Eric&Tasha

It looks like she is under too much stress. Immigration is not easy for anybody but some people suffer much more or never adapt to the new country. As a husband, help her, help her to feel more welcomed and also as in her own country, at the beginning she needs her church, her friends, her language and her cooking, not easy for her and it's not easy for you.
Mixed marriage is never easy, I am here in US apparently well but all this long distance relation and waiting is freaking me out, all kind of doubts and thoughts in my mind, my fiance also has doubts and our understanding is not good, probably we will still have the starting live together issues and yes, we love each other very much. Not easy for anybody, try to help your wife and yourself understanding better. Good luck to you and ... I hope good luck to me too

Congrats! And wishing to everybody a very soon approval.

You're neither crazy nor exaggerating. And fair or not, this is a serious matter as mentioned in an article in today's NY Times.
U.S. to Further Scour Social Media Use of Visa and Asylum Seekers
Good luck.

Don't stress about it. Occupy yourself and try not to think about the k1 stuff too much (except getting stuff ready for the interview) and it'll go by quicker than if you obsess over it

America: Love It or Leave It!
Nobody is forcing you to come or stay here.

America: Love It or Leave It!
Nobody is forcing you to come or stay here.

I hope you get denied. This is our immigration process no matter if you think it is unfair or obsoletr it is ours. Also how does the U.S. disrespect your country's sovereignty? If you think the country you are trying to immigrate to is so bad then stay at home in your own country.

You're implying that's it's ok to come here knowing that this is the plan....it's not. Additionally,there is no 60 90 day rule, that's false despite what you think. This is fraud...everything you're implying. Don't give out this advice.

There is no fraud if a person acquires a B-2 Visa with the intent to travel to the US and get Married. That is one of the things allowable on the B-2 Visa. Fraud ONLY comes into play if the person acquires the B-2 Visa and enters with the intent of adjusting status. He is more than welcome to enter on a B2 Visa, get married, and return home to wait out the IR1/CR1 process.

No the K1 does not FORCE anyone to get married. If you get here and spend some time with your fiancee and decide that it's not working out, don't get married and leave within 90 days of arrival.
Many people have cold feet right before they are about to leave their birth country. Many people question their decisions as well which is why people get homesick. It happens but that doesn't mean your decision was bad or wrong, but it may mean that you have a hard time with change.
So I suggest the OP go to the USA and discuss things with his fiancee. If they don't get married, at least things were sorted out face to face. He can still get a B2 visa later if that is needed.

I think you're just having "cold feet". Its natural to be nervous before getting married.
Immigration is stressful, but marriage in and of itself is also stressful. I think many people in immigration situations tend to conflate the two. Nerves before getting married? It must be immigration. Marriage not working out? Must be immigration. In reality, 2 US citizens about to get married get nervous. Think of all the American movies about runaway brides or grooms. 2 US citizens who are married get divorced, all the time, in the US. It may be hard to tell if its your natural emotions as a human about to take 2 big steps-leaving your country and getting married.
My advice is go through with it! Otherwise you'll end up wondering "what if". If it doesn't work out, no harm no foul.

This is bad advice! i dont think he should cancel his visa and reapply for a B2!!! WTH? the OP said he just wants to know what happens before he jumps into something.
You have a K1, you have a flight, and you love the girl? If you don't love her, don't go! If you love her, go and see what will happen! 90 days is alot of time to fall in love (or out of love) You already have a K1, the US know you have a K1, so of course it can affect future visits. It really depends again on what ties you have back home when you apply for another non-immigrant visa. Whether you cancel this visa or not, applying for another K1 could be a bit harder but it really depends on how soon after you apply for a new K1.
If you marry her, once you marry her y get a 2 year conditional GC, then you get a permanent one after that. If you marry her and dont AOS and break up, then yes, you have to leave! the K1 is only for the person who brought you here, so you cant use it to marry someone else.
Honestly, i think many people have the same worries when they are getting close to coming here to meet their loved one. it does seem as though you have met your fiance enough to get a feeling if you want to be with her or not. Maybe just spend a bit of time figuring out if she is the one for you? Most people here did the K1 and went through with it, but perhaps your best bet would be using the search button in the top right corner to see what other people have gone through.
Since you were able to visit in the past, what is changing your mind now that you have a K1?
Good luck, and keep us posted:)

