SadGirlneedshelp

Sure! Here is my timeline:
 
Applied for ROC with my then USC husband on 10/19/2017
Divorced 7/31/2018
Sent decree and a letter request to change my last name back to my maiden name 8/31/2018
Case received at my local office: 2/25/2018
Case transferred to NBC 11/16/2018
Case approved with name changed 2/27/2019
Card mailed to me 3/2/2019
 
 

Hi all,
 
Just wanted to update my case here. I just got my card approved and my name updated! Yay finally don't have to use my cheating ex-husband's disgusting name on official documents anymore (except for my past academic publications - I have to explain it to people all the time)!!!
 
No RFE no interview. I hope everyone got their case approved smoothly as well!

Oh how happy for you!!!!! Unfortunately, I still have my also cheating ex-husband last name!!!!!!! Since we first file a joint petition and then a year later I switch to divorce they did not change my name, but I will change it during the naturalization 

Hi all,
 
Just wanted to update my case here. I just got my card approved and my name updated! Yay finally don't have to use my cheating ex-husband's disgusting name on official documents anymore (except for my past academic publications - I have to explain it to people all the time)!!!
 
No RFE no interview. I hope everyone got their case approved smoothly as well!

What great news.  Thanks for returning with the happy update.  You must feel great, and for good reason!  

I'm on the same boat with you. Just file for divorce. No need to stay in this relationship. My ex told me similar things like he needed to get his work done and he was too stressed blah blah blah. But in fact he was cheating on me with another girl in a different state! Then he told me he needed more space and it is normal for a couple to live in different houses to have their own space. But in fact the moment I moved out, the other girl from New Hampshire flew to Minnesota to move in with him. Now they are about to get married. His family initially supported me as well. But later they are all on his side.
 
Just have faith in God and hopefully things will work out without your spouse.

Just the letter and the new documents. I did include a copy of the NOA 1 so that they could trace it to my file. 

Hello,
When I send my paperwork with the update I did not hear anything back either. After 2 months I called and I talked to a tier two immigration officer who did a service request to make sure the new documents were placed with my file. Then a few weeks later I got a letter responding to the service request saying that my updated documents were placed with my file and were going to be reviewed with all my information.  
 

she's not obligated to "attempt to work it out" with a cheater. 

If you love him why can't you forgive him? 
 
I am am trying to picture myself in that situation and if it was a one-off event then I could definitely forgive. Sure the whole thing would make me upset and miserable but I'd be even more upset and miserable without him. 
 
It does seem you're giving up very easily. Marriage is hard work and whilst I'm not saying he should be allowed to behave like this but there will be many bumps in the road ahead. 
 
Why are so so keen to stay? You've only been here a few months and all your family is in your home country. What do you have that's keeping you here? You don't even have a job. You've not really settled yet. 

Why stay with someone who clearly doesn't love and respect you anymore? 

Oh no please don’t apologize, I was just curious if he sidetracked you or something because I was just reading the other post..as long as it’s finalized it’s better for you (hoping he will stick with his word) 
 
i know it cant be easy, but I really hope it turns out for the best in the long run.

I concur...the letter wouldn't have much meaning. It does not show if the marriage was entered into for the primary purpose of obtaining an immigration benefit or not. Anybody that was a scammer could do the same...and if the spouse suspected fraud, it's unlikely they would attend counseling anyway. You would be best served by showing evidence of a bona fide marriage while you were together since that's what they will be focusing on.
You'll be fine...just provide the documentation, wait nearly forever, maybe have an interview, then enjoy the 10 year card.
I'm sorry for how the marriage turned out...I understand it's rough.

Of course I did send some evidence. I only sent part of the bank statements, not all since there are too many! And some pictures. I forgot to send all the text messages and emails between us. I also sent our car insurance, my life insurance from the employer with him being the 1st beneficiary, tax files for the first 2 years, two affidavits from his family members, and some flight tickets and boarding passes from the trip back to China. Unfortunately, we don't have any utility bills or rent since we were living in his Dad's house.