I can understand knowing if he is the one. I've been there and in June it will be 16 yrs. The caution is more for the consulate, many times they see one meeting and marriage on that same trip as a red flag.
It sucks your divorce decree is with Service Ontario. They are slow as molasses in January.
Talk things over and look more in the Utah marriage aspect. Since it is online you can be in two different places(just need to meet up before filling the I-130) or in the same place together to use that.
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