I think many people in your position get second thoughts, my wife certainly did, and it wasn't because she did not love me, but rather she was going to leave everything she knew behind just to marry me. What if I was a horrible person? What if things did not work out? What would happen? It's perfectly normal to be experiencing a bit of anxiety and cold feet. I remember my wife calling me a week before her flight asking if she could wait one more month to fly. I told her, "Baby, you need to do this now, because if you do not, you never will get on that plane. I am a good man and will always take care of you. We'll visit your family and friends every year, so think of it as a long vacation in the USA." She did get on her scheduled flight and had no regrets since. In my opinion, marry her, if she is truly the love of your life. You will have no regrets and all your current fear and anxieties will soon fade, trust me.
Now to answer your questions:
1.) What I'd like to know is what will happen if I don't use my visa. Will it affect my future trips to the US if I don't use the visa, if for example I don't take that flight and the visa expires, or if I go there, don't get married and come home again soon after, within the 90 days? Or if we simply break up and I want to visit the US a year or two or ten from now, what will happen? What if I then eventually meet a different US citizen and we want to get married, am I out of chances?
Well here's the thing, if you do not use your visa, it expires and you will have to start all over again. You can however, ask for an extension on your visa before it expires, but you should do that at least a month before. Also, should you decide not to use the visa, it could be slightly problematic to visit the USA, as a K-1 visa shows immigrant intent. On the other hand, by not using the visa, it could also prove that you have no interest in staying in the USA, and would return home. It's a catch 22, and something you need to prove to a CBP officer upon entry.
If you do use your K-1 however, and decide not to marry in 90 days, you simply leave the country. If in the future that you decide to do another K-1 (with the same person), you may face a bit of scrutiny as to why you did not marry in the first place. If you meet another US Citizen within a short period of time after your first K-1 attempt, and decide the K-1 route, a CO may see your case as you simply trying to enter the USA by any means possible, and you would face extra scrutiny. But scrutiny can be overcome with solid evidence.
4.) Will I default back to a B2 visa or ESTA?
Your B2 will be canceled the moment you enter the USA on a K-1, so my guess is you would fall back to ESTA. Note that getting another B2 may be difficult as you already proved immigrant intent by using a K-1visa.
5.) Worst of all, what if we do get married and then divorce? I know I'd have to leave, but what would happen if I came back, to visit or through another visa, in future?
Well that all depends, really if you received a green card or not. If you received your green card, you can stay. If you did not remove your conditions on your 2 year green card, you can always divorce and remove conditions based on divorce if you can prove you entered the marriage in good faith. If you divorce before your status is adjusted, then yes, you have to leave. As I said before, your entering the USA would be based upon your convincing the CBP officers that you intend to return to your home country after your visit.

He will be able to travel once he receives his advanced parole and he will get it in a combo card with his work authorization. The EAD/AP combo card will arrive in about 3 months after filing for AOS. His green card will take much much longer than 3 months to receive.
He needs to bring a copy of the EAD/AP combo card upon his return to the US. It would probably be best to also carry a copy of his marriage certificate and AOS receipt notice.

ummmmm wrong, why would age difference be fraud???????? I am 21 years older than my middle eastern husband and he has not one single problem getting his cr1 visa. Explain to me why it's fraud?

You shouldn't have a problem as long as you have solid genuine evidence. It's always best to front load if there is a red flag issue. Maybe the interview questions might be a little tougher so be prepared (study the evidence you submit) also make sure you have quality evidence. Wish you the best!

It looks like she is under too much stress. Immigration is not easy for anybody but some people suffer much more or never adapt to the new country. As a husband, help her, help her to feel more welcomed and also as in her own country, at the beginning she needs her church, her friends, her language and her cooking, not easy for her and it's not easy for you.
Mixed marriage is never easy, I am here in US apparently well but all this long distance relation and waiting is freaking me out, all kind of doubts and thoughts in my mind, my fiance also has doubts and our understanding is not good, probably we will still have the starting live together issues and yes, we love each other very much. Not easy for anybody, try to help your wife and yourself understanding better. Good luck to you and ... I hope good luck to me too

