sharkfin07

besides, why are you the one trying to persuade him to marry you or to be together here? sounds very awkward for a lady to do that...i must say

by the way SImone, her stay is dependent on the no. of mos the entry/immigration officer allows her. just let her explain her intentions, what she will do, viz: to see the US and experience winter and spring that'll explain the length of time she wants to be here, or perhaps, the birth of her grandchild, etc
  

hi, gulbalo
i have read the many opinions here re your parents' situation and the difficulties you might come across in re your intent to petition them under the family unification act.
while adjudicators are mandated to comply / follow the laws, in this case, the family unification /reunification act, the situation or circumstances of your parents pose a serious  challenge to adjudicators.
while our laws here consider as legal the marital practices in your country, the situation of your father crosses the lines drawn between monogamy and bigamy / polygamy in this country. it is, also, against public policy and customs. 
so even if the 1st wife, whether a legal one or not, certifies she is not interested to join nor live with her husband, your father, and your father certifies he won't practice polygamy, such assurances in paper are not worth anything because there is already defect in the persons themselves. 
what assurance is there for the adjudicator that your father won't go back to your country and sleep with the first wife, again? whether he will or not will be viewed as abuse on his part or abandonment of a first family. not something to be viewed very kindly by us, americans. nor will it be a credit to your father.
 
she has to be divorced, no matter the presence or absence of the marriage registration papers, and even if divorce does not look good or viewed kindly in your country and culture. if he does not, then he be accused of getting his cake and eating it too. if your father wants to immigrate to america he has to comply with the laws of this country.
 
but then, again, the marriage dates of your dad to the 2 women and divorce date will show that both women were his wife at some concurrent dates   
 
any fact or circumstance, on the part of the beneficiaries, that presents as problematic to the adjudicator, will now fall under his discretionary power.
adjudicators won't function as your lawyers to try to solve it for you, they  have the discretion to make whatever decision they think is  best for the country.
 
i hope this makes it clear that the person adjudicating your papers, has both mandatory and discretionary powers and this being the case, your parents' situation does not do them any good in his/her eyes.  your dad would look like he wants to have the best of both worlds. he has to make a choice according to the laws of this country
 
even a lawyer won't view this as a slam dunk of a case. may promise to do it for you but the outcome may not be to your expectations.
 
still i wish you good luck. 

Don't worry about your height. Napoloen Bonaparte was only an inch taller than you and he became an emperor.
So it's all about attitude and self confidence. Besides, most people are attracted to confident others.
Also, it is said, "the best things in life come in small packages."

Tourists, like you, are very attractive to those working in resorts where you go. So go slow, as everyone here counsels.

hi, everyone
i am a lawyer in the Philippines ( still licensed) who left my spouse while still in the Phil, at age 26. Of course, i could not divorce spouse there as there is no divorce in the Phil.
I came to the US in 1989, at age 41, and eventually became a US citizen. i filed for divorce from my spouse.
My divorce in the US is valid here, but not valid in the Phil.
Under Phil. law, even if my spouse has been cohabiting with another woman since i was still there and has 4 children, I am still married to him
Under US jurisprudence, however, the fact of one's being a US citizens makes your divorce here valid w/c means you can marry another without any problem..
You only need your birth and marriage certificates, from the Phil. if you file for the I-130 or whatever else you will do
I am doing this currently, just married a Brazilian and filing the I-130 petition.
You do not need a decree from the Phil. validating your divorce decree as there is none, so far, and none in the near future.
Good luck...

