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Its this part that disturbs me the most. While it is silly to quit a job before you have a new one lined-up, I can sort of understand if something happened at work and he just snapped and walked-out without thinking the consequences through. But to turn down a job in this economy? That is not right. Your husband needs to man-up and wipe poop to support his family if that's what is needed.

Its this part that disturbs me the most. While it is silly to quit a job before you have a new one lined-up, I can sort of understand if something happened at work and he just snapped and walked-out without thinking the consequences through. But to turn down a job in this economy? That is not right. Your husband needs to man-up and wipe poop to support his family if that's what is needed.

Proof that the immigrant is on the spouse's medical insurance?
Proof that the immigrant is a beneficiary of spouse's life insurance or retirement policy?
Name of both on telephone/electric/cable bills?
Info on "stokes interview":
http://immigrationroad.com/green-card/stokes-interview-marriage-based-immigration.php

I think you are missing the point of my argument. The $300 a month "stipend" the OP is giving more than equals the ENTIRE salary of a nurse in the PHL. Already the family is receiving a windfall that would have been there but for marriage to a foreigner, so the family actually has a significant net gain, rather than loss from the daughter leaving the Philippines. The amount being sent is more than "fair" in light of the OP's circumstances.

My wife volunteered at a local hospital when she first arrived, and those couple afternoons a week keeping her busy and meeting new people and helping out in the community seemed to help a lot and give her a sense of purpose rather then just sitting around the house watching Oprah. From the hospital gig, she met Filipino nurses, began to establish herself in the Fil-Am community, and her transition started for real. Checking out volunteer opportunities in your area may help.

This is the only portion of you post I might have a slight 'modification' for. Often, there IS no work available, or the work available really isn't enough for a subsistence life. Hell, I'd be poor in the PHL if I worked in my field there. Except for this little aside, you've synthesized Finance 101 quite nicely!

Are the international dating sites that much different to the other "main-stream" sites such as eHarmony that is constantly being advertised on late-night cable television? I'd argue the find the foreign/submissive/whatever girl of your dreams "sales pitch" is no better or worse than the find the perfect girl for you "based on 99 character traits that are proven to make a relationship last" pitch. Both, in effect, are pitching a load of BS that some people may or may not buy into.

You might be Filipino if . . . your cell phone is always LOW BAT.

In looking around the country and observing some of the obvious problems with the PHL (filth, pollution) and some of the not obvious (corruption, graft, apathy), I've often thought one of the biggest differences between Americans and Filipinos is what they expect of their government. If the government did not at least provide for basic services, in America the public would demand a resolution to the problem. In the PHL, I sense a feeling of acceptance, that this is "just the way it is."

When the current PHL Prez and most presidents of the past praise encourage the "hero worship" of the OFW's, I don't see this problem being fixed. Until the mindset is to NOT depend on remittances as a major source of economic growth, nothing will change.

When the current PHL Prez and most presidents of the past praise encourage the "hero worship" of the OFW's, I don't see this problem being fixed. Until the mindset is to NOT depend on remittances as a major source of economic growth, nothing will change.

The responsibility to care for the parents is just one obligation children in the RP have. Often, the older brother/sister has the "obligation" of paying for their younger sibling's education as well because the parents can't afford to. This pattern is likely another reason why saving for retirement is difficult.

The responsibility to care for the parents is just one obligation children in the RP have. Often, the older brother/sister has the "obligation" of paying for their younger sibling's education as well because the parents can't afford to. This pattern is likely another reason why saving for retirement is difficult.

Just Google the average wage in the RP, and you'll see that day-to-day existence is the norm. I'd bet most would love to save for the future, but cannot. As such, the defacto retirement policy is dependence on sons and daughter.

Just Google the average wage in the RP, and you'll see that day-to-day existence is the norm. I'd bet most would love to save for the future, but cannot. As such, the defacto retirement policy is dependence on sons and daughter.

This shouldn't be a problem, just buy a new one. Remember, there are money trees growing in almost everyone's back yard in America!