Why do anything for anyone if they aren't going to appreciate it? What makes people go to work? Because they need money. If there is no motivation to do something, then why do it?
Appreciation is showing someone you care or a simple thank you or a cup of coffee. Or being sympathetic towards your spouse when he has shingles, which is the worst pain I have ever experienced. It is just as bad as the motorcycle accident I had back in 2003.
And you can only ring the bell of leaving friends and family etc. so many times before you cannot ring it anymore.
My wife worked as a dental assistant, having obtained a 4 year college degree, for the measly sum of 4000 pesos which is about $94 a month. That includes overtime and sometimes 7 days a week without overtime.
She rented a room the size of my bathroom(I live in a 1 bedroom apt). No tv, Internet, phone, microwave etc. She lived 7 and a half hours away from her family, which is in pangasinan. I had to give her money to go see them during the holidays of 2014.
She didn't pay not one peso or dollar towards anything. I had to buy her passport, luggage to come here, everything. Additionally, I am paying for her younger sister to go to college who I have only met on skype, because her family doesn't have the money.
My wife didn't even know what her real birthday was until I took her to the NSO to get her birth certificate for the k1 process. Picture going through your life and your mother told you that your birthday was 2 months earlier than it was.
So I don't want to hear about what she gave up to come here. Believe me, if what they had was so great, there would be no way they would travel 8,000 miles to come here.
I am her and her sisters' benefactor no matter what way you slice it. Her family isn't doing diddly squat for her. She was on her own at 15 when she graduated high school. She maybe went home to see them twice a year.
I gave up everything I wanted to do for a year and a half to give her a better opportunity.
Additionally, I live in Las Vegas where there is a sizable pinoy community. But, there are a lot of bad influences here. This city chews up and spits out grown American adults like they were nothing with the gambling, drinking etc.
An example of this: I have a work friend who got involved with a pinay here. She came to the USA 7 years ago on a k1. She divorced the petitioner. He allegedly physically abused her. She didn't file for VAWA. The government gave her a one year extension to remove conditions. She never did. So 4 years later, she has no job, money, car, status, license etc. She is with my friend only so she can stay in the USA. She uses and abuses this guy, but he is happy to have a girlfriend so he takes the abuse.
She drinks, gambled and smokes, which a good pinay would never do in their country.
This is the woman my wife was hanging out with and giving my wife advice, which because they are both pinay, they listen to each other like it is the gospel, rather than me. Eventually, I put a stop to it but I had to be cautious because I am/were friends with the guy and we work together.
Most Filipinos in Vegas gamble and drink like there is no tomorrow. They are one day millionaires. Now to be fair, it isn't just Filipinos, it is 90% of the population here that do this. However, I only mentioned Filipinos due to the fact of they follow each other's advice no matter what.
Granted, I have been overprotective of her because I want her to be successful and productive in her new life.
The way it stands now, I want to protect myself financially, physically and emotionally from the fallout of her getting AOS and having the upper hand. If I cut bait now and she doesn't get the 2 year greencard, she can go home and I can chalk the whole experience up to a lesson. But if she stays, adjusts status, she will gain rights that can potentially be disastrous for me.
When we go out in public and I see a Filipino, I try to get my wife to talk to them and maybe make a new friend, but she resists. She doesn't want to talk to anyone over 30 because they are old or she doesn't want to be bothered.
As far as my sickness, there is no sympathy or compassion. 20 years from now if I become ill, I do not see her as being the type to take care of me. The outlook is I will be stuck and responsible for an ice cold, unsympathetic woman who will take me to the cleaners. All the love and companionship isn't worth it in my opinion

Has anyone experienced an ungrateful pinay, k1 wife? My wife has stressed me out with waiting for her ead combo card that I have shingles now, which is unbelievable pain. Everything is the end of the world. The Philippines is so great.
She got the combo card today, and I find out about it because she posted on her Facebook about it. No thank you, no I am sorry you are sick, nothing.
She has been asking to go back to the Philippines and I told her to wait until she can work and she can pay for her ticket back. I am not spending any more money on her. She isn't a gold digger and could care less about being a citizen.
She is just a stubborn, immature province girl that cannot be confronted when she does something I dislike. She is the queen of Tampo. A simple comment of how I feel something is lacking on her part turns into days of silent treatment. She complains that she is stuck in the house without work for 8 months.
We had no rfe's during fiancé visa or AOS. I am working 2 jobs to support us. We eat Filipino food 24 hours a day. She has a great internet connection and the top of the line pinoy directv package. I have done everything I can to make her comfortable while she is waiting to adjust status. She believes every word that comes out of another pinoy/pinay's mouth as the gospel as opposed to anything I have to say. I even have a good job lined up for her that starts at $14 hour.
No thanks, no compassion, just stress and drama. I think now that she has a travel permit, she needs to work and take a visit back to the Philippines to appreciate what I am trying to do for her. Can she travel with the advance parole before AOS and come back without trouble? I am under the impression that if I don't go to the AOS interview and pull the affidavit of support, she can go back and I am not responsible for her anymore?
Opinions anyone?
My friend I don't think she was the cause your shingles, or does she owe you any thankfulness for being brought to the USA. Put yourself in her shoes, she gave up her family and all her friends to be with you. Sounds to me like she is having culture shock and things just didn't turn out like she expected. I'm also guessing since 95% of the time fiancees from Philippines are going to expect you to allow them to help support their family, that she feels caged and unworthy of helping them.
This is the culture of the Philippines, and why many younger women from there are willing to marry older men from different country. Philippines is a country that is very friends and family oriented, it might be poor, but no amount of money or possessions can replace their love for family. My advice is for you to talk to and listen to her needs and what she feels she is lacking whether friends, family, job etc.
I don't think she is using you because of her willingness to go back to Philippines, which means she is willing to live in poverty than to live the life she is living now in the USA. Solution I believe is get her connected with other married Filipino local groups and spend time with other couples together. Allow her to work at least part-time in order to help her family, or you will have them against you too.
Love and marriage is not about what you can get from somebody but what you are unconditionally willing to give, and yes this applies to her also. Just be cognoscente of everything she has given up in order to be with you. If after you have examined yourself and truly tried to understand her and supported her needs and her supporting your needs. Then decide on what steps to take if things don't get better, but I believe they will, I think the bottom line here is she feels alone and trapped at home.