Tourists, like you, are very attractive to those working in resorts where you go. So go slow, as everyone here counsels.

hi, everyone
i am a lawyer in the Philippines ( still licensed) who left my spouse while still in the Phil, at age 26. Of course, i could not divorce spouse there as there is no divorce in the Phil.
I came to the US in 1989, at age 41, and eventually became a US citizen. i filed for divorce from my spouse.
My divorce in the US is valid here, but not valid in the Phil.
Under Phil. law, even if my spouse has been cohabiting with another woman since i was still there and has 4 children, I am still married to him
Under US jurisprudence, however, the fact of one's being a US citizens makes your divorce here valid w/c means you can marry another without any problem..
You only need your birth and marriage certificates, from the Phil. if you file for the I-130 or whatever else you will do
I am doing this currently, just married a Brazilian and filing the I-130 petition.
You do not need a decree from the Phil. validating your divorce decree as there is none, so far, and none in the near future.
Good luck...

hi, everyone
i am a lawyer in the Philippines ( still licensed) who left my spouse while still in the Phil, at age 26. Of course, i could not divorce spouse there as there is no divorce in the Phil.
I came to the US in 1989, at age 41, and eventually became a US citizen. i filed for divorce from my spouse.
My divorce in the US is valid here, but not valid in the Phil.
Under Phil. law, even if my spouse has been cohabiting with another woman since i was still there and has 4 children, I am still married to him
Under US jurisprudence, however, the fact of one's being a US citizens makes your divorce here valid w/c means you can marry another without any problem..
You only need your birth and marriage certificates, from the Phil. if you file for the I-130 or whatever else you will do
I am doing this currently, just married a Brazilian and filing the I-130 petition.
You do not need a decree from the Phil. validating your divorce decree as there is none, so far, and none in the near future.
Good luck...

i would say you are very lucky to have been divorced by her. please be grateful for it. living with a bipolar is like walking on eggshells.
i have had the experience of dealing with bipolars. they can be very charming, loving one time but can suddenly and without reason become mean and paranoid.
for your own sanity and well-being, please have nothing to do with the type , again. it's mental illness that will always be there. it does not get cured. the symptoms are just minimized or controlled by the meds. but it is still there. in fact, her anger , leaving you and then changing her mind are but examples of her seesawing, volatile emotion. .

i would say you are very lucky to have been divorced by her. please be grateful for it. living with a bipolar is like walking on eggshells.
i have had the experience of dealing with bipolars. they can be very charming, loving one time but can suddenly and without reason become mean and paranoid.
for your own sanity and well-being, please have nothing to do with the type , again. it's mental illness that will always be there. it does not get cured. the symptoms are just minimized or controlled by the meds. but it is still there. in fact, her anger , leaving you and then changing her mind are but examples of her seesawing, volatile emotion. .

i would say you are very lucky to have been divorced by her. please be grateful for it. living with a bipolar is like walking on eggshells.
i have had the experience of dealing with bipolars. they can be very charming, loving one time but can suddenly and without reason become mean and paranoid.
for your own sanity and well-being, please have nothing to do with the type , again. it's mental illness that will always be there. it does not get cured. the symptoms are just minimized or controlled by the meds. but it is still there. in fact, her anger , leaving you and then changing her mind are but examples of her seesawing, volatile emotion. .

i would say you are very lucky to have been divorced by her. please be grateful for it. living with a bipolar is like walking on eggshells.
i have had the experience of dealing with bipolars. they can be very charming, loving one time but can suddenly and without reason become mean and paranoid.
for your own sanity and well-being, please have nothing to do with the type , again. it's mental illness that will always be there. it does not get cured. the symptoms are just minimized or controlled by the meds. but it is still there. in fact, her anger , leaving you and then changing her mind are but examples of her seesawing, volatile emotion. .

I am a filipino and a woman and, therefore, know the culture from where your wife comes from. Where I would have expected her to be more cooperative and docile at this time when she still needs the paper work to make her a legal resident here, she is already exhibiting behavior of a lack of love and caring for you..
If she does all that she did according to you, but still insists to make you petition for her, then,believe you me, she is just using you. If you observations of her receiving gifts and talking much and hiding her phone conversation from you are true, then she has started to develop some friendships with others already..
You say you are a handyman, most filipinas are very education/ degree- oriented, so she may not really respect you for being so, even if a lot of handymen in the US, make a lot of money.
As far as i am concerned, there's already a lot of red flags. Listen to your gut, it may save you from more heartbreak later. You must know how to manage your life.