in the right manner. To do this it would be best to write a statement that explains why he MUST return. The officer has to read what is presented as part of the case. These cases are often decided based on the forms & docs only. They have decided before the actual interview. There are many reports of denials prior to any discussion or interview. This is why I think its good to write the statement. If that doesnt work at least you will know you & he did everything that could have been done & did it correctly. If he did get the visa this written info could become key at the POE as evidence of what forces him to return. Additionaly he should be prepared to acknowledge at the POE his understanding of the need to be interviewed in Egypt for his immigrant based visa which will afford him a Green card.
Please forget the idea of what ever happens with this tourist visa as having any affect on another visa. It will not. No need to stress or line up for a fight that will not occur. You have done well at accepting the info given here without getting emotional. You have made progress in your better understanding of the situation. Leave it at that.

I thought you had filed the 130 until I read this. It may not matter because he is married to a USC anyway. However a pending 130 does show intent. At the same time it is understood USCIS views all people with visas as intending immigrants.
As far as timing I am sure you know it will be at least 5 months to get the NOA 2 for that petition.
I dont know how waiting will help in light of the attitude of USCIS towards the people with tourist visas. There is a question on the forms I think that asks if there is a pending visa application.

This isnt going to be about what type of person he is. It will be about an Egyptian male trying to get a tourist visa while being married to a USC. Then attempting to use it to gain entry at the POE. That is where the actual decision about the use of the visa takes place if he ever gets one.
This also has to do with his ability to comply with the strongest ties rule. USCIS told me husband that no matter what the situation was when an immigrant enterst the USA those ties are to the USC spouse. For this reason they told my husband they would never issue me a tourist visa nor would I ever be allowed entry if I had one.
I dont know where you got the 80% number but we dont see that here on V J. What I have seen is totaly different.

People are trying to make sure you have the correct info.
You are going to do whatever you do. But before you do anything you should determine how you feel. To do that you need to know where you stand under the laws. Immigration, criminal & civil. Once you understand that you will be in a better position to make the right decisions.
His actions have caused you harm to be sure. But he didnt mess up your entier life unless you allow him to.
If you are talking about re entering the USA upon returning from China no one can stop you. The green card is vaild & yours. The only way he could affect your return would be to file a restraining order against you. This is why you must not do anything to let that happen. Do not get in a physical confrontation with him & do not threaten him in writing. If you do either he can get the order & you will be stopped at the POE.

I doubt members here are going to assist you in this to a certain degree. However you admit you are breaking the laws. USCIS isnt the IRS but I have seen cases where they worked together to make sure taxes were paid.
You may get away with this by some means now but in the near future the siuation will change. When you file the AOS you will have to submit tax records. If you were caught & charged with tax fraud it would be tough to clear up.
You should consider filing back taxes for at least 3 years to enable you to submit the transcripts in the future. I am not a tax accountant but you might find that the pain of filing taxes wasnt as bad as you suspect.

"tax evasion isn't in the field of jurisdiction of the immigration department. ".. Not isn't entirely true.
By virtue of not filing taxes as a US Citizen, and having earned a large cash income base, while attempting to document this will be a big problem when your application is reviewed. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but, IRS comes after even small time evaders, and simply thinking immigration will overlook this is highly naive.
If you going to sponsor someone, I would advise to file back taxes, and get yourself in the IRS system so you can
A. Legitimize your payments of taxes to the government. Be clear of red flags down the road.
B. Establish your creditability for immigration and IRS
Good luck

You will need to file back taxes for at least the last 3 years, as the embassy will want to see it and later for AOS you will need it also.

The green card is issued to you. Only the U S govt has the power to revoke it. Do not react to what he says in anger. Go to the local court to get a restraining order to protect yourself. Be careful with a future contact with him because it could turn into a domestic abuse charge. You must now do exactly what you are doing here in educating yourself as to what steps to take to put yourself in the right position legally & otherwise. He is obligated to support you as indicated in the terms of the 864 for example. No one is going to send you home. You are home right now in the USA & should begin to feel that way. This experiance may serve to allow you to feel that way because the laws are designed to protect you & you have certian rights under the laws.

Of course it matters. Yes the K-1 visa and wedding will go ahead, but it certainly matters to the future bride if her mother is there and as the OP says, it is her day so he is trying to accommodate everything she wants for the wedding plans.

While I am sure everyone means well you need to understand the unique situation that occures in Thailand. Tourist visas are very hard to come by. There has been very high fraud activity related to Thailand. Indonesia is not Thailand.
Each case is decided on its own merits. USCIS views each person with a visa as an intending immigrant. They use the " strongest ties" rule to determin the case.
She must be ready to express why she MUST return. In Thailand its best to do this in written form because these cases are usually decided before the interview based on what ever is submitted.
A female her age has a good chance if the case is prepared well. Dont leave anything to chance. Help her think over what would compel her to absolutly have to return. Job, house, family, culture,language ect. The fact that her reason for going is to attend a wedding will help but will not really influence the officer as you might think. But it is the truth. Make sure its clear how long she will need to stay. The actual time is set at the POE but it is part of the application.
The only way to ever know is to pay the fee & step up to the window. These things are always so subjective. She will interview & it will be done in Thai to accomadate her. Tell her its ok to be nervouse but try to relax. The embassy is good at this & knows how they feel.
The language problem is only in the minds of people that havnt experianced these things. This will not be a problem at any point if her trip. Once she boards the plane she will find the air hostesses speak Thai. Other on the plane speak Thai. In all airports there are people waiting at the correct points to guide her if she needs it. She will have no problem as long as she follows the crowd or simply asks the airport staff for help. Her boarding pass is all she needs.
At the POE she will be taken care of as required to get her through the process. She will need help finding her bags but again there are people right there to do just that. The thru customs which is no real problem.

Try to direct your own falsehoods in a direction that wont cause others to realise how little you actually know. I couldnt care less what you agree with. I am not here to live up to what you believe in as correct. Read on to see what others indicate about your own lack of knowledge. You are not in a position to lecture me.
What ever you read doesnt mean anything when it comes to her case. Who knows if you even understood what you read. Its you that has no idea of what you are talking about. Nothing you said indicates what you think she can do about her situation. You say you cant understand what others do. You are right there. Wishing & hoping isnt going to do her much good.
Read what Casprd has to say for example. This isnt the first time this has been discussed on V J.

The green card is issued to you. Only the U S govt has the power to revoke it. Do not react to what he says in anger. Go to the local court to get a restraining order to protect yourself. Be careful with a future contact with him because it could turn into a domestic abuse charge. You must now do exactly what you are doing here in educating yourself as to what steps to take to put yourself in the right position legally & otherwise. He is obligated to support you as indicated in the terms of the 864 for example. No one is going to send you home. You are home right now in the USA & should begin to feel that way. This experiance may serve to allow you to feel that way because the laws are designed to protect you & you have certian rights under the laws.

The green card is issued to you. Only the U S govt has the power to revoke it. Do not react to what he says in anger. Go to the local court to get a restraining order to protect yourself. Be careful with a future contact with him because it could turn into a domestic abuse charge. You must now do exactly what you are doing here in educating yourself as to what steps to take to put yourself in the right position legally & otherwise. He is obligated to support you as indicated in the terms of the 864 for example. No one is going to send you home. You are home right now in the USA & should begin to feel that way. This experiance may serve to allow you to feel that way because the laws are designed to protect you & you have certian rights under the laws.

The green card is issued to you. Only the U S govt has the power to revoke it. Do not react to what he says in anger. Go to the local court to get a restraining order to protect yourself. Be careful with a future contact with him because it could turn into a domestic abuse charge. You must now do exactly what you are doing here in educating yourself as to what steps to take to put yourself in the right position legally & otherwise. He is obligated to support you as indicated in the terms of the 864 for example. No one is going to send you home. You are home right now in the USA & should begin to feel that way. This experiance may serve to allow you to feel that way because the laws are designed to protect you & you have certian rights under the laws.

The green card is issued to you. Only the U S govt has the power to revoke it. Do not react to what he says in anger. Go to the local court to get a restraining order to protect yourself. Be careful with a future contact with him because it could turn into a domestic abuse charge. You must now do exactly what you are doing here in educating yourself as to what steps to take to put yourself in the right position legally & otherwise. He is obligated to support you as indicated in the terms of the 864 for example. No one is going to send you home. You are home right now in the USA & should begin to feel that way. This experiance may serve to allow you to feel that way because the laws are designed to protect you & you have certian rights under the laws.

I wouldnt spend 5 minutes trying to work this out with him. The lies & the new bed mate is enough for me. This occurs right after you marry? Please.
I also disagree with any thought about how he helped bring you here. The idea should be to do something FOR you not To you. Bringing you here to do this to you probably wasnt what you had in mind when he brought the idea up or when you got on the plane.
Have you been harmed? Absolutly. Mental abuse can be much worse than being assaulted. Danger? You are in danger anytime you have to be put in this position.
I also wouldnt spend even one minute on the affect a restraining order would have on him. He decided to disrepect you & the marriage. The restraining order protects you from being charged with domestic violence which could have a huge affect on your future legal status in the USA. You have to try to protect yourself & create the image that you are trying to use lawful means to build a life here. I didnt say to take this lightly at all. Take it seriously & get it done. Even Nichole Simpson tried to protect herself. She didnt take it lightly but paid the ultimate price.
Threating him with taking action as the other member says just causes you to be in a difficult, dangerous position. Dont make threats. Do what needs to be done.
Forget trying to be nice. Or live with the fact he will have others in bed ect. If you allow that you have nothing to complain about. Dont be a victim.
What price should you pay for wanting what is only right. Dont give up your dignity as others suggest. You cant get it back & dont owe it to anyone.

The green card is issued to you. Only the U S govt has the power to revoke it. Do not react to what he says in anger. Go to the local court to get a restraining order to protect yourself. Be careful with a future contact with him because it could turn into a domestic abuse charge. You must now do exactly what you are doing here in educating yourself as to what steps to take to put yourself in the right position legally & otherwise. He is obligated to support you as indicated in the terms of the 864 for example. No one is going to send you home. You are home right now in the USA & should begin to feel that way. This experiance may serve to allow you to feel that way because the laws are designed to protect you & you have certian rights under the